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Hetero Female Mistress, 40,  So Cal - LA / OC, California
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LexiLabou - photo 1
LexiLabou - photo 4

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Must love Super Size BBW's. Don't know what that is? Do your homework before contacting me! We are not skinny girls and our needs are different!

  • I do not want to watch you masturbate on cam
  • I do not want to be your mommy
  • I do not want pets
  • I do not want or need an online sub
  • I do not want to watch you suck another mans cock (or your own)
If you want (or cant live without) any of the things listed above then please contact someone else. I have nothing against any of these things, they are simply not what I'm looking for. I am not looking to pleasure you! I do not get a thrill from watching you masterbate and would only make you do it as a control thing, to tease you with no release, or as a reward. Please do not ask me what I am into, if you pass my questions first then I will share. My Rules!
  1. you put up the effort and contact Me! (must provide pic before step 2)
  2. we send messages to get to know each other a bit
  3. we chat here or on yahoo
  4. we talk on the phone
  5. we meet in person to talk and see if we connect - no play
  6. Finally the fun begins!
Don't like the steps? Then don't contact Me!

I will respond to messages with pictures first! Be creative!
look for me but be aware!!! I prefer you contact me and chat a bit before sending a friend request to see if we have anything in common. If you send a friend request, I accept it, and then you have the nerve to ask who I am or how you know me - I WILL DELETE YOU! Thats just rude!

I've been getting a lot of messages lately that just say hello or how are you but have no content. Please understand that it is not my job to entertain you! Want to talk? Then please have something to say! Consider yourself a used car salesman and the used car is you. Tell me why I should choose you!!! I am very quiet at first and don't give out a lot of information because I am trying to find out who you really are. My needs vary and I don't do the same old thing with evey sub. They all have something different to offer so I treat each one differently. I like to really get to know my subs needs/ desires and I like to explore new and different things to. My thing is control so if you don't want to give it up then please don't contact me.

I'm not interested in anything long term, just some fun for now and then who knows. I need a house boy to serve me first and down the line maybe at a party with sometimes my other domme friends. I have been told that I am very self centered but I don't care. It's all about me!!! I have a thing for original one of a kind diva/ goddess wear. Want to know more, than ask specific questions. BBW Haters and Rude People's Wall of Shame: FYI - Its kind of hard to feel the sting of an insult when a guy cant even spell. Plus when racial slurs are involved it makes the person seem even more ignorant. toroloco wrote: fat pig. you look jest like that jew whore, rossane. cafr wrote: BBW? Bodacious, Bi-lingual WaWa? Response: No that's a bblww silly. noohyea - NICE rack/boobes/tittys WARNING: Any institutions
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- You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this.











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 Dominant Female

 So Cal - LA / OC 


 5' 6"

 350 lbs






Actively Seeking:

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Journal Entries:
6/12/2012 9:55:03 PM
I'm always interested in seeing the pics subs send. I'm often quite surprised but in a good way

3/13/2012 4:51:12 PM
Subs beware! There is a crazy person out there posing as a girl. She posts fake pics and messes with your personal life. TieAndUse she also has a pig fetish and likes to "oink". Some of you are into Dommes oinking at you but whatever! Send her an oink message, she will love it! LOL! By the way, if you are a BBW/BHM at least be honest about it. There are enough people out here who love and accept it. Why hide behind a fake Barbie pic? If they don't like it then keep your mouth shut and move along. Life is to short to be caught up in all that drama!

9/10/2011 2:24:51 PM

Sorry if it takes me a while to respond. I am working about 60+ hours a week and not a lot of free time at the moment. Things should slow down soon.

8/21/2011 11:25:29 AM

Really Guys? If you are going to attempt to insult me, at least spell the words right or you just look even more immature and ignorant!

From: toroloco  Dated: 8/21/11 11:18 AM   fat pig. you look jest like that jew whore, rossane.

7/28/2011 9:06:48 PM

It's been a while since I have posted anything. It has been a very busy summer so far and I haven't had time for any fun. :(

5/29/2011 6:51:34 PM

I had lunch with Mistress Elizabeth today. She is always fun to hang out with. We are planning some fun stuff and will be looking for some subs to help. I wonder who will be the lucky few?!!! Any Dommes want to join us?

5/22/2011 9:31:39 PM

Question for subs - Please tell me what you think of this message I received. I really want your opinion: "I saw your profile and became very turned on by it. I was wondering if you 'd allow me to pull my little man panties down so I can stroke and jerk my little cock off to your pictures. I'm very hard, so hard i'd do anything to please you, and I would love for you to give me permission to stroke off to your images....please...please...i beg you. I often pinch my nipples and think about a domiant mistress bending me over and using a large strapon on my little white bottom. Or a mistress humiliating me by making me service men for her amusement. Would you please allow me to jerk off my cock to your image and to thoughts of you using me...please...please...i beg you."

5/21/2011 4:44:05 PM

I've had a thing for spanking lately. Guess the stress at work is really starting to get to me and I need a sub who likes to be spanked hard. I like to be pursued. Prove to me that you are interested and are not a flake. I will not spank you if you are not local – come on guys, how is that supposed to work?!!

5/17/2011 4:18:32 PM
I am no longer accepting friend requests on yahoo. I am sooooo damn tired of stupid ass subs sending me frirnd requests, I accept them and then they have the nerve to send me a message asking me who I am and how they know me!!! WHAT THE HELL!!!

5/8/2011 7:59:31 PM

I had a good spanking session yesterday but I bruised my hand! Finally someone took me up on my birthday spanking offer. We had fun. Now dont you wish you would have responded?!!

5/7/2011 12:12:58 AM

tough week at work. more tough days ahead. need some stress relief.

4/26/2011 1:07:52 PM
Ok so as if the dentist wasn't bad enough, now I'm sick! I haven't been sick in almost two years and no one I know is sick so I blame it on the dentist with her hands in my mouth for 2 days! Thanks to all of you for the soup recipies, especially the potato soup, WOW!!!

4/22/2011 10:18:08 PM

I went to the dntist today. My mouth is sore and I need a sub to make me some soup. Anyone have any good recipes?

4/2/2011 1:24:29 PM
I decided to start a BBW Domme haters wall of shame. Some of the messages I get crack me up and I just have to share their stupidity. I'm sure you all could use a good laugh too. I will post these on the bottom of my profile. Check back for updates!

3/28/2011 1:58:00 PM
Any subs out there interested in doing office work? It will be in the Anaheim area close to Disneyland. Work includes filing, organizing, cleaning out filing cabinets and storage rooms, computer work, etc. This will be done in an actual office in the evening or a weekend so no sissy maids please unless you don't dress as a sissy. Contact me if interested.

3/24/2011 11:48:38 PM

Question for subs and slaves: is it acceptable for a sub or slave to insult a Domme?

Message from exploringfemdom:   Time to lose about 160 LBS. there is NOTHING dominant about a woman or any person who cannot take care of their OWN bodies. Seriously what planet are you living on? Why would I , a self respecting male sub want to serve a a woman who cannot lead by example? Why would I want to serve a woman who cannot get off the toilet by herself? Finally the thought of eating you and or making love to you is repulsive and sickening. You do realize that becoming a femdom does not excuse you being fat and obese. It is not a means to an end to avoid taking care of yourself... Seriously this is sickening and I feel sorry for yourself as you live in such denial you are only ruining your own life

 To my many friends and true subs: Any feedback for exploringfemdom? I posed this question to subs before and got some fabulous feedback! Its amazing to hear from the "real" subs and slaves. They have incredible insight and really understand what the lifestyle is all about. I have even learned a thing or two and am grateful for all the comments.

Thanks for your constant support!

From LD: Dear Ms Labou, I don't believe insulting a Domme is at all the proper thing to do. One must after all, just consider the source of another's remarks, and move on. If people just spent the same amount of time acting positive rather than negative, the world certainly would be a better place. Your beautiful, the one You allow to knell before You, should forever relish in his good fortune.

From Jonathan: Saw what the idiot wrote, that you posted in your journal. I had no idea there really were people that clueless. I mean I guess I did, but I try to pretend they don't exist. Sorry you had to encounter the jerk. If you get his address I'll go sock him in the eye for you.

From C: First, it is really offensive that people feel the need to be that insulting! I am sorry that you had to put up with that. I have a feeling that dude has a very unhappy and unfulfilling life.

From Eric: i write only in response to our friend, exploringfemdom, and find myself absolutely overwhelmed to consider how one might respond.  We could try to educate the lad as to how if sees only the physical, he might try his luck with the blow-up doll of his choice, or given his obvious deep and reflective nature, maybe we could simply stuff a pair of thigh-high boots and have fun seeing how long it takes him to figure it out.  In the truest tradition of how those with the least to say often say it the loudest, it would be a good laugh to have him explain dominance, or better yet, submission, but i think it more likely that he is not exploring; he's merely lost.  Ultimately, i worry that anything more substantive would simply be beyond his grasp, and a waste of Your time.  One cannot educate the intentionally ignorant, and there is nothing won by besting a fool in argument.  Such people never add, they only detract, and on the final tally, even the time spent dismissing them is a cost greater than their worth.

From Cape Cod: Never acceptable

From LA sub/slave: Well, to start with, and this is NOT the first time i have used this word, it is ultimately about being respectful. To serve a Woman, a sub/slave MUST be always be deeply respectful. Grateful. Attentive. But ALWAYS respectful. This guy was obnoxious for anyone, and clearly he will never be collared.

From Buena Park: Wow! What a horrible mean person. You should report him. You are very sexy! He does not understand how to worship beautiful people like yourself. He is just a very unsecure person. Do not listen to him, he is just being an @$$. I hope more people read your journal and sees how mean people can be. Again you are truly beautiful and sexy!!

From Illinois: Insulting ANYBODY in such a way is unacceptable behavior. What that person wrote is truly mean spirited and I believe it was written by an individual whos own self esteem is deeply disturbed. i'm sorry you had to endure that message.

From Trucker slave: That idiot showed his ignorance of this lifestyle Ms Lexi. This slave is very sorry You had to read that crap. To answer Your question, anyone that shows disrespect to anyone in this lifestyle, Dom/Domme or sub/slave does not understand this lifestyle. Especially one they know nothing about but judge based on appearance.

3/23/2011 9:40:51 PM
I need some help! I am making "cat o nine tails" and a few other fun items and need some feedback. Maybe even someone to try it out on and give me input on what feels good (or bad). Hummmmmmm....

3/19/2011 10:40:57 AM

I fellow Domme and I have decided to start making our own toys. We can never find exactly what we are looking for and if we do its poorly made or just plain ugly. We like things colorful, pretty, and personalized! I got the idea from a sub who makes them for his mistress (why can't I find someone like that). It should be a fun project but may need some help. Guess I will need some new subs to try thm out. Any suggestions on what to make? Feedback is welcome and appreciated!

Miss Lexi

3/8/2011 1:36:59 PM
Question: do subs expect there Mistress to be strong ALL the time? I have been having such a hard/bad week at work and I feel very beat down and emotionally drained. Some might think this would be the perfect opportunity to take it out on a slave but that's not how I feel. I feel like I just need someone to be strong for me, someone with an opinion and advice to share. Where do you think the sub fits in, or does he?

3/6/2011 1:10:20 AM

Had a fun afternoon with my Domme friend and her new pet. We had lunch and did some shopping. Hummm...  might have been nice to have a sub of my own there to carry my bags.

3/3/2011 10:55:01 PM
Are there any FA subs out there? Contact me if you are.

2/25/2011 5:58:46 PM

thanks to all who responded to my question regarding rude subs. Anyone have an idea on how to respond or deal with the situation? I am very interested in your opinions!

2/24/2011 10:22:38 PM
Question for subs - do you think it is appropriate to insult a Domme just because you are not attracted to her?

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