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| Intellectually, emotionally (and increasingly spiritually) aware, mature man who's far from a novice to alternative lifestyles and the exploration and enjoyment of our sexual selves as one aspect of breaking out of the deadening hold that "the machine" we're brought up to serve would have over our lives to make us uncertain and control us by regulating our inner-most sense of identity for its own purposes...
... I'm seeking (a) partner(s) who honor the effort, and are compelled equally to do the difficult and challenging work of discovering who they were born to be, what keeps us ALL from being and openly, fully living out the nature of that incredible person inside us, and to living in harmony with themselves and others excitedly, happily, creatively, lovingly, and deeply rewardingly.
If you understand what Jospeh Campbell meant when he wrote that we are at a watershed moment in human history, when we must decide, as a species, whether we will serve the machine... or whether we will harness the machine to serve us... we likely share a deep, intuitive inner aliveness and awareness of life as it should and, I believe, can be between us as human beings, as men and women... as the complex beings we are.
The partner(s) I hope to find here either cannot easily abide the labels of "Dom/me", or "sub", or "slave" that this website and the "BDSM" world has come to overuse and abuse in our search for sexual, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual union and companionship, and in our needs to find those with whom we can join in the overall love and joy of lives shared with a quality of existence that the "vanilla" world (itself a complex and indefinite term) prevents us from sharing, with its tabus and superstitions that only serve to keep us apart as though different species...
...and those whom I desire to bring into my life know, as I do, that such easy terms are almost meaningless and themselves only further obscure our individual variety and mix of personality and temperment that make us all individuals who need to be seen, appreciated, and enjoyed/accepted/loved in... and wanted and needed for - our very uniqueness...
... and seek more... they seek to celebrate with me and others the naturally complementary and harmonious differences that BEGIN with our being male and female and then find greater refinement in our individual characters... those innate qualities which find their expression in the real meaning of the i ching... of male and female each supporting and driving, and EACH subordinate (and superior) to the other in the simplest, yet most powerful manifestation and expression of the wholeness of life...and in the writings of so many... Kahlil Gibran for one... who warns and extolls us to ONLY come together as two complete wholes... who together choose to unite - NOT to merge - to form a greater O/one, by which to partake - and become part of, AND help to generate - the light and energy of the Universe and all Creation.
Rather than say that I am a "dominant" male... I choose to describe myself as a strong male... a man deeply aware of, and powerfully driven by his innate maleness. In asserting that maleness, however, even in the throes and lust-haze of the deepest passion and wantonness in which lovers can become lost in feeding on and slaking their most primal needs through each other, I prize my humanness still. I abhor the simple-minded, barbaric, unintelligent macho bravado, brutality, and almost psychopathic/sociopathic lunacy of the id set free in so many, here, without modification by the rest of their psyches and souls. TOO many here shout out boastfully and proclaim proudly that they will only too willingly inflict not merely sadistic desires and urges, but beastially extreme, horrifying hostility and hatred on others, and do so with near insane intensity on the weak and insecure as though it were a virtue. Being fully and powerfully"male" and "a man" does NOT mean that we do not also need, ALONG with our male assertiveness, to live out, express, and RECEIVE gentleness, tenderness, compassion, and share devotion to "the other's" happiness and pleasures, and feel equal concern for the welfare and needs of both ourselves and our partners with them... and anyone truly devoid of and unable to share those qualities with his/her partner(s) is LESS than human in my opinion. There is a HUGE difference between a partner/lover... and "prey".
I seek partners who are equally aware and fiercely proud of their femaleness, demanding from a man equal respect for and returned worship of their equally powerful, oppposite nature that needs to attract to themselves, to draw inward, and to offer, open and give themselves to a man's essential and powerful needs and drives, so to be taken, used fully, and deeply enjoyed in ALL aspects of that femaleness by the maleness in him that they adore, hunger for in order to be fulfilled sexually, emotionally, and spiritually, and in order to fulfill their "mate" in return. But I seek partners who also, once having fulfilled a man's sexual needs, and BEEN fulfilled of their own, yearn to share the rest of life in ALL their complementary differences as man and woman, knowing that "sex" is but one aspect of a couple's full partnership and existence, and that the real, larger, heroic, and more fulfilling pleasure, and the true romance and power of being "O/one", lies in living out the fullness of life together... in the everyday things as well as in the grand... and even grandiose.
I strongly believe that, just as I would not irrationally brutalize another human being of EITHER (or any) sexuality, NO person, and certainly no woman - even those whose needs are so immensely powerful and urgent as to crave utter loss of will and sexual "enslavement" to be used and mated constantly and with violence and abandon - deserves, beyond those moments of pure passion and lust, to be then stripped entirely of her humanity and humanness and treated as less than human... to be taken used, abused, bruised and battered, and then chained or caged, and kept - outside of "play" - in the most primitively deprived physical, emotional, and spiritual conditions. At least I have no desire to do so or to have a partner who desires to be treated in that way.
In short I seek (a) partner(s) with a balance of intelligence, self-awareness, personal dignity and self-respect, of hungry, raw, lustful sexuality and great NEED of having and being the partner of a man... and his lover... (a) woman(en) of needs equal and complementary to my own to explore and understand her complete identity as a human being, an individual, AND as we are male and female - and to help to create with me and between us the most natural harmony we ARE intended, I believe, to bring to our pairing through sharing ALL of those aspects of life... partners capable of equal warmth and caring... partners, companions, and counterparts of equal passion and desires to share themselves with others, unfettered by outside "vanilla" restrictions and inhibitions, both in the freedoms and pleasures of this lifestyle AND in the rest of life, who yearn for and seek to be fully "themselves" at ALL times... to be respected and loved for doing so, and to NEED to equally love and live with others in the same spirit.
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