Do you, the submissive, really think your best asset is your cock and you are so presumptuous that you think it's what I want to see of you?.. if it is, you are not the least bit attractive to me and I have to question whether or not you are submissive or just a pervert seeking fun and games.

If I read another profile that says ..."I want, I need, I love strap-on, I need strap-on, or the big one.. discretion Please" .. which tells me you are married I will just delete any message you send. None of those messages work for me because I won't be second to any wife and I am certainly not going to condon your lying to her either. If you are married and she knows of your activities and proclivities I will seek her permission and her acknowledgement before we will ever play.

I can count on one hand the number of true slaves I have met in the 16 years that I have been involved in this lifestyle. It never ceases to amaze me, when reading through profiles, just how many of you think of yourselves as slaves when you aren't. Somehow the picture has been painted that slaves are far more serious than a submissive and by somehow posting that you are a slave makes you more worthy of being with a Dominant.

Well, folks, it simply is not true. A submissive worth his weight in gold is equally as worthy of my attention than anyone purporting to be a slave. Your value is measured in loyalty, service, devotion and uniqueness to the Dominant, not by how many letters are in the self-imposed title that you wear. Think about it.

To everyone who contacted me during Irene. We are fine here. No electric for 4 days, lost a big pine, flood surge of 4 ft and we are at 3 ft above sea level. Those two things do not go well together. BUT considering everything that others have gone through and are still going through, we feel very, very blessed. Thank you for your concern and caring. It is greatly appreciated.. oh, and the Toys did not get wet!!

When you read profiles and look at relationships on here please take note that I am a Sadist. I mean that in every sense of the word. I enjoy administering pain to those who enjoy receiving it. If you think that you can pervert that in some form or fashion, think twice about it. That is my love, my calling and I do not stray from that. If you are NOT a pain person please don't try and seek a relationship with me. It is only doomed to failure as I will sense your inadequacy and dislike and that will only make me turn my head away. If you are exploring all other avenues of submission that exclude pain, please start with someone other than myself. At this stage of life I am not likely to change my practices. I've spent far too long honing the skills that I have and Sadism is deeply ingrained in my soul so to become something that I am not is just not going to happen.

If you are a regular reader of my journal entries you will appreciate this one. This entry is addressed to the submissives who chose screennames like Loserwannabee, scumbagoftheearth, controlmeImaslut ( by the way, these are fictious). Do you really expect to attract a serious Dominant? Do you think that we are really interested in someone that thinks so little of himself/herself that they would purposefully denegrate themselves? 

Well, here is a clue to that answer. Not only would I not waste my time looking at your profile but I click through your picture, profile and edited journals without taking so much as one iota of interest in it.   

Most Dominants that I know and respect are attracted to a submissive who is prideful of himself and therefore ready to submit himself to a Dominant worthy of a very good submissive. Yes, you do ultimately reflect your Dominant in who you are and how you act.  

Think that over! If you exhibit poor values to the Dom/Dommes that are reading these profiles, why would they want you as theirs?

While cruising through profiles this morning it occured to me that far too many of you wish for things that are not only not going to happen but I truly worry if they did happen to you what would become of you. I read profiles that say, use me, abuse me, humiliate me for 24 hours a day, beat me, I have no limits, etc. You get the picture. Let me tell you what would happen to you if that were done to you. You would lose any self-worth that you have, you would find yourself in an empty, totally void un-emotional relationship, you would end up disrespecting the Woman you say that you Worship and Adore, and life, and your idea of what BDSM would really be like, would just suck.

No Domme in her right mind would treat you like that on a continual basis and quite honestly if you find such a woman, run gentleman, run. There is a blending of powers in D/s relationships. The power exchange does not happen because you plug into her electrical receptacles. The power exchange happens because you find a pleasure that one can pass back and forth with each other. It's more than trust, it's more than delivery, it's more than a physical presence. So the lesson here is becareful what you wish for. Not all wishes are good wishes. A good Domme and a good relationship will make for the best experience of your life. Find a bad one and you could find yourself wishing that you had paid more attention to this post.

While crusing through profiles as I sometimes do, I am often struck at the number of gentlemen that list "slave" as their relative position to the lifestyle. And then there are the number of gentlemen who list that that they are a "submissive" and rarely do I ever see the clearly defined statement that they are a "bottom:". So it makes me wonder if you, who post, even know the difference and if you did you might be just a bit more hesitant to list either "bottom" or "submissive" rather than "slave". A hint... as a slave you have no voice in the relationship. You are at the mercy of the Dominant in the relationship and it's not a position that you slip instantly into but rather it's through the growth of a TPE relationship that you achieve, through mutual agreement, the position of slave. So I ask this... rethink your posts gentlemen and decide which is really true with you. Are you a bottom, are you a submissive or are you truly a slave? I bet if most of you were honest you would put "bottom".

I received a very polite letter from a young man this evening. In my response to him, I told him to go slowly. He is very young, younger than my children. If you are interested in BDSM as a lifestyle, wait 5 years and see if you are still interested in it. This advice is for anyone under the age of 25. You do not realize what a very mature lifestyle this is and you cannot go back (easily) once you start into it. I hope that he heeds my advice - he really needs to.

LOL, Its amazing what happens when you add a picture of one's ta-tas!...LOL Funny, they have been there all along!

One word to all seekers, the pictures you put on CM should be considered putting your best sides forward. Afterall, that is your first introduction to us as potential candidates is it not? Think of it as an interview with the Dom/Domme who could become the most important person in your life. Perhaps that gives you an idea of how important first impressions can be.