I’m looking for the perfect balance of freedom, opportunity, and personal gratification in my life. I believe in strong communication with one other of desires, fantasies, and discipline is essential! Benefits to both parties are a must!

Ok so I have decided to write a little more about what I am looking for. I know I am making the assumption that those who write to me actually read the profiles. But I have decided to be optimistic about this process and am writing for those of you who DO CHOOSE to read this.  I hope this clears some things up. This is long…so please bear with me!

I'm a simple man with simple desires. I'm a normal man who is submissive to a woman who inspires my submission to her and her alone through her personality.

I'm a pretty typical man. I'm confident and to the point, healthy, hold a normal fulltime day job, and single.

I love music, working out, hanging out with friends, watching movies, the arts.  I love the city (the closest I ever get to the enjoying the country or outdoor activities is a 4 star hotel near the woods).  I don't smoke or do drugs.  I have an occasional drink with friends but I don't party much.

I'm not into extremes in either direction. I'm not looking for casual sex.  I don't do the whole "community" thing yet and I don't really care about "experience" or how long you've been in the "lifestyle" – although that is important. And I really despise those who do this for monetary gain – but then again where there’s a demand, there’s a supply. So I’d have to say I despise both who pay/get paid.  What I care about is your personality and if the Dominance is a natural trait You posses rather than a theatrical trait You choose to portray simply because one is in the lifestyle.

I'm seeking a relationship based on connection.

I do expect to be a priority in your life though. If your life is too busy for me or you have difficulty with intimacy or commitment then we just won't click.

I consider myself quite the novice. But I do have enough experience to know what I like and what I want. SO please do not confuse my novice status as ignorance. That being said…I have a lot to learn, A LOT to learn. And patience in this situation may be of the essence. Even I get un-patient with my-self at times regarding my submission. I think the important thing is that I am OPEN to learning and I am even eager to learn more about the lifestyle and more about my own submission if She is able to tap into that mental aspect of my submission.

 I consider myself to be a natural submissive. I started thinking about this lifestyle in one form or another when I was in my early 20’s and it has evolved from there. I am secure in who I am. Now that I have said that…I will also say this. Just because I am not quiet, meek, shy etc does not mean I am not submissive. I have met many people who question my submissive nature because I am not what they believe is a “typical submissive.” (Whatever that is). All I can say is that I do not submit to the world. I will only submit to one woman. And I am content with that. So if one is not comfortable talking to someone who is talkative, has opinions, is educated etc., I am not the right person for you.

I enjoy a lot of things in the lifestyle! However, I am much more interested in the emotional/psychological aspects of lifestyle than the physical, although I understand the physical aspect of the lifestyle will also be a vital part in any D/s relationship. Please do not get me wrong. I enjoy the physical aspects as well. BUT…to me those physical acts mean so much more when they are within the context of a D/s relationships and there is more meaning behind those acts. Otherwise, it is just kinky sex. And I am looking for much more than that. 

Ok…so what am I looking for? First of all I am looking for more than a one time thing and definitely more than play sessions. I am looking for my definition of submission – I understand that only I would know my definition of “submission 24/7” however I think it’s essential to have that someone guide me to THEIR definition of submission through my eyes (not sure if that made sense). I know some people read that and are like “no way.” But when I say I am seeking 24/7 it simply means that I don’t stop being submissive once I step out of the bedroom. I have no desire to be naked, bound and gagged 24/7.  I have a very extensive vanilla life that I enjoy and will not compromise. This may be, the glass is half full type thinking, but I believe I can find a woman who can help me integrate the two lives in a way that works for both of us. For me it is more about the dynamic than anything else. And that can be created and sustained in and out of the home…in my humble opinion. As long as I know my place I’m happy. 

In addition, I am looking for something with long term possibility. Notice I said possibility. I know that that is hard to come by. I am realistic! But again, not looking for ONLY play sessions! I AM looking for someone who is interested in my submissive side as much as my vanilla side. IF you are only interested in hanging inside and spanking me etc. then I may not be the one. I want more than that. I am a guy that wants to be able to hold a normal conversation outside of the BDSM topic. The fact that I am submissive does not change that.

Discipline is very important to me! I think I operate best when there is structure. I know that when someone cares if I am on time, I am always on time. But the minute I see that no one cares, I stop being on time. I think I thrive on that structure and on that discipline. It is what I have craved for as long as I can remember. I think I will be able to serve better under that type of atmosphere. But I also see being submissive as an opportunity to be guided, to serve better,  but also to be a better person. And I think that discipline will help me in that area. 

I want to be a strong submissive. I don’t want to be submissive because I am weak or because I can’t make decisions for myself. I don’t want to be submissive because I am not smart enough to do the right thing or because I am too meek or weak to survive on my own. I want to make the choice to give up control to someone and I think there is a lot of strength in that decision and I want to be respected for that decision. I think it takes strength to be a good submissive, to put aside your own needs for the pleasure of the woman you submit to. I want to be able to be strong enough to lead my vanilla life (my friends, my family, my job) and still be able to go back and be the best submissive possible. I want to be strong enough to be able to fulfill her needs and to serve her to the best of my ability.

Lastly, being submissive is not synonymous with being promiscuous or slutty. I am not sure how the two became so intertwined. Also, creating a D/s relationship takes time and trust. If you believe that I should give up complete control the first time we talk, then I’m sorry. And if you insist on calling me a whore, slut, and/or bitch in your first email , please refrain from sending me an email. I may be submissive, but I have a heart, I have a brain, I have feelings and that won't be compromised by someone who does not take me or this lifestyle seriously.

I am someone who has a lot of passion for life, even though I don’t have the experience or knowledge some of You do. I love having fun and I would love submitting to the right person someday. I believe I can be a pleasing submissive with the right training. Hey we all have room to grow and learn ;)! I believe that I have the desire and the ability to learn with the right person! And i believe I have enough spunk to make it a bit more interesting!

Thank you.

I'm very discreet as I have a professional side to uphold, so a picture is available upon request after some email communication.