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Hetero Male Dominant, 40,  Lake Worth, Florida
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Leodom

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Experienced guy, intelligent, professional, likes otk and verbal humiliation, role play, rough sex, breath control/choking (knows how to do it safely) seeks serious and versatile companion: Im a guy who can do opera house and fetish parties, outdoor activites and cultural events.


I am stimulating of mind and of form; I take good care of myself and am an avid reader, if you are similar we may click. I like submission in the bedroom, but not socially. Safe, sane and consensual or RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). I can provide references from people in the local scene if necessary.
I like women with exotic appearances, and you must be height/weight proportionate. I like to go to the FF parties in South Florida, and other scene events.

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 Leodom

 Dominant Male

 Lake Worth 

 Florida

 5' 8"

 170 lbs

 40

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 06/18/06

 04/19/12

Actively Seeking:

Friends Only

 Lives For:

 Fishing (Expert)

 Role Playing (Expert)

 Spanking (Expert)

 Poetry (Expert)

 Writing (Expert)

 Loves:

 Amusement Parks

 Going to the Opera

 Renaissance Faires

 Camping (Expert)

 Hiking (Expert)

 Snorkeling

 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Cane / Crop Discipline (Expert)

 Local BDSM Community (Expert)

 Humiliation / Degradation (Expert)

 Leashes

 Orgasm Control

 Public Play

 Newspapers

 Online RPGs

 Role Playing Games

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Philosophy

 Eighties Music

 Football

 Likes:

 Art Galleries

 Clubbing

 Fine Dining

 Museums

 Musical Theater

 Travel

 Volunteerism

 Climbing

 Dancing

 Martial Arts

 Weightlifting (Expert)

 Bondage

 Public Exhibition

 Gags

 Hair Pulling

 Knife Play

 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Objectification

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Vibrators

 Whips

 Board Games

 Chess

 Historical Shows

 TV Sports

 Web Surfing

 Body Art

 Karaoke

 Tattoos

 Archaeology

 History

 Liberal Politics

 Psychology

 Agnosticism

 Bowling

 Boxing

 Darts

 Skiing

 Wrestling (Expert)

 Tolerates:

 Hunting

 Running

 Nihilism

 Catholicism

 Judaism

 Baseball

 Curious About:

 SCA

 Horseback Riding

 Rafting

 Scuba Diving

 Anal Play

 Fire Play

 Needle Play

 Shibari

 Theatrical Scenes

 Nanotechnology

 Occultism

 Atheism

 Dislikes:

 Gambling

 Shopping

 Auto Racing

 Golf

 Hard Limits:

 Conservative Politics

 Scientology

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Journal Entries:
8/21/2011 2:08:58 PM

My sweet rapture received a great  job offer in Texas, and must leave.  It was best for her future, and so I let her go.  A shame it should end so soon :

 

"Full many a gem of purest ray serene
The dark unfathom'd caves of ocean bear:
Full many a flower is born to blush unseen,
And waste its sweetness on the desert air."

 

Thomas Grey, "Elegy written in country churchyard."

 

So, I'll start with simple play-partners again, and see how it goes.


8/15/2011 6:16:00 PM

Happily training/with raptureofthemind now, so not looking -though we do play with other couples and single sub girls.


7/11/2011 9:32:57 AM

quiz results: I think accurate

 

You Scored as Sadist

(((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) You like to hurt people and find it arousing. It isn't a problem as long as you find someone who likes what you deal.

Sadist
 
96%
Dominant
 
86%
Experimental
 
79%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
 
75%
Switch
 
39%
Bondage
 
32%
Degradation Lover
 
32%
Masochist
 
25%
Submissive
 
14%
Vanilla
 
14%

5/23/2011 3:05:10 PM

Updating my collarme entries - nine months after my last slave and I know my head is on straight about that situation.  I wasn't returning to the community until I was certain, and there was time.  Too many ill people out there already, and I am 100% real, 100% serious.  Don't waste my time if you are not.  I'm open to friendships of all sorts, and I can do casual attachments either as trials, for fun or if we both clearly understand that's all it will be.  But I'd put a priority on a woman who would be a life-partner -someone who is supportive, submissive when I wish her to be, but an intellectual, physical and emotional equal outside of our private sphere.

 

Here is an essay I wrote some time ago for an online BDSM zine:

 

 

Dominants and Identity

By AJB

 

            Forgive my navel-gazing.  I typically do not write these types of articles for Trufetish, introspective and philosophic writings on the nature of what I do, thinking my audience is better served by how-to features and definition pieces.  But my deadline is fast approaching, and I’ve wracked my brain for a new aspect of play to write about.  Perhaps next month I will write on forced orgasm/orgasm denial, gunplay, or CAC (carotid artery constriction, or choking).  Like any decently written piece of journalism, they will all take some planning, research and interviews, to supplement my own experiences and knowledge.  Tonight, in the most Rousseauean sense, I’ll look into my character and pull some of my thoughts, unclean or not, onto the page.  For I often think about what makes a Master, what others believe a Master is, and what an oddball Dominant I am, and I would like to articulate this here.  It’s not to magnify my own ego or to communicate to anyone, as if there is a reader out there who gives a nut, who I am.  It is more to dispel a few silly and often self-serving myths that pervade the lifestyle like turds in a birdbath, odious, fetid, obscene, and obvious to anyone looking with clear sight.  But hell, in a community where blindfolds are a fetish I shouldn’t be surprised many of our visions are occluded.

            “I am a True Master.”  I never hear this turgid sentence without thinking how loud the Ass brays despite its lowly station.  I am astonished that donkey-ears do not sprout from the crown of such pomposity.  Let me iterate here: there is no accreditation for Masterdom – no national board, no degree or certificate, no secret society to confer or knight, no course of study, trial by arms, rite of passage or quantitative measurement that bestows such a title.  There is personal and interpersonal recognition, and recognition within your local or perhaps even the national community, but even on these levels it’s highly objective.  You can call yourself a Master, and fall far short of what many in the lifestyle might consider the qualities of a Master.  Or, even worse, like a lout you can pronounce who you deem is a Master and who is not – and I know plenty of Dominants who, in a pathetic attempt to magnify themselves before whatever bottom they are using at the moment, play that game – most curiously, no one is a true Master but themselves.  If you cannot see through this ruse as a bottom, rather than brand the insignia of your Master on your ass, brand naive on your forehead.

            The association of Dominance with personal qualities that are frankly dysfunctional in an adult social world – arrogance, aloofness, haughtiness, emotional detachment, inappropriate or unwanted aggressiveness, a tendency towards manipulation or Machiavellian intrigue, lack of conscience – irks me to no end.  A certain amount of “posturing” is sadly necessary in our lifestyle, mostly to meet the expectations of misguided bottoms drawn to these characteristics through their emotional masochism. Go without it, and you are doomed to a lonely existence.  But a person who is constantly an asshole, in my book, is no more than an asshole.  We all know the type.  Not surprisingly, this type of Dominant is most likely to utter the sentence that opened the preceding paragraph – because behind any great degree of bluster always lies insecurity.  It’s a psychological trait most historically recognized by Shakespeare, whose Hamlet remarked to Gertrude, “I think the Lady doth protest too much.” 

            I believe you can be a nice guy and a Dominant.  In fact, being a gentleman should be one of the aspects of a Master, because being a gentleman in our modern culture requires a lot of worldliness and culture that is lost, refinement, and a degree of self-control.  And that final quality may be the most common word I see associated with being a Master – control.  Not the hysterical need for control of the neurotic, with its attendant anal-retentive qualities.  I am speaking of a quiet and solid self-possession, a certainty and a confidence that you act rightly in the world and make decisions that are wise and the best for all parties involved.  It requires that you listen more than you demand, because if you assume you make good decisions for all involved without confirming through inquiry and reason, you are no more than a dictator.

            Besides this quality of self-control, you should be able to earn the respect of others capable of respect and well educated in the lifestyle.  How can you achieve recognition of your peers legitimately?  For the sophisticated in the lifestyle, the sexiest tool is the mind, and an ability to learn and grow in the lifestyle demonstrates you have that vital organ.  Reading in the lifestyle is a private but valuable resource, and I suggest the following books as a start:  Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns, by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon; S&M 101: A Realistic Introduction, by Jay Wiseman; Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria Brame, William Brame and Jon Jacobs; and The Loving Dominant, by John and Libby Warren.

 This is only a partial list of the wonderful literature out there on the lifestyle.  Having learned the lesson of a lifelong academian, I certainly know that one must put theory into practice, so developing your skill set and some variety in those skills, whether it is bondage, role-play, impact play, whips and floggers, power play mind games, edge play, is crucial to being a Master.  No Dominant need be master of all skills, but a real Master has at least one area he enjoys and can participate with a partner to a decent degree of safety and pleasure.

Although the intimacy of playing with a committed partner will improve your skills, we learn best and discover new possibilities by observing and interacting with others. Some involvement in your local scene, whether participation in lifestyle support groups (like SPICE here in South Florida) attendance at play parties, participation in seminars or learning experience in your area, friendships with others in the lifestyle in part for the purpose of mutual learning, or informal/formal “apprenticeships” with experienced Masters or Mistresses are all ways to obtain experience and education. Above all, I think a real Master knows his own limitations, and will not hurt a bottom by reaching beyond his/her skill set.  I believe you should not get to play with the toys that you break, and this goes for whether you harm someone physically or psychologically!

            In the end, I’m secure in my identity as a Dominant.  I am a Master to one who serves me, who feels I deserve that title of respect – I have received it before and will receive it again, when I next find someone whom I’d even feel comfortable calling me that.  Because it entails some responsibility, a level of personal commitment, and a readiness with a given person at a given time. It may be a short scene with someone I respect whom I can release at the end, or it might be a lifelong commitment to a partner whose devotion would be rewarded with all of me, the Dominant me, the kind me, the vulnerable me, the knowledgeable me, the noble and heroic me, the powerful me.  If self-control is essential to the character of the Master, is not dignity more valuable than arrogance, serenity more than fury, and benevolence more than cruelty?

 


8/23/2010 12:42:09 PM
Someone hacked into my account and changed the settings - I had not been on collarme in a long time - needless to say they reversed my interests. I suspect a certain spiteful and crazy ex, who is quite the cyber-stalker. Coming out of that harrowing experience I'm just looking for new friendships now, with potential for future intensity.

12/3/2009 7:04:29 PM
Well, one of my wonderful girls, a good play partner, went off to live in Portland.  The other, the relationship, just has not worked out.  So I'm looking again, just play-partners and good easy times to start.

4/26/2009 5:22:14 PM
Last year's Beyond leather was better than this years - complex to say why, but both quantitatively and personally it was not as fun. I did attend some good classes by the whip-Master Rapacious, and learned to crack a bull-whip. As well bought a nice single-tail from Victor Tella I am breaking in.

4/8/2009 12:25:16 PM
Going to Beyond Leather in April - anyone else?

3/8/2009 8:18:35 PM
I should have changed my last journal entry a while ago. I'm at a point where I would desire companionship again - feeling my career is on track and it would be nice to share my good times with someone interesting. I'm in West Palm now, but may be moving to central florida - around Arcadia - in august. Not certain of that yet.

9/19/2008 9:58:00 PM
If anyone catches my profile, just letting you know I'm not actively looking, but I'm always glad to make new friends and keep considerations for the future open, as you never know what path you might take.  For now, though, I am focusing on my writing and I believe I have the companionship I need - just going to watch things develop for a while.

9/1/2008 6:31:05 PM
September trufetish is up, with my article on Dominants and identity. Check it out under AJB at trufetish.com  And if you liked what you saw, or had questions, write to me.

I think Singer's party was a success last night.  I myself - did not have the best time. Bad circumstances.  But I do think it was a good crowd.

8/30/2008 4:59:04 PM
Forgot to mention that the August trufetish is up, with my article on Ponyplay -- go to www.trufetish.com and look under AJB. Was at th FF party in August and all the naughty little schoolgirls looked fantastic.  Tomorrow night is the first night of Singer's Fetish Party, hosted by my friend Lady Dara.  Anyone in the South Florida area interested message me for invitation/directions. Many of my friends, experienced Doms and Dommes, will be there, the club is private, we have good bondage furniture by Azazel and it is being DMed by an experienced Dom (And I will relieve him when he needs a break). 

7/6/2008 9:52:39 AM
The july trufetish issue is up - go to trufetish.com for my article on caning, and another story about my "student" julia.  I write under AJB.

Still looking for the right one.

5/6/2008 7:43:36 AM
Anyone interested in my writing, or the writing of other South Florida lifestylers, check out the new web ezine trufetish.com  I have articles there on schoolgirl roleplay, fetish parties, spanking, humiliation vs degredation, and an erotic story.  Enjoy - and send me feedback if you did,

5/2/2008 9:25:12 AM
No longer training the girl I referred to in previous entry.  The dynamic outside of the bedroom was bad, way too dramatic.  So searching again.  I will be at art undressed in Miami this weekend - working at the truefetish.com booth (I write for this online magazine) and at the after party, The Good, Bad and Kinky Ball, I'm now going to be modeling some latex.  See you there!

4/21/2008 6:56:59 PM
Met a delicious little one who will soon be under consideration - she is refined, intelligent, beautiful, and knowledgeable: a good match for myself.

12/16/2007 1:27:11 AM
Will be returning to FL in January.  Free again and looking for new friends, play partners, perhaps more with the right sub.

7/5/2006 9:04:57 PM
I've met a beautiful little slave who I'M considering - a wonderful pert bottom, great attitude, and a bright young lady.

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