1. They are very interesting.

2. They are intelligent and considerate.

3. They make me horny.....even if they aren't what I am looking for.

4. They are complimentary, which I don't think I'm really worthy of, but will accept all the same.

Weird thing, due to an error, my profile said I was in TN and not VA.  I hope the change doesn't introduce mean people.  If so, I'm thinking I may need to get out to TN.

Had a very, very hard time telling one TN gentleman, who'd make an awesome boyfriend for this polyamorous girl, that I could not indulge in such because of where he lives relative to me.  As for being my BDSM lab partner, I have no idea if he had the chops for it, but the distance put the kabosh on that too.  He didn't talk about the BDSM stuff, I think he's looking for a girl who'll accept him and his kink.  But he just got to me with his questions, and he's a real stand up, hum-dinger of a good man, completely my physical type, abso-freakin-lutely hard to pass up.  Thinking about getting flogged by that or going down on that, alot.  sigh*

Someone finally figured out about my screen name.  Kudos to the fellow geeks out there.

I saw the coolest fetish.  A kinky snow white, a lesbian who likes to tie up all the princesses.  I'd hold the video camera!  Maybe I should expand into looking for girls.....hmmm.

One local gentleman seems to have the chops for what I'm looking for, and we're talking, he's not the super obvious looker, but I'm seeking enlightenment too, so fingers crossed and open mind.  Hoping the right one will message me.  Maybe he's from Maryland?  

Getting my glasses today, should I video tape me with them?

Some were very promising and folks asked some thoughtful questions.  The one about if I had considered training to be a sub along side my husband was really thought provoking.  I hope that guy writes back.

I even was flirted with by a lesbian out in SLC- other side of the country.  She said that she was nerdy, but she and her friends seemed like the match.com crowd to me.  I think real nerds go to a club, buy a drink, and don't have fuck one idea what the heck to do with themselves.  Anyway, that's how I feel when I go to those places.  I always stick to my people, meet a couple of new ones, but always feel like I'm not there,  like I'm on my way home when I hit the door. I just try to find the smartest, most similarly reacting people to me and put out the olive branch, do at least one stupid thing, see if I can get someone else to buy me a drink and just talk.  I guess that's why I haven't gone to one in a year.  

My stupid thing, in spite of it's stupidity, I still think would be kinda hot. If someone just came up to me in a club, tell my husband that he needs to make out with me for a spell, dip and kiss me before I can put up a fight, then ask me if I'm interested.  No one has those kind of balls.  I did that to a guy once, forgot to ask his girl though (didn't know he had one really), since I'm into the golden rule, and he was totally floored, a bit scared, hard as a rock, and went yellow.  

BDSM clubs, well.  I think I'll be going there a whole lot more.

Still, I've always wanted a girl, just not looking for one here, not now, unless she knows her stuff and won't play mind games.  

Other interesting phenom, I'm finding some people see switch and think sub.  Horny dominants.  Yeah, that's so not happening.  

I really hope I can find someone that I am attracted to and can trust.  If I could get someone who runs a demo at one of the BSDM clubs, or maybe a Black Rose Member with a history of helping out or teaching.  If he fit the description and made his own tool, I'd be like when do I get to meet you.  

When I mean big in my description, I'm talking the 2x and above crowd- seriously want to be dwarfed and need a big piece of back side to whip because I'm not that freaking accurate yet.  Getting there, though, practicing is so fun....  

5'10" and 185 sounds like a body builder to me, for goodness sake, I weigh around that.  5'8" or taller and 265-320 is more like it- linebacker.  I mean big, or bordering on big, bear type, strong, a bit agile, muscle under fat kinda guy. If he had long dark hair yum- better stop can't afford to get started on something I don't have yet.  Looking forward to putting a blindfold on that and having some serious fun. Looking forward to being over a lap like that.

:)