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| I am Leary, a 48 year old Canadian Male. I have been involved in the lifestyle for almost half of my life.
A Dom is someone who wishes to express dominance over someone’s life. But understand that being a Dom is a huge responsibility, and your priorities need to be more noble than getting sexual gratification. It needs to be about helping, bettering, and protecting your Sub. It involves an enduring power exchange dynamic that brings fulfilment to all parties involved.
Being a Dom is long, monotonous, frustrating, and hard work. Doms don’t have super powers over subs. Subs have brains and free will.
Identifying as a Dom doesn’t mean that every Sub will suddenly submit to you. If a sub is generous and polite enough to call you Sir, don’t let it fool you into thinking you’re special.
Don’t claim to have 15 years experience when you’re 25. People can do the math. Lying about your experience just undermines credibility and trust.
Leading a functional D/s relationship is hard and full of pitfalls. It’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes, rather than making them yourself. Being a Dom doesn’t instantly make you awesome at everything. Don’t be too proud to go and learn.
D/s relationships are a marathon, not a sprint. So take a deep breath; think and plan long term. And remember; patience is a virtue.
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