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| Hello, thanks for visiting.
I've been into kink for about 10 years now but it's been a part of me for much longer. I remember going to Disney World as a teenager and loving the Peter Pan ride, specifically where Wendy is walking the plank with her hands tied behind her back. It still makes me smile.
I've recently become reacquainted with the Myers Briggs/Jungian personality archetypes and how valuable they are understanding ones self and the people around you. I am an ENFJ if this interests you as well.
I recently moved to LA and would love to meet someone fun and interesting.
Some of my interests? Fitness and nutrition, team sports, travel, cooking, wine, theater, Star Trek, board games, karaoke, being silly, going dancing, and painting the town red.
Final thought: I never demand submission from anyone. I simply strive to inspire it to the best of my ability.
"Sex without pain is like food without taste" -Marquis de Sade
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Another super flattering message I received the other day:
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"Just had to say hi and complement you for being the single most intelligent person i have seen on the internet in at least 12 years."
So very sweet. It made my day.
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Appreciation
Having been around the block now several times, I feel compelled to journal my wish to find someone who appreciates what I am and bring to the table as a person and Dominant and not focus on what I'm not/am not good at.
I met someone recently who was literally astonished when I revealed to her I didn't watch chick flicks. Now let me be clear, I can be persuaded to do about anything with proper motivation. But yea, when I'm out with my dude friends, were not exactly all talking about "The Notebook".
Girls of CM please consider that once you get to know me you'll discover tons of good things about me. For the love of pete, let those good things outweigh any shortcomings you might perceive I have (i.e. I don't watch chick flicks) and concern yourself with "How does this man make me feel?" If you can do that, we might just get along fine.
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Today's topic: Sugar babies and fake dominants
I see a lot of profiles proclaiming the awfulness of men who immediately expect submission. Girls, I am right with you. Fuck that. No girl worthy of taking would ever immediately give herself to someone who she doesn't trust.
On the same note though, you dear girls looking for a man to immediately take care of you financially, it is just as ridiculous. Do I make enough money to care of you? Yes. Would I ever do that without knowing you are trustworthy? No.
A man worthy of an exceptional woman would never pressure her into submission nor would an exception woman pressure a man into supporting her financially.
As always, just my thoughts.
LocQ
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I received the nicest message ever a couple days ago. So flattering I had to share.
"You are by far the most mentally attractive man on the internet...period"
If she lived closer to told her I'd give her a very real kiss for saying something so nice.
LocQ |
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So you live far away? A public service announcement.
I'm game to speak with girls who don't live near me but certainly understand the rules of dating still apply. Thus, after several messages I will expect that first, we will exchange phone numbers. I have no desire to only chat through this site. Texting and then a real phone call is a far easier and better way to get to know each other. Second, I will ask you to verify your identity, and I will be glad to reciprocate as needed, by taking some specific G rated pictures.
If either of the above gives you pause, no need to waste each others time. I simply wish to meet someone I connect with and know they aren't full of shit. :)
Until next time, LocQ |
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I found this on F.L and thought it was spot on. This describes me really well in my opinion.
Expect Me to engage you in long, sometimes difficult conversations about why you want this. About why you want this with Me. I am not going to be satisfied by "Ummmm...I don't know..." answers. You may not have to answer the question right away, but you will have to answer it at some point. And it will have to be an answer with some thought behind it.
Expect Me to discuss expectations, both yours and Mine. Are they realistic? Are they compatible? Expect Me to discuss My philosophies about D/s, and expect Me to want to discuss your philosophies as well. Is My style of Dom suitable to your style of sub? Is there some honest connection between us?
Expect Me to discuss your prior history and experience regarding past relationships, past D/s dynamics, past sexual history. Don't worry, I'm going to go there too - these conversations are never one-sided. We all have a past full of ex-partners, ex-lovers, broken hearts, emotional bruising; all of this history can potentially play a part in whatever D/s structure you and I develop. I want to know your potential triggers, so I can avoid them, help you cope with them...or possibly exploit them to my own sadistic advantage.
Expect Me to see you as a human being first and foremost.
Expect that I do not see the dynamic as the sum total of our relationship, but only an aspect of it. It may be a damned important and wanted aspect of it, but it will never be the only reason I am engaging and interacting with you.
Expect that I will desire and even require a relationship of some sort, friendship or otherwise, to exist seperate from the D/s.
Expect Me to take this seriously. I do not see this kind of dynamic as a hobby, a fling, something to try on for size and see if the color flatters Me. There are places that D/s can take you and can take Me that are sometimes terrifying, often liberating, and very Real. This is not shit to fuck around with, if nothing else because there are people, hearts, emotions and a shit-ton of vulnerability and trust involved here. There is Power here. A lot of it.
Expect me not to fuck around with that Power. Expect that when you are lying in a quivering mass of tearful flesh, when your world has narrowed down to the confessions and noises leaving your mouth, when you have looked into your own personal inner Abyss and feel shaken to your Core......I will be there to help bring you back.
Expect Me to not leave you hanging.
Expect Me to go down into the Dark with you, should that happen. (I may be staring into My own Abyss at the time, after all - We may go down to the Deep together, and We will return together as well.)
Expect that I will help you process your experience to the best of My ability, and to recognize when I am out of my league, so I can get you what help you may need that I cannot give you.
Expect Me to value what I have with you.
Expect me to treat you with respect and integrity.
Expect Me to laugh.
Expect me to laugh a lot.
Expect Me to expect you to laugh a lot as well. On my planet, if We're not laughing....We're doing it WRONG!!! :) :) |
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It's been awhile..
Today's topic:
Return messages.
I receive a fair bit of responses back from initial emails.
Yay me!
Unfortunately, while I always try to write personal, thought provoking messages, I consistently get back answers which are one or two lines and don't continue the conversation. Now, this could be because it's a dude (posing as a girl) and most dudes are bad at communication. I guess I can live with that.
If you are a girl and you do find me interesting, I ask you to please do two things. First, answer the questions I ask you. I'm not a creeper and I don't ask super personal questions in my initial messages. Second, ask me some questions when/if you respond. How can you possibly get to know me if you don't ask me anything about myself?
Cheers,
Locq
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Clear Recent Pictures, part deux:
I know, I know, Locq, you already ranted about this.
Sorry, it simply bothers me too much.
Dear girls, CM, although a fetish dating site, is still a dating site. Us guys are visual.
Yes, I realize there are so many creepy, old weirdos on here, enough to power a large city; but you did choose to join this site, as did I.
Please have CLEAR, RECENT, and Non-professional pictures of yourselves on your profile. You can't expect for a real Alpha type male you seek to expect any less of you.
Misleading us about your height, weight, age or anything else would make any man really worth having to run for the hills.
Be yourself, be proud of yourself and do the right thing. I put myself out there, please do the same.
OK, I won't rant about this ever again....promise.
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Dear ladies,
Dominate is a verb. Dominant is an adjective. There is no such animal as a Dominate man.
What am I saying? It's probably a dude posing as a girl to spam me anyway.
Forget I said anything. :) |
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Girls...Hard limits of TV sports are simply ridiculous. You want a man or not? |
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I immediately get creeped out by anyone who calls me Sir or Master on message one or for the matter day one of me knowing them. In most cases, it is an easy way to discern the fakes and/or online weirdos.
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I feel dirty (not in the sexy way) when I am around vanilla, religious girls |
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So, as everyone knows there are a ton a fakes and scammers on CM now. I heard this helps make the site more money from advertisers. This is unfortunate if it's true.
In any case, I want to let the few real girls left to make sure they have some recent, clear pictures of themselves. This is assuming they actually want to find someone on here who is also real.
When I check out a profile without recent, clear photos or if there is only one photo and it looks professional, I immediately think that it is one of the fakes.
I know it's a pain in the ass adding recent pictures but it could make all the difference.
As always, just my 2 cents. |
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I find it very interesting reading all the journals and profiles of girls complaining about the men on this site.
I'm not in disagreement that there are some serious tools here, but as the saying goes, a good craftsman never blames his tools. ;)
I challenge some of the subs on CM to reach out to the non-tools then. Rather then complain about the 10,000 terrible emails from awful Doms you receive, reward the ones who are genuine, write a personal message, and seem to be sincere in trying to get to know you.
Just my thoughts..
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Poor grammar makes me think you are either A) a dude or B) not very intelligent. Girls, please use spell check when you send me a message. I will do the same when I respond.
Thanks ;)
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I am not trying to insult anyone, but if you are over 150 lbs (unless you are 6' tall) I probably won't be interested. I work out a lot to stay in shape and I expect the same of my sub/slaves.
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FYI: if you are a dude and send me a message, I will delete it unread.
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| Age: 37 |
| Liverpool,
United Kingdom |
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