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	I have always loved tales of the Lewis and Clark adventure -- heading upstream, with little by way of maps, all in the name of exploration. As they learned, initial plans only get you started. It takes courage, creativity, and yes a bit of luck to make it all the way. And that, I think, sums up the journey of domination and submission as well. If you can't tell already, I like adventure and I like history. I hope that you'll be intelligent, witty, and willing to put with a few bad puns now and again. (It's okay if you groan, just don't throw anything at me!). I'd like to find the right balance between being responsible and trustworthy, but not being too serious about it all. I am often drawn to women who must be in charge for much of their day, or even for much of their life. Do you have those "I just don't want to be the strong one anymore!" moments? I have a cure for that! I am drawn to women who are open to exploring their interior rivers. I'm not a fan of "let's dress up and role play". I'd rather take you as you are, then mold you into something even greater. In the process I'll grow too, and (if we get that bit of luck we need) the sparks will fly. More about me: a young professional who looks great in a tie, runs his own business, and travels often for work. I've always been an athlete and a music lover. Ten years of experience as a dom, many fun stories to share.

12/30/2010 2:32:49 PM

Seven things smart, independent, sassy subs should know ...

1) You are almost certainly going to feel a tension between the part of you that kicks ass (and doesn't want to stop doing that), and the part of you that wants to be taken. A good dom will help ease that tension, so that you can embrace *both* parts of yourself. It's all you. It's just that one part has been center stage the whole time.

2) Although this will change over time, at first you're going to be nervous (probably really nervous) about even putting up a profile or answering an email. That's a good thing. That means this isn't just a game.

3) You'll get really frustrated, really quickly, with doms who you can't respect on an intellectual level. You need a dom who gets it, who can go wit-to-wit with you. Complete sentences and correctly spelled words from your dom wouldn't hurt either :)

4) Your urges may be so strong sometimes that you contemplate (and sometimes even follow through on) behavior that you never would have even thought of before. Perhaps you entertained the idea of just going out and meeting a stranger, or maybe you thought about dressing up and going to the bar, or maybe you almost answered a craigslist ad. Whatever it may be, just be aware of how strong the urges are. That's your mind saying, "Hey team, we really need to get out there!"

5) But your head will also tell you: "Woah ... this is crazy." That's natural too. You'll think things you never thought before, and part of you will wonder if it's wrong to do so. Answer: not wrong, not crazy, and not even that abnormal. Talking with the right dom will help you see this.

6) When you find that mental connection, you won't want to let it go. It will be in your head and heart *a lot*. That's okay. You're not obsessed. You're just finally getting to be fully yourself.

7) You may want to give up the search quickly. Not everyone, but some really successful independent subs find that their explorations don't become fruitful initially. And, because they're used to getting what they want, they wonder whether the search is worth it at all. It is! Hang in there.

There are more than 7 things to know of course, but these are a start. Want to know more? Let's talk!