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Edit**
Added some pics of a current play partner and some leather work Ive just started working on
10m of latex on order, that will be the next hobby )
I am a Dom with many years experience in the scene who is looking for a sub or slave, preferably for long-term. Im easy going with realistic expectations, i believe in safe, sane and consensual.
Below are a few ideas i have on the lifestyle, its aimed a little more towards a slave or a TPE type relationship, more to give you an insight than anything carved in stone
- no matter how compatible people are, there always has to be a bit of give in take when setting rules and expectations and everything is always up for re-negotiation
1. The term Sir should be used as sign of respect, not be demanded at the start and finish of every single sentence. While you are free to do so, it is not usually a requirement. I know who I am and I dont need you massaging my ego and constantly reminding me. Likewise, you have a name or a pet name which i will call you. Calling you slut or bitch in a demeaning way and expecting you to answer respectfully shows immaturity and a total lack of respect on my behalf.
- Obvious exceptions being when you enjoy being called those as a term of endearment
Sir is used well at the start of a conversation to show ality or to announce an intentdesire to speak
2. The term Master is something that needs to be earned and should be used even less than Sir. About the only time i would expect my slave to call me that was after i have earned her respect and she was ally accepting my collar and accepting me as her Master. While i have had a few girls call me Master out of respect, it is not a title i have ever bestowed upon myself
3. Nakedness. Yes, the female body is beautiful to look at, yes, being naked can instil a sense of vulnerability but expecting a slave to be naked 247 is a little childish. There are quite simply times where it is not practical
- The orders Ive given my girls in the past is that anything to do with personal hygiene does not need permission. They are to keep themselves clean and smelling nice and can dress themselves in any manner they like from the clothes I have allowed in their wardrobe. Should they not be able to dress in a manner which I find appealing, i will either chose their clothes for them or burn 90 thus making the choice far easier )
- Obviously if your job has certain dress codes then that over rules etc
4. Being permanently kept locked in the house and denied a life isnt a Ds relationship in my eyes, dont get me wrong, i love long term bondage, tethering, resticted movement as well as the look of leather and chains on a girl and who doesnt like to come home to their slave? ) but, theres a difference between enjoying a kink together and forcing one on someone. If Im at work, what point is there you being locked in the house or even worse, being set pointless tasks to do while you await my return. Go to the gym, go work on your tan, study and improve yourself, do a massage course, spend the time making yourself a better slave and think on ways to surprise me
In a live in 247 role you would have certain agreed upon tasks which you would be expected to complete each day but these will not be excessive or onerous and as long as you are at home waiting for me at the end of the day, Im happy. If you are more financially independent and have a job or study etc then I am not going to insist you quit or deny you study time, nor do i think i deserve to have any of the money you earn
5. Being treated like an animal (well, except when pre-arranged ie, human pet etc) This has got to be the stupidest, non-dominating idea Ive ever heard of. Expecting you to eat dog food out of a bowl, making you shit in the garden, drinking urineshit... I cant find words to explain how immature and puerile this. Making someone do this does not make me dominant, it makes me an asshole and a lame, pathetic one at that.
- edit. sorry if it sounds rude, not kink shaming if its something you enjoy however i have heard so many wanna-bes stating how they would force their sub to do such things as proof of their dominance
6. Pain. This can be administered as something such as a kingFunishment, something kinky during sex , it can be used for discipline as a learning aid or it can be administered as punishment when you have done something particularly bad and deserving. Coming home and whipping you for the hell of it, slappingpunching you randomly, unwantedundeserved pain etc is not a turn on for me. I have met a few girls who like this kind of treatment however its not for me
I like inflicting good pain onto a willing masochist, i do not get a kick out of inflicting bad pain onto someone who does not enjoy it.- not all punishments need to be severe nor do they have to involve pain, ive got some incredibly good ones which rarely need to be used twice and some minor ones used more often for simpler infractions
Basically, any girl of mine will be expected to be pro-active in their attitude to serving me. They will be respectful to me and treated with respect themselves. They will be controlled, guided, moulded and nourished and urged to grow. They will do what theyre told when theyre told, not from fear but rather from respect and trust. They will be submissive in nature such as kneeling at my feet when otherwise un-occupied but I dont expect them to spend their time crawling from room to room
A slave is a rare and valuable commodity and should be treated with the respect they deserve. Submission is a gift, not a right and must be earned not just expected
Anyways, i can talk the hind legs off a mule, let me know if you want anything clarified
Dominant 100 Bondage 79 Experimental 71 Sadist 51 Exhibitionist Voyeur 34 Vanilla 21 Switch 16 Degradation Lover 14 Submissive 0 Masochist 0
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