Love to hurt you. - I am single, safe, sane and consensual. ?Drug & Disease free. ?(I know boring, not edgy right? We can get to the consent - non consent stuff later.)

Of course you have boundaries, as do I.?What have you to offer in your submission? ?

I am real life experienced, meaning D/s B&D S&M has been part of, or the central part of, multi year relationships and a marriage. I'm NOT married now. ?My kids are grown.?I'm from NYC, spent most of my life here and have lived in a few other states & countries. I know my way around. I'm?intelligent?and know a few things, but am still very curious. I can be a good?conversationalist and have a off beat sense of humor.?

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You may very possibly be assertive & successful in your outer life, very smart, but you will be submissive with me. It's also fine if you're not that way in the world. Perhaps you're the quiet type, bookish, or a bit weird or nerdy, with submissive cravings that burn deep.?
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You're erotically submissive, surely. A devotee works too. As far as I know, slavery is outlawed where I live and should be everywhere, so that may be a nice fantasy, but that's what it is. ?Don't misunderstand, a "slave like" heart and devotion is quite welcomed and often obedience will be demanded. It's that I believe in free will, even for the most subservient of souls. You'll just have to suffer with the burden of choice, well at least at the beginning.?

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You don't have to be a physical masochist. In fact, I'm not necessarily looking for a "pain slut", but it is often?pleasantly?surprising who becomes one. I realize not all subs are into pain. It's just a sensation. So is pleasure and for each the lines are blurry given the circumstance so it's something to explore.? I like to go slow. I love to tease. ?It's more about the freedom of your pleasure from suffering and service, and mine in giving you that. ?It's a dance that I lead. That's a metaphor, but it could be fun to slow dance with you bound tightly from your knees ?up while I'm kissing and teasing and spanking you. Aren't I romantic? ;) ?However, I'm also perfectly capable of leaving you marked whether it's for a day or a week and trust me, we will both enjoy that?immensely, won't we? ?

After all, this is about human connection and building trust, so if we become some sort of longish term relationship, which I consider along with the erotic, a spiritual connection, then this is also about helping each other along our journey in life and having some really mind blowing?pleasurable?fun along the way.?That said, I can be strict when necessary and a disciplinarian as that's part as well. btw, 'discipline' from the word?disciple?means 'to teach' and is often confused with punishment. But it need not be solely physical. I like mental control just as much. I'll be as much or more interested in your mind as your body. ? ??

I do love spanking...a lot! It's always been natural for me, from playful to long hard and intense. My hand, the hairbrush and the strap being my implements of choice.? I also enjoy slowly controlling how you dress for me, and corset training for a host of reasons not the least of which is how it will make you more beautiful and curvy. Equally that it takes devotion and is a constant form of?delicious?bondage. If you enjoy dressing for pleasure and to please we'll have fun with that.

I'm sensual and tender as well often seeing the erotic where many see the mundane. I can find art and the spiritual there too. I can get a hard on in a museum or a hardware store. I'm very loyal once I declare myself so, but that takes time and I'm slow. Slow and steady. ?I also enjoy much of what people call "vanilla". Spanking is vanilla, right? I'm mean like oral sex and fucking (why are they not on the interest lists?) and going to the theater, galleries, museums, dinner, the park, swimming, a hike, art, photography, travel etc ? You pack the picnic and I'll bring the rope, wine and cut the switches.?

Be single or divorced! ?If you're married, you'll need a note from your husband. Really. Notarized.?Some think this is a funny joke, but I'm serious. I will not be a part of nor confined by your deception. Actually, I'm not too keen on married women, but I know that a few are in unusual circumstances so I don't rule it out completely.?

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This is to do with knowing and being known. Not only of the flesh, but through the flesh. The masks slowly slip away.?I am shallow I am deep. I put my pants on, one leg at a time. ?I'm not a cartoon of a Dom.?

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It was a surprise to me as well, but I've discovered I have a lot of Daddy tendencies when inspired by the right girl woman. It's not about role play, not about bigs and littles, or replacing your father, it's the nurturing caring helpful side of me. ?I also allows me to see the naughty and sweet or innocent little girl in you, help you accomplish goals and discipline you when needed.? I have some boyish aspects as well, ok some are bad boyish, but that's the aspect that keeps me curious and growing as much as my adult self. That keeps things fun creative and playful at times or serious 'childlike' play. ? ? ?

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In general I prefer to treat people with humanistic respect and I'm fairly easy going, except when I'm not, ha! and don't sweat the small stuff. ?In other words I don't see my?dominance?as a license to be rude or treat others in the world poorly. Actually I strive to be compassionate where possible. My dominance isn't born from fear or anger. ? ?

?I'd prefer to develop a long term relationship and at this point I'm open how that might be, but we must begin at the beginning. ??

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Write me. Talk to me. Complete sentences preferred. Multiple paragraphs rewarded.

Poetry optional. Honestly, I prefer a conversations and some banter after a few messages so I find skype talk,(not cam) which can easily be done?anonymously and free,?to be the most natural way of beginning to know each other as well a quickly eliminating those posing?as woman who are not. ?I never see the chat thing on here and it's wonky so no to that. ??

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Yes, I'd like to see a picture or three of you and will send mine in return if we hit it off.?

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If your profile doesn't explain, your reply must include what have you to offer in your submission. ? I repeat; ?If your profile doesn't explain, your reply must include what have you to offer in your submission. If you can't follow this simple direction or think that through .... etc etc. ?In the least, tell me what skills you have, what are your passions and/or what you like or don't about my profile. Suggestions and questions?welcome.?If you're unwilling to invest a paragraph or two what do you expect in return? ?

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