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This dance continues, thank you very much! We are blessed indeed.
I prefer to eschew the labels and see this as a unique dance between partners who journey together on an erotic tour. And just as in conventional dancing, there is one who leads. there is also creativity, spontaneity and collaboration.
I am looking for a powerful woman who would like to lead. I am a very successful, strong and handsome man who just happens to find intense pleasure in following that lead, and in pleasing. I am sophisticated, elitist in the best possible ways, well-traveled and well-read.
Surrender is quite a concept for us successful power-types. It isn't about simple compliance, but about complicity. Sharing. Bending. I crave it, but not just with anyone.
I have been dominant and a certain chemistry can make me hungry to switch. Rare, but wouldn't that be grand?!
Finallly, like many, I am visually responsive. Who is to say what is pleasing to my eye. Must say I have a preference for natural women, meaning I love the look and feel of real flesh and meat, not umm ... water balloons. Some thoughts on the mindsets involved, but that's for a conversation.
So first things first. Let's see if there are those sparks that make us want to begin the dance with a decadent afternoon of conversation, good food and wine and .... (delicious smile)...
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Ah. Time flies. We are busy with travel, play, some work ... it's all good.
Happy Summer.
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Greetings from Italy. Spotty internet and too engrossed in beauty and we 3 to care!
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Italian spring looms. Maybe a Tuscan spring. Florence, art, good food. Life is grand. We may be looking for playmates for a party in the wine country too.
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Every now and we get the raised eyebrow, the "doubting Thomas" skepticism about our poly household. I don't get it. What is so hard to understand? Ours is a fully informed, all-hands-on-deck, everybody-in-the-pool situation. No one is being deceived, no hidden spouses who "know but don't want to know the details," no dirty secrets.
But then, those situations aren't really "poly," they just operate under the guise of being so. The only "poly" part would be the multiple partners. SO not the same thing. Rationalization works wonders.
So, to the doubters ...that is NOT what is going on here. Oh-so-far from it!
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Life deliciously continues, as I trust it does for one and all here. Yummy. |
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Hmmm ... haven't been on much lately but liking the changes to this site.
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Returned to the real world a few days ago after a glorious time over the holidays. Happy New Year one and all. |
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Happy Holidays to one and all.
Our poly trio continues to be a snug one, intact and ready to celebrate the holidays together. Oh-so-yummy.
Our particularly household works methinks because we are devoted to one another, our needs our met, and we really desire no other(s).
Cheers to a grand 2008 for all. Will be checking in from Tahoe!.
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I've been away from the site for just a short time and lo and behold, return today to find it re-designed. Hmmm ... do I like it? Nope!
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Time flies. Still basking in a Tuscan glow and the holidays are here! Hope y'all are having a grand time since 'tis the season and all..... |
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Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday. I have just returned - 'twas a marvelous trip and a great time was had. Astonishing, really.
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Off to Italy! Vediamo dopo!
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Not much to say today, other than am REALLY loving my life.
I really believe that anything is possible if one is open - open to others, to risk, to possibilities.
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So, have been asked many times about our menage, our "triad," and how we are making it work.
First, yup, it can! Well like any relationship, it does require hard work. With 3 people (and in this case, 3 highly successful, smart, savvy folks) the work is the same and is centered around communication, consideration, sharing, being open about feelings good and bad, about anything that could impact another. There's lots more of course, that's just "in a nutshell."
In our context the hierarchy for lack of a better word, (He tops her, she tops me, and sometimes they both top me) not only makes it all the more interesting, it actually helps. We aren't big on protocols, etc. what we are clear on is what we each desire. I can't articulate how at the moment (more in a future entry methinks).
We are still working many things out and we are doing it slowly, pacing I guess is the right word. No one is in a rush. We take long weekends together, and we will be traveling together. When the time comes, we are lucky enough to all have the means and flexibility to settle down wherever we decide suits us best, in whatever configuration that works - 3 homes/condos? 2 connected a la Frida and Diego? one large place? - who knows at this point.
Really, it is about being human and all that that encompasses. Clarity on desires and expectations within each of us and with each other.
Recognizing that first, then throwing into the mix our
collective smarts and intuition, common sense, our considerable life
skills plus love, respect and the desire for this life together, and you have we
3.
As I always say, life is grand.
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Contemplating Italy. Tuscan fall. Yummy. Yup, heading out soon!
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Fall in the wine country is such a beautiful time of year. All the seasons are gorgeous, but Fall is especially lovely.
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I do so love this dance we do ... such a delicious thing! Not just 2, but 3 of us communicating, exchanging ideas and thoughts and feelings - oh my but it is quite unique and yummy.
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I LOVE sadistic Amazons. I am in surrender to one now, a voluptuous,
elegant passionate switch. Who happens to have a master. Hmmm. Is this menage possible for the long-haul? Why the hell not we say! Isn't anything if
you want it badly enough? Stay tuned. Life is fucking grand.
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So I have been asked repeatedly to explain my non-interest in enhanced body parts. It is simple: I like nature. It is something I learned about myself and was surprised. Like many, I am first visually attracted and stimulated. And OMG, all breasts are mesmerizing. I did meet a woman who had stunning breasts which I knew from the beginning were saline-filled sacs. While they looked quite natural it was still obvious (and she confirmed) and I could also tell by touch and by the way they moved and looked during various activities and in various modes of dress. This was an incredibly well-done "augmentation," (that is the polite term, yes?) but at some point you can always tell. After that, while the visual beauty was still there, the turn-on for me just wasn't! Who knew?
Visceral - yup, it's about loving the visceral and I am an extremely visceral sort of guy. That's why I adore messy sex. I like meat, blood, flesh. I just knew I was handling sacs of saline. I like kneeling and knowing that I am gazing up at and worshipping delicious, fleshy, real breasts.
I cannot figure out the mindset that real isn't more sexy. And yes, have tried to eroticize this but --- it's like trying to be transported by the "Paris" in Las Vegas (and I love LV for many reasons) --- cannot compare to the real deal.
Can't do fake anything (people, leather, tits)! No blow-up doll for me.
Don't mean to offend anyone. It is a personal preference. And - you (some of you anyway), asked!
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To be wholly owned but also to be my own person. Not contradictory. To be me in the context of this yummy thing we design for ourselves. Not many people understand that.
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The ability to eroticize that which may not be an instant turn-on has been a revelation and an astonishing skill I am discovering. Think about it. The rewards are never-ending. Wow.
More later.
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Nothing beats the connection and intimacy of skin-to-skin but .... clothespins - what's not to love about them? And in the hands of a creative woman - oh so yummy! Still I must hasten to add, that it's the hands that I love best.
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Simply crazy busy these days but promise to get to answering emails soon <leer>!
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I find that pain can be meditative (for giver and receiver), a very
meaningful place to sink into. Not talking about the immediate turn-on
or what some might call "sub-space" (I really don't find these formulaic
terms useful). It's more about hmmm -- something about transformation and
liberation.
Bleh ... feeling inarticulate about this so maybe it's better suited to a yummy conversation.
I just know this is true for many and finding someone who gets this would be a blessing.
For now ... off to enjoy the valley's offerings!
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Additional note to end a day I shall not forget. I have been a lucky fellow here (and could not be more surprised!). I thank those of you who have written. I am slow on responding but read all eventually. And so this dance continues. Yeah!
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Picnic weather here in Northern CA ... nothing like a decadent meal al fresco amidst the vineyard followed by a dripping, sweaty "dessert"!
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There is nothing like the decadence of the wine country! Love it. Keen minds meeting in lust and passion ... yum! Love this quest.
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| Age: 40 |
| Daytona,
Florida |
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