SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY!!
1. I am not a frelling teenager who is willing to play games.
2. Do not contact me unless you are serious about being collared by me and ONLY me. I understand the need to get to know someone and possibly speaking to a few people at a time in the beginning, HOWEVER, from the moment you say you want me... communication with other dominants is to CEASE until a formal offer is made or until I reject you. It is disrespectful of me and any other party involved and it is disrespectful of yourself. Some of you, that is an improvment upon your character, but it is not on mine!
3. DO not message me 80 times in a minute and if I have read your message, just because it takes me longer than 10 minutes to respond is NO indication of my wants.
4. If you are not a dominant and you approach me, DO NOT CALL ME LYSSA!! DO NOT CALL ME ANYTHING OTHER THAN MISTRESS!!
5. If you are a dominant and you approach me for whatever reason, DO NOT DEMAND I SPEAK WITH YOU, DO NOT REQUEST ANYTHING OF ME. Yes, I want friendships with other dominants...this does not mean I will have sex with you. It does not mean I will allow you access to one of my subs and it does not mean you will get me to switch for you.
6. If you have asked for me to be your Mistress you will be given a set of rules....FOLLOW THEM or you will be shopping for a new Mistress, I do not play games. Frell with me and be gone. I am going to be implementing the BLOCK feature soon... think about whether or not you want to be blocked.
7. If we have any kind of misunderstanding from this point on, I ASSURE YOU, IT IS YOUR FAULT.
8. Honesty, Loyalty, Communication skills, some sort of higher functioning skills....all of these are REQUIRED for you to approach me.

Summary:
I AM DOMME....YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME
TREAT ME WITH RESPECT
IF YOU CAN RELATE TO THE WORKS OF THE BLUE COLLAR COMEDIAN'S WORKS, DO NOT CONTACT ME...HERE'S YOUR SIGN

If you have read my profile and you are interested in sending me a private message I suggest you think on this:

On a daily basis I receive over a dozen requests for my time from submissives and slaves wishing to be under my thumb...tell me why I should consider you.

You MUST have an answer prior to sending me that first message. In fact, anser this question within your first message to me or I will not even consider your service.

In addition to this new rule.
NEVER, EVER ask me to add you to my messenger. If you ask me for my YM ID and I chose to give it, you will add me. I am tired of low lives giving me their ID and telling me to add them!

It is past 6 am, if this makes any sense...


Recently many female submissives and slaves have come to me for advice for whatever reason.  Although I am a Domme, it is not like me to not advise, especially those who are new to this site and lifestyle. So, here are some guidelines for those of you females who seek guidance.

True lifestyle BDSM is a symbiotic relationship, whether it is 24/7 or routine meetings. Whether you are a submissive, slave, switch or dominant, the relationship has to coincide with the other.  True slaves derive pleasure from serving. True submissives obtain their desires through the service of their dominant.  Whether through worship, service, dedication or what have you, the relationship is a symbiotic one.  When entering into such a lifestyle, you should have an idea of what role you will play in that life and you should have already decided what your limits are. Soft limits and hard limits, meaning what you can be pushed to do for the service of your 'host' and the hard limits, those things you will not do, EVER.

From my time in this lifestyle and on this board, it has come to my attention that most and I say most have the same hard limits. Kids, which to me, should just be a given and common sense.  I am unique in my dominance as the pleasure of my slave or sub is also pleasure to me.  Many questions should be asked of your potential symbiod. Find out what they seek and make sure that their hard limits are something you are willing to life with.

Depending on which aspect of this lifestyle you are here for, True BDSM is a lifestyle.  There are some who wear it in the open and some who for the benefit of others in their lives must keep it hidden.  However you chose is best for you, be true to yourself and be careful when meeting others.  Know now that there are a lot of fake's on this board whose only interest is sex and kink and not true a true lifestyle.  Some see this as an opportunity to rape without consent and consequences.  Decide your limits and understand that dislikes can and often will be used for punishment. If you dislike something, it does not mean you will not deal with it. When drawing up your interests, keep that in mind. Hard Limits shall NEVER be touched and if they are, do not feel as though you have no choices.

Following the same guidelines, if you are new here on CM, Be careful.
Some people here have no guidelines, nor morality and have no problems pushing you far past your limits, instead of merely pushing you.

I have blocked the ability to receive chat requests.
First and foremost, if you want to chat with me, get Yahoo messenger.
Second, I will not spend hours in chat on here being stuck when I can talk to three of you at a time on YM.
Third... you do not deserve the right to request a chat with me when we have never spoken. DO NOT ORDER ME