I am curious….what makes a man want to submit to a Woman? What is it that makes him suffer for her amusement…...suffer for her pleasure? What is it about a woman that makes a man want give up a great deal of his freedom to show his devotion to her..….and his dedication to her? What makes a man want to suffer endless amounts of pain from the crack of her whip…...from the heel of her shoe…...from the hardness of her paddle….....from the current running through her wand? Why does he long to be belittled by her tongue…...told what a small package he has…..how little he resembles a “real” man…..how he can’t satisfy her so she must resort to “other” means? Why is he willing to give up his sexual pleasure in order to please her…..gratify her? The list could go on and on but I think I have made my point!

I am a 31 year old male that has always had fantasies of serving and being dominated by an intelligent, cunning, and crafty Dominant Woman. I used to think that encompassed being the typical “yes dear” kind of husband but in recent years, as I have grown, and did lot's of soul searching, I discovered that it was much more than just “yes dear”. I have realized that I need to serve….to be controlled…...to be punished…....to suffer......to do whatever it takes to please her…...not just say “yes dear”. This conundrum is what burns inside of me…..makes me think endlessly………what drives and fuels this desire to be controlled, punished, and pushed to the limit? Why is it not just good enough to say “yes dear”? Maybe I just need to experience it to understand it….but then I think maybe I should understand it before I experience to fully appreciate all the wonders that a Dominant Woman can show a submissive man…..I really don’t know? What if I miss out on something wonderful by waiting......by not waiting?

If you think you can help me or shed some light on my dilemma, please feel free to contact me. I am looking to talk to other people who are interested in Femdom....both experienced and inexperienced for advice, guidance, and most of all……friendship!