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| I'm about to give up on this site. Not much luck. Let me begin by saying that, humbly, I'm a damned good, patient, attentive teacher. I have a great sense of when to push and when to allow the student to absorb the lesson, or just catch her breath. By the same token, esp. at first, safe signals and safe words are helpful and I adhere to them 100%. And at any time in the relationship, no means no and stop means stop. having said that, it has been extremely rare for anyone to need to use any of that with me. As honestly as I can say it, if you are interested in learning about this, you would have a difficult time finding a better teacher. There, I said it and I'm glad.
First, no smokers. I'm allergic, even to the smell of smoke on your clothes.
There's no substitute for experience, and experience takes time. I definitely have the experience to know what I'm doing.
I've been involved in one very long term, very successful M/s relationship, and a couple of others that were fine, but never quite reached that stage. Love to make another successful real time long term happen. At the same time I enjoy working with newbies and relative newbies. I believe that this lifestyle has a great deal to offer to certain people and if all that happens is that I give you a really good intro to the lifestyle, I've done some good.
What am I seeking? Well, TPE would be nice but it doesn't start that way. It starts with two people meeting and it goes from there... or sometimes it doesn't. I believe that if one goes in completely focused on "I want this and nothing else", it probably makes it more difficult for the relationship to develop. So I want to meet you. I want to get to know you. I want to take it one step at a time and see how many steps we can take. If we take all of them, that's great. If not, that doesn't mean it was a failure in any sense as long as we both did what we did honestly.
Weight is an issue. I am fit and I work at it every day. I'm mostly interested in someone with the same approach. If you'd like to get there I may be willing to help, but only if you're not too far out of shape, say 30-40 pounds overweight or less. Notice I said nothing negative about anyone. I don't feel anything negative, it's simply a preference.
I enjoy the mental and psychological aspects of M/s even more than the physical and I take pride in my creativity and in my imagination (and no, they are not the same). It usually begins, or seems to, with the physical, because that is easier both to give and to take than are the mental and psychological, but eventually the mental and psychological gifts are deeper, richer, finer, and more precious, both to give and to receive.
As I said I prefer someone without a lot of experience but that is not a "deal breaker".
Age? Be legal, be my age or younger. If you didn't indicate an age preference or age limits I may message you even if the age span is wide. That's a huge issue for some and a non-issue for others.
Smart is sexy.
If you're interested let me know. I will certainly do a lot of reaching out but it is really easy to miss someone in the mountain of profiles here; oh, I won't email repeatedly, if you don't reply I'll assume you aren't interested. If you initiate contact I will definitely respond, politely.
Three final thoughts which I put last because I wish to focus on the positive not the negative. Still, these three things must be addressed:
1. I have nothing whatsoever against gay males; I wish you all the best in your search. I have no interest in any sort of relationship with males.
2. If you are under legal age go away and stay away. Something you are doing as a lark can totally destroy someone else's life. I want nothing to do with you in regard to this lifestyle or anything else that goes on here, nor would any sane adult.
3. There are lots of scam artists pretending to be who and what they are not. It is almost always easy to tell within an email or two. I report all of you.
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