I believe a sub's pleasure and satisfaction should come from good service and not physical satisfaction.

Often, I'm more thrilled by the effect my caresses can have on a sub, controlling her breathing, make her body jump, etc... than I would be after the best blowjob.  My satisfaction comes from the accomplishment I've done.  I love sensual games and sensory deprivation, which include a balance of light pain and extraordinary touches.

I believe it should basically be the same for the subs.  Yes, I'll usually make sure the sub gets her share of physical pleasure... but it's not always the case.  For example, if I wake up with a hard-on... I'll have the sub taking care of it with her mouth (nothing nicer than a cum-lined mouth wishing you 'Good morning Daddy!').  I consider that part of her duty and services, not a session.  But that sub should feel enough satisfaction from a job well done not to worry about her dripping pussy or be frustrated.

I believe submission is a gift.  I don't believe in forcing someone into submission and trying to reduce her rebellion.

But not anyone can be dignified with such a great gift.  Submission is the end of a process that begins first and foremost by respect.

Respect is the simpliest thing when you live in society, it's social grease that allows everything to run smoothly.  In BDSM, it's the very basis of the interaction.  First, in contacts with the other.   Both parties need respect in communication, that includes not hurting the other's eyes with horrible typos or badly constructed sentences.

Once respect is given and acknowledged, trust begins to settle in.  The best method to increase trust?  Respectuous time.  The more time you'll be respectful, the more trust you will gain.

When there is enough trust (that can vary greatly depending on the goal... if both parties only want an affair, that could be done quickly... if both want a long-term relationship that will take more time to bank), submission really begins to appear.  Yes, there are people who would be submissive more easily, it's by nature... but they also learn that by giving that away too easily they can get hurt (in more than 1 way).

I'm more of a Daddy type Dom... I don't like violence or pain.  I can use force to impose my will from time to time.  I prefer to teach than to correct.  I like to guide and help someone grow.

I would have loved to be born earlier... to be able to live through the 50s... that era was much more simple.  Everyone knew their role and was happy.  I like the idea of paternal authority controlling everything and always be right.  Daddy knows Best.

On this rainy boring day, some thoughts about BDSM in general....

Most people see Doms are users of the subs, being there only to take what the sub has to offer... and many view the subs only as cum buckets.  I view Doms are a protector, a shield.  I think the Doms should take all the decisions and actions required for their sub to be able to concentrate on what should be their ultimate mission... please their Dom on all aspects.  Only once a sub feels safe and is worry free can she fully devote herself to her Master.