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**01/26/2013
Realizing this part of my life is ever shrinking, at least on a public interaction level. Mostly due to my own choices and the things life keeps handing me. Maybe its just time for a break to focus on other things. Don't be surprised if this profile disappears before long. Maybe Ill be back, and maybe I won't.
Those wanting to keep in touch outside of CM should message me to obtain my personal contact info.**

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1/6/2012 6:52:37 AM

Okay my little subbie boys (and girls too, though there are far less of you emailing me):

 

Recently Ive had a lot of emails asking me just what it is I seek in a male sub, and what it is my husband wishes from a sub as well. Im not going to lay it out for you in essay format. That is a discussion for me to have with someone Ive gotten to know well enough to be considering them. Also, I believe each person's unique interests, personality, and desires shapes what activities the Domme/sub engage in.


As a point of consideration for you, my husband is 100% dominant, there is no switch in him, so don't even think that is going to happen.

 

I do have many areas of interest, and those are listed in the likes/dislike column on my profile. However, I will add a little more in depth clarification for those dying to know.

 

Subjects which hold more than just a little interest for me include lactation, foot and/or body worship, some domestic servitude, sexual servitude, orgasm denial (only to a degree), and various roleplay scenarios. I also enjoy giving pain, but only when my sub enjoys receiving it. I dont inflict injury to punish- Im much, much more creative than that. And I really dont relish true punishment. As part of a scene, sensual punishment can be fun. Having to punish you because you displeased me, either in a manner deliberate or not, isnt my idea of a good time. Im not into heavy degradation, humiliation, or objectification. I wont use you as a toilet. I will take into consideration your particular kinks, wants, and needs. But I wont sacrifice myself to meet you in the middle. Obviously, if that is happening, we aren't a good fit.

 

I absolutely am not interested in cross dressing or feminization. It just doesnt push my buttons. If this is an interest of yours, I may indulge you because I like to see my pets happy, but it isnt going to turn me on. Just saying.

 

And as for my husband, all interaction with him in a D/s setting will be strictly of sexual servitude. I will always be there. Sometimes, he will be controlling me as I interact with you. Other times, I will direct you in service of him, myself, or us both. Enjoying clean up duty would be a definite plus. (I also have a pretty specific fantasy that evolved/was adapted out of something I watched in the first season of Spartacus- major bonus points if you can figure it out) And you must be willingly bi and attracted to him- I wont force you. That to me is the equivalent of rape, and it just won't happen.

 

I don't understand, nor have any interest in, cuckolding.

 

ALL of this aside, to be a candidate for my consideration, you need to be able to answer these 2 questions honestly, with a yes:

 

Are you single or in an open marriage? If you are in an open marriage, are you okay with my meeting her?

 

Can you be friends with me? Are we going to have a relationship outside of D/s? Can the same be said about my husband?

 

 

Once that is established, we can go from there.

 

These are excerpts from a recent couple of letters with other males, that describe quite accurately my mindset in seeking a male sub:

 

"The right guy is someone who I can click with and consort with and have conversation with. Who is respectful and submissive, but not a pushover or doormat. I like to top, and with the right person I have a Domme just waiting to rule with a firm hand. But I also like someone who is a challenge, who has their own thoughts and wants, who can on occasion leave the D/s or BDSM out of things and just enjoy me. Ultimately, enjoy us. So many of the guys I meet on here want me to be amused by their antics and tributes, and that to me just isnt what I want. Im seeking something with more substance, I guess you could say. I want more than just the giving or receiving of pain and kink, I want someone who is worth having subservience from."

 

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"As far as what Im looking for in a sub, I guess its almost like what you'd look for in someone you want to date. Someone who is honest with both themselves and me, intelligent, has a sense of humor, and is really grounded in what they're looking for. I dont mind limits and boundaries, but please have them figured out and dont expect me to find them for you! I also want someone who has a genuine need and desire to please me, can keep an open mind, is willing to be creatively involved in our exploits, and who isnt going to try and top me from the bottom. Wow, I dont want much do I? ;)"

 

I hope some of this gives you a better idea, and will be helpful in deciding if I might or might not be a good fit for you. Happy hunting!

 

L

 


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sexyrican
 
 Age: 29
 Belmar, New Jersey