I was unfortunate enough to go into a chatroom here on CM a few days ago and was shocked to find a Dom (and I used the term loosely), who PMed without permission and then tried to engage in a Dom on Domme fantasy rape scene with me!

The very idea of someone being so disrespectful, vile and presumptuous is both repugnant and offensive!

Of course, I blocked himblocked him and then looked up his profile so that I could block him further.  The entire concept of safe, sane & CONSENSUAL interaction seemed lost on this person!  He is a sad, weak little man who, in my opinion, poses a serious threat to any female he encounters.  What's more, the admin of the room seemed completely disinterested in doing anything about it and there is no category of 'reporting' which seems to fit allowing me to submit his name to the site admins.

I hope that none of you have the misfortune of encountering this person and that anyone who does has a better experience than I did.

Take care of youselves and, as always, thanks for listening.

   - Lady Winter

Greetings All!

I have been a bit distracted as of late, with family matters, but all has returned to "normal".  I am enjoying my summer break thus far.

I was disturbed recently, to learn that the decorum of some members of CM seems to be lapsing, which was a bit of an embarrassment after I had recommended the site to two new people.

The first is an incident involving my new pet, "violet", who I am training.  My girl has been on CM seeking friendship and an exchange of ideas while training with me and it seems that many interested parties have contacted her, which is fine.  However, once she explains that she is training under me, several of these 'interested parties' have continued to proposition her and have even pressured her to overstep the parameters of our arrangement.  To her credit, she has been both loyal and obedient.  However, I am disturbed by the lack of etiquette and respect shown to Myself and my girl, by the attempt.

The second involved a member of my local BDSM Community, who recently received His certification (within our Community) as a Dominant.  During a discussion in a CM chat room, it was discovered that He is 18 years old and several people attempted to discredit and dsuch as BDSM lifestylers) can so readily adopt the mindset of those who would discredit them as mentally ill or depraved, just as easily.

There, that is my rant for the day.

As to everything else, I am talking to several people who have piqued My interest and I hope to meet more.  I certainly hope that you are all enjoying yourselves....and the people you meet.  Until next time, take care and as always, thanks for listening!

   - Lady Winter

I am always amazed by the sheer number of people who seem so sincere in their attempts to find owners, but when the conversation becomes a serious possibility, they flee!  People amuse and annoy me.  Anyway,...

I have two in-person meets this week and I am looking forward to them.  With any luck, I will find someone worth playing with....or even keeping. 

I hope everyone out there is enjoying themselves and each other.  Take care for now, and as always, Thanks for listening.

      - Lady Winter

Greetings All!

     Recently acquire a new 'pet'...her name is violet.  I've also added a few new pics - hope you like them.

    Recently visited a very enjoyable little 'boutique' where I picked up a new paddle, and I am planning to return for some other toys, as soon as I am able. :)

    I have heard from a few new people, which is nice - but nothing consistent yet.  Now that I have some free time, I am hoping that will change. 

   In the meantime, I hope everyone is doing well.  Be safe and as always, thanks for listening!

    - Lady Winter

Greetings once more, everyone!

    School is going well; just finished another semester!  I am meeting new people and making new friends.  Mundane life is simply that, but its' stable and calm so I can't really complain.

    I am training some new slaves, but alas - they are temporary.  When they finish their training they will likely move on to their own journeys.  I continue to seek the slave who will be MINE.  However, I admit it seems less urgent now; and perhaps that will be the difference maker.  Who knows?

   I hope that those of you who have kept interest in my Journal for so long, will drop a note or a comment now and again.  I am always eager to make friends, regardless of anything else.

   Talk to you soon and, as always; Thanks for listening!

I have met  one or two interesting males here, but as always, I remain skeptical.  They are both promising, but then that is usually the case.  In any event, I hope that I will be able to make a real connection before school starts up again.

The book is coming along nicely and hopefully I will have a shot at sharing excerpts with you here, once it has been copyrighted.  I would say it is about half finished with a few different takes on the whole gender based slavery issue.  It is also my hope to write a second anthology of short stories about BDSM that will appeal to everyone, but we'll see what happens with this first attempt.

Hope everyone is having a wonderful summer!  Any of you who read my journal should feel free to send comments, questions, etc to me.  In the meantime, take care of yourselves; Be safe and, as always, thanks for listening.

                    - Lady Winter

Okay, seriously....I am so tired of all the BS. I am fairly straight forward about what I want and what I'm willing to give.  If a person isn't looking for the same thing, that's fine.  No harm; No foul.  If a person wants to be friends, that's fine too - but say so!

I have all these people who talk with me at length, feign interest and then disappear.  It's disrespectful!  I  don't mind feast OR famine, but this BS in between shit, is a waste of time and energy. 

I continue seeing posts about how badly people what to find a Dominant Woman/Dominant Couple to serve but, when it comes to actually 'closing' they all talk and cold feet.

I'm going to tough it out a bit longer, but Ive been on this site on and off for the past 8 years and all I keep getting are gamers, posers and closet-cases. 

Hopefully, something will happen worth staying for, otherwise...I'm done.

Well, that's my bitch of the day.  Take care and, as always, thanks for listening.

                  - Lady Winter

Mild Rant:  I just received an email from someone asking, 'who would pay a fat pig like you?"  This kind of blatant, unprovoked attack baffles me!  I sent a calm, simple response and then blocked bostonboy. 

      I just don't understand it.  I am aware that I am a full-figured Domme - I state it in my profile and I have a pic up.  I'm not hiding anything or misleading anyone.  If that is not your particular cup of tea, fine.  No harm, no foul, no worries.  I wish you well and leave you to your tastes, without judgement.  But I expect the same courtesy! 

     If this over-developed wet spot is not into large women, then just move on...what is the point of making a personal attack?!  Seriously, WTF!?!  Furthermore, is this person so insecure and threatened by my confidence in myself, that he needs to feel good about himself, by trying to make me feel bad? 

     And lastly, if you're on this site looking for Dom/mes...doesn't that make you a sub/slave in all likelihood?  At the very least, THAT demands you treat ALL Dominants with a basic courtesy, regardless of appearances or interests.

    Well, I suppose that's my little rant.  Ah well,....the world is full of all kinds, and they all serve a purpose - even if it IS showing others how NOT to behavior.  LOL

You all take care of yourselves and, as always, thanks for listening.

    - Lady Winter

It has been a long week and school is getting intense with finals coming up.  In addition, my car died and I am now shopping for a new vehicle.  Hopefully, that will be settled shortly as we had to miss a local BDSM monthly dinner here because of it.

On the slave search front, all remains quiet.  I am going to start frequenting the chat room here in hopes of finding a friend and/or potential slave.  I did meet two people on the site who seemed interesting, but then they disappeared, as often happens.

I did manage to reconnect with a former pet, but the relationship has changed and now I am simply trying to help him organize his head a bit.  There is another I am talking to by phone, but he is on the other side of the country in California, so I am not anticipating much coming from that...though I would enjoy being wrong.

Until next time, take care and as always, thanks for listening.

I have been talking with a few people this week, and there is something that I've noticed....

Our "community" has incredible diversity, and the people in this lifestyle come from all backgrounds and walks of life.  Some of them are perfectly comfortable with their participation in BDSM and their motivations, some are not.  Some are very happy with their partners, slaves/subs, Dom/mes and Owners - some are not.  Some are lonely and looking.  However, regardless of the situation, the problems that any relationship faces, are also faced by Us.

Yet I keep hearing my friends and associates within "The Life", tell me that they don't share their problems because they feel judged, or invalidated.  I have one friend who has been with her sub for many years.  They are also a couple and have been having some problems.  They began going to couples therapy, but it's not working.  While she's telling me this, I realized that the therapist is missing several key elements of the dynamics of their relationship!  She tells me that they don't feel comfortable telling him about the BDSM aspects, because he will label them as 'dysfunctional', or 'abusive'.

Thinking that this was perhaps an isolated incident, I conveyed the gist (without the specifics) to some other peers, and was surprised to learn that many of them had experienced similar situations regarding therapy for relationships, depression, loneliness, etc.  

I think it's an issue worth talking about and something I may want to explore further in my education.  Well, that's this week's tangent.  Take care everyone, and as always, thanks for listening.

Greetings all!   I went back home to visit my family for my mother's birthday.  Other than that, mundane life has been relatively uneventful and content. 

On other fronts, I have made contact with Western Mass Power Exchange, which has monthly meetings close to where I live.  And as always, I continue to search for a slave of worth to serve Me.

At this point I think I would be content simply finding others to socialize with who are in 'the life', but that doesn't seem easy either.  Most that I come across are far more interested in finding playmates, than making friends.  It is strange to me, that as a group, we often know the feeling of being isolated by the 'vanilla' world, and yet within our own groupings we still tend to isolate each other.  Alas....

In any case, I will continue to look for friends, and keep faith that I will find the slave that will suit Me best.  In the meantime, I keep my thoughts written here for your consumption in an effort to elicit a response from some kindred spirit.  Until next week, enjoy one another and, as always, thanks for listening.

                                         - Lady Winter

GREETINGS ONCE MORE!!!   I have arrived in safe & sound and am doing well in school.  I am finally settled and feeling a bit more able to focus on my "other interests".  It has been a long, strange couple of months.

I had a potential pet here in Chicopee, but that quickly dissolved once I arrived.  It seems we had very different ideas about what 'service' meant.  In any case, I have not heard from him since...ah, well. 

I did, however, recieve a very nice msg from someone here, who may prove interesting, but time  shall tell.  Mostly, I find that it is very lonely when you move to a new town/city where you don't know anyone.  Still, it keeps things fresh and unpredictable. ...whether that is good, or bad remains to be seen.  LOL

In any case, I am making a resolution to check in on Mondays, Wednesdays and Saturdays while school is in session.  Once the semester is out, that will change, hopefully.  I may only update my journal once a week - probably on Saturdays.  They may be short entries, or lengthy blogs, we'll have to see what my mood is.

Well, for now that is all.  I am here, and still looking for that special, loyal and devoted slave.  I'm beginning to think that "Romanesque" best describes the slave I'm seeking.  Are you out there?  Male or female? In New England?  Are you serious?....Are you sure?

Take care all! ~ and as always, Thanks for listening.