|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| As of March 2023…
Single, divorced/widowed I am a fully vaccinated and totally STD-free dominant who favors time for the kind of vanilla dates where people actually get to know one another as people.
Many posters and respondents here seem focused on the sexual component. There’s nothing wrong with sex but I prefer a multi-faceted relationship.
In “lifestyle” matters I see “corporal play” (floggers, canes, single tails and the like) and “interrogation” as gateways that can lead to subspace.
Many seem to fear “pain” but we should consider :
One of the joys of corporal is in “working through the pain until it becomes pleasure.”
While administering pain is one thing, I do not approve of doing damage. Hopefully a partner is confident with that after getting to know me.
I'd like to be the person who releases your endorphins as you bathe in subspace.
I own my home on 14 acres of woodlands (with trails, see below), on my own road with a locked gate. It’s very private here, I have no casual visitors and neighbors are few and far between.
I have indoor and outdoor BDSM-related facilities. I am confident in comparing it to anyone else's home dungeon (as opposed to "commercial" space). I also have a whole house sound system that feels just right for the musician in me.
Interests unlikely to occur (but a guy can dream) include:
"Pony-play" which involves emotional submission but as well a submissive’s physical training (endurance, strength, balance, and flexibility). The initial goal is to pull a cart and rider. The ultimate goal is to race with a cart and rider to win.
It might be important for you to know that:
I am not a Trump supporter.
I'm not a smoker of anything and I do mind if you smoke anything around me.
I care deeply for others.
I am not a climate denier mostly because climate change is real and I have two adult children (in other areas of the USA who do not live with me) whose future I value.
Other facts:
Active in the lifestyle since the late 1990's in Upstate New York where I received my initial training.
(I know: who gets trained any more before self-defining as a Dominant, right ?)
Relocated to the North Carolina Coast in 2011, then to the North Carolina mountains in 2013.
I’m “allergic” to unplanned damage of others causing unplanned trips to the hospital, unplanned visits with the Police, unplanned permanent marks etc. A submissive individual can feel comfortable in my level of safety first.
I am physically clean. It has been pointed out that I am always washing my hands, that I wear Nitrile Exam Gloves, etc.
I’m a very rare drinker, perhaps the occasional glass of wine or beer with dinner.
Fun fact:
I can moderately speak French but can't read or write it worth a damn.
"Never make a priority of someone who sees you as an option."
Thanks for reading. I look forward to your response and questions.
Sincerely,
Lawrence
(Located high in the mountains surrounding Wilkesboro, NC)
|
|
|
|
|
Interesting blog. Not mine but I'd note that some of these photos are from the old InSex/PD days.
(You may need to insert "h t t p : / /" before the word "prisoner247")
prisoner247.tumblr.com/archive |
|
|
|
|
I have had more 502 error codes (and other error codes) today than on any other day since I opened an account on CollarSpace. I think the run from 2004 is due to expire. RIP |
|
|
|
|
How to say this without appearing to complain...
Some folks like to chat on-line. There's nothing wrong with that and on-line chat is a good way to start to get to know someone.
But over the years I have learned to identify those who are so petrified of meeting in the real world, that they will stay on-line forever, chatting *exclusively* on-line, never moving to a phone call, let alone a face-to-face meeting in a public restaurant.
Their standard response is that I am being "pushy" when I want to step up our game.
No, m'dear, with all due respect to you (because you are attractive and charming): I am not being pushy. Rather I am being practical: If you never intend to meet, we are simply wasting the time that I could be putting into getting to know someone who is genuinely looking for a real time relationship.
Also I would like to voice-confirm with someone as soon as possible to make sure that we are the persons that we claim to be (you = female, me = male).
There is nothing wrong with either of these points of view and methods.
I try to be (and feel that I am) patient... but at the same time not stupidly wasteful of the limited time and resources that we are able to dedicate for our individual searchs.
|
|
|
|
|
So far so good, conversations for a few nights mutually seem to go well, then...
The next day and for the next week... no responses to messages, or emails ... left high and dry with no idea what went wrong.
Adults tend to look at ourselves first: Are we the problem? Then TELL US. (If it's me, it would sure be nice to know what went wrong so that I can grow and improve for the future.)
This "disappearing act" routine has been happening since the dawn of the cyber age, and I shall never cease being weary of it. |
|
|
|
|
- If you have small children, I am happy for you.
- However my days of living with and taking care of small kids are over. Mine are adults, and do not live with me.
- I will date a woman with kids, but as much as I like kids, I can not live with them. |
|
|
|
|
Once again, please note that while I would converse with a sincere sub/sub couple, I can not be interested in more than friendship with someone who defines as "Poly", or "married" or in an "open relationship", or whose spouse is unaware of her extracurricular activities.
If this is you, please be up-front about this in your profile, preferable right at the beginning so that people are sure to not miss the facts. Trust is everything and if you are not up-front at the beginning then how can you be trusted further on down the line ? |
|
|
|
|
Yes, while timing is important, I continue to be reminded by the phrase:
"Never make a priority of someone who sees you as an option." |
|
|
|
|
Update 4/1/14 - Happy, 'Render unto Ceasar/ Tax Month time" !
Someone on another site mentioned having to put someone "on the cross" for some action requiring punishment.
Not realizing that they probably meant St. Andrews Cross, I responded to that post with the questions:
"Cross: Crucifixion? Gladiatorial contests?" ... (maybe chariot races?) thinking that perhaps someone was planning CosPlay for the Spring, which had me thinking wonderful thoughts.
Evidently my innocent comments were not received well, and if I offended anyone's religious sensibilities (which I realize do run very deep for very many people), especially at this time of year, I should like to publically and deeply apologize and say that I am very sorry.
To clarify, I am NOT promoting or wishing to witness actual Crucifixions or REAL Gladiatorial games or anything "to the death" because death is a very hard limit. But as a fan of the mini-series "Rome", "Spartacus" and "I, Claudius" as well as the movies "Ben-Hur", and "Spartacus", I am at heart a retired Roman Senator who thinks that yes, Caligula and Nero were bad for the Empire but also thinks with fondness of "the good old days of the Empire."
(The Kirk Douglas version of "The Vikings" and the mini-series "The Vikings" are good as well and I am sure that there are rabid fans of both here on CM. But they represent The Dark Ages, a time after the fall of the Roman Empire. A sad time...) |
|
|
|
|
Wow... in 2011 I realized that I originally created a CM profile in 2004.
Could that really be SEVEN years ?
Good Grief.
Now in 2014, can that possibly be TEN years ?
It's time for a change.
Watch this space. |
|
|
|
|
(I can't seem to edit this to be seen as normal, left-justified text.)
A new user (no names or criticism from me, must protect the guilty) says in their profile:
"I am a pro online Domme and that is important--online only, so don't bother asking me to meet you."
Oh? Wow, whatta' concept: one need not even prove that they are female (Domme still means female... I presume?).
This person then goes on to write...
"You will not be disappointed."
I already am.
*Yawns* Next? |
|
|
|
|
If you have "Friends" who are known scammers OR have stolen face photos in their profile (ie, tineye.com easily locates their photos on the web, and therefore they *are* scammers, or at the very least insincere) then please pass my profile by. |
|
|
|
|
I have had my photos (my dungeon) stolen in the past. Collarme removed the stolen photo but allowed the User to stay. Great :(
That's why there are no photos of any great worth in my profile.
More importantly I say from experience (not from some scarey-text relating to a University): No one may use my words or photos without first obtaining my permission. Ask first. |
|
|
|
|
I am not interested in you as a potential partner if:
- you are a "swinger" or if...
- you have compromising photos of yourself in your profile. Photos of you giving head, screwing someone, etc. constitute "compromising photos" (google "compromising position")
Such photos do nothing for me and make me wonder, (at the least) what kind of career you have that you would worry so little about negatively effecting it... I mean, *anybody* on the internet can see your photos on CM, one need not be a "member". What if your supervisor saw it? Sheeesh
|
|
|
|
|
Disclaimer: South Park's take on Mormons ahead (you have been warned) :
http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s07e12-all-about-the-mormons |
|
|
|
|
The parable of the Comfortable Shoes.
You have worn them for two years, these shoes. You know what to expect from them. You are *comfortable* in what to expect from them.
Meanwhile you've developed a backache. You think perhaps it's the shoes because ...
You work all day, then come home and take them off, suddenly your backache goes away.
You put on another pair of shoes, work all day then come home and take them home ... there's no backache.
You put on the "comfortable shoes," work all day, come home and… presto! You have a backache.
This happens *every time* that you wear the "comfortable shoes".
Duhhhh, you'd think you'd make the connection:
Moral: your "comfort" is brief and illusional.
Throw away those "comfortable" shoes, so that they will not harm you further. Better to be barefoot for a while, than give up your obligation to do what is best for yourself because you are "comfortable" doing it. |
|
|
|
|
"I am tired, I am weary, I could sleep for a thousand years." ("Venus in Furs" The Velvet Underground and Nico, circa 1967)
|
|
|
|
|
I was a steady cigarette smoker for years. I used to roll my own!
On and off I would quit and be doing well with the nicotine gum, then take up with a person who smoked, and suddenly there I was; addicted again.
I quit smoking January 20, 2009, and have been smoke-free since then.
It's your business what you do and I am by no means making a value judgment of you but if you smoke and if I was around you on a regular and intimate basis, then there is a very real risk I would fall back into that habit. Much like an alcoholic, I am one cigarette away from being addicted again, and I can't let myself go there: It was too hard to stop.
Therefore, I am sorry but if you smoke and if you do not intend to quit, then that would be a deal breaker for me. |
|
|
|
|
I believe in getting to the point of having a profile here, which is after all, determining "a good fit." I just don't believe in fooling around with a whole lot of text.
So if we hit it off in an e-mail or two then let's get to a phone call. Dialing *67 before dialing my number blocks my callerID from knowing your number, so I can't stalk you. And my phone is "Google Voice" so if someone turns out to be a nut-job, I can block them and they shouldn't be able to stalk *me*.
Everyone would be safe with this set-up.
So really, if we hit it off in an e-mail or two, just exactly what are we waiting for?
Unless, of course, you are not serious about finding a compatible real-time partner? Unless you are only here to type to people? Unless you are only cyburrrrr? Unless you are married and cheating? Unless you are some poor sad dude pretending to be a woman for the attention it gets you?
If you're not looking for a genuine fit real time then don't waste my time.
|
|
|
|
|
Every time I type the word "m e d i e v a l" in a CM e-mail ... that word and the following sentence gets truncated. Vewy stwange.
I really am capable of typing a complete sentence. |
|
|
|
|
My gym has screwed up my perfect attendance by *actually being closed for the Thanksgiving and Xmas Holidays!* OK, OK, so they are open on New Years Eve until 5:00 and on New Years Day until 3:00.
(Yes I've only been on-board since April, I admit I am a newbie, but hey, this is a one-day-at-a-time motivational sorta' thing)
So, can you believe that ???
Bah, Humbug, |
|
|
|
|
As of 10/23 and after 6 months of daily attendance/activity, my gym trainer informs me that I am *down* 3.8 points on what he calls the "fat index". He prefers that method over the BMI method (though the same hand-held device tests for both).
That and having lost 11 lbs in the process (even though I quit smoking in January - and one usually GAINS weight after quitting) ... well, I won't blame myself for feeling a momentary sense of accomplishment.
Woot-woot !
|
|
|
|
|
(Do excuse the screwed up formatting. I have tried but CM is not cooperating, insisting on *centering* the text. Grrrr ...) I really smiled thinking someone had published this, and when I saw they had not, I was sad... so here's what I *thought* I saw...
HOUSEPLANTS OF GOR The spider plant cringed as its owner brought forth the watering
can. "I am a spider plant!" it cried indignantly. "How dare you water
me before my time! Guards!" it called. "Guards! Borin, its owner, placed the watering can on the table and looked at it. "You will be watered," he said. "You do not dare to water me!" laughed the plant.
"You will be watered," said Borin.
"Do not water me!" wept the plant.
"You will be watered," said Borin.
I watched this exchange. Truly, I believed the plant would be
watered. It was plant, and on Gor it had no rights. Perhaps on Earth,
in its permissive society, which distorts the true roles of all beings,
which forces both plant and waterer to go unhappy and constrained, which forbids the fulfillment of owner and
houseplant, such might not happen. Perhaps there, it would not be
watered. But it was on Gor now, and would undoubtedly feel its true
place, that of houseplant. It was plant. It would be watered at will.
Such is the way with plants.
Borin picked up the watering can, and muchly watered the plant.
The plant cried out. "No, Master! Do not water me!" The master
continued to water the plant. "Please, Master," begged the plant, "do
not water me!" The master continued to water the plant. It was plant.
It could be watered at will.
The plant sobbed muchly as Borin laid down the watering can. It
was not pleased. Too, it was wet. But this did not matter. It was
plant.
"You have been well watered," said Borin.
"Yes," said the plant, "I have been well watered." Of course, it could be watered by its master at will.
"I have watered you well," said Borin.
"Yes, master," said the plant. "You have watered your plant well. I am plant, and as such I should be watered by my master."
The cactus plant next to the spider plant shuddered. It
attempted to cover its small form with its small arms and small
needles. "I am plant," it said wonderingly. "I am of Earth, but for the
first time, I feel myself truly plantlike. On Earth, I was able to control my watering. I often scorned those who would water
me. But they were weak, and did not see my scorn for what it was, the
weak attempt of a small plant to protect itself. Not one of the weak
Earth waterers would dare to water a plant if it did not wish it. But
on Gor," it shuddered, "on Gor it is different. Here, those who wish to
water will water their plants as they wish. But strangely, I feel
myself most plantlike when I am at the mercy of a strong Gorean master,
who may water me as he pleases."
"I will now water you," said Borin, the cactus's Gorean master.
The cactus did not resist being watered. Perhaps it was
realizing that such watering was its master's to control. Too, perhaps
it knew that this master was far superior to those of Earth, who would
not water it if it did not wish to be watered. The cactus's watering had been finished. The spider plant looked at it.
"I have been well watered," it said.
"I, too, have been well watered," said the cactus.
"My master has watered me well," said the spider plant.
"My master, too, has watered me well," said the cactus.
"I am to be placed in a hanging basket on the porch," said the spider plant.
"I, too, am to be placed in a hanging basket on the porch," said the cactus.
"I wish you well," said the spider plant.
"I, too, wish you well," said the cactus.
"Tal," said the spider plant.
"Tal, too," said the cactus.
I did not think that the spider plant would object to being
watered by its master again. For it realized that it was plant, and
that here, unlike on Earth, it was likely to be owned and watered by
many masters.
By Elle, who has read far too many Gor books and taken far too many finals to be allowed to run rampant on a computer.
|
|
|
|
|
A friend recently had a *Diabetic* Stroke (different from a cardiac stroke). If you are local to me, ask who it is and I'll tell you. I am not going to broadcast his name here nor will I respond publicly to this thread. His name will not be important to most readers.
Why do I mention this to you?
Because I am a diabetic.
Because I have seen you before.
Yeah, I have seen *you* before. I might even know you. We might even be friends.
Or maybe we’re just acquainted with one another.
One thing is for sure:
You are grossly overweight (and you may smoke cigarettes on top of that).
You are technically “Obese”.
Most people, however, are nice to you, are politically correct with you, and refer to you as a “BBW (Big Beautiful Woman)” or “BBM (Big Beautiful Man).” They smile. They talk about “what’s on the inside is what is most important, isn’t that so?” and other phrases like that that. That’s why you like The Scene: because people say they accept you for the person that you err. All this allows everyone involved feel so very warm and fuzzy for the moment.
There's just one problem with that way of looking at things.
It’s all Bullshit.
The facts are...
IF you are obese, then you are killing yourself.
Your fate may be the same if not worse than my friend's.
You are one small step away from a stroke that leaves one side of your body totally paralyzed, that slurs your speech, that requires you to have around-the-clock care to even go to the bathroom (hmm, sounds like FUN eh? Some vanilla stranger wiping your ass!! Let me assure you: that act it is not at all kinky)... all this essentially makes you old before your time ... as if you were living in a nursing home, before your time.
Or perhaps you’d rather your destiny be to go to the hospital several times a week to have kidney dialysis in order to mechanically cleanse your blood of the impurities it collects … because your kidneys have stopped functioning due to the abuse you have been giving them by not taking care of yourself.
And if you say no to dialysis then you loose a toe, then a foot, then a leg because your circulation is awful... because of the diabetes that YOU did not manage.
And then you die… all before your time.
Wow, what great things to look forward to !
Look; I know you and I DO NOT WANT YOU TO DIE BEFORE YOUR TIME!
Now… given that you (1) have half a brain and (2) that you want to stay alive (and if you want to die, … then whew, go see a shrink NOW):
- You have to get to your family Doctor NOW.
- You have to quit smoking NOW
- You have to get your glucose and Cholesterol levels checked NOW.
- You have to ask your Doctor's advice on what you need to do NOW.
- You have to get regular VIGOROUS exercise NOW.
- You have to change your diet NOW.
- You have to change your LIFE
NOW !!!
... or you are going to loose it.
It is that simple.
If I am describing you (and you know who you are) then think about the people in your life and in your family who are counting on you. RESOLVE TO MAKE A POSITIVE CHANGE. Add me to your support group. I have pretty much been where you are! I’ll talk with you about what has worked for me, and share ideas of what may work for you.
You can slow down the effects of diabetes and other poor health decisions of the past.
This is not about money. This is about seeing you alive, I do not want to go to your memorial service until mine is close at hand. No one does.
Until you change, you are at risk of living my friend’s fate: a *Diabetic* Stroke. Do you really want to go there?
|
|
|
|
|
Percentage of body fat (sometimes called Body Mass Index) is presently down 2.4 points.
Woot-woot !
|
|
|
|
|
R.I.P Jack McGeorge (from the DC / VA area, but remembered all over - even internationally). Shocking news for me. I only met and spoke with him a few times, but he was a knowledgeable, decent and honorable man. You don't see a lot of people like that around any more.
If you don't know who he was, then do a little research ... Google him. He's worthy of few moments of your attention: This man was a giant, and his passing is a giant loss.
|
|
|
|
|
OK, Geekish-Topic follows:
So finally, I have “Google-Voice” (formerly “Grand Central”), and I can not speak highly enough of it.
I give out one telephone number, and not only does it filter who calls (“Please say your name...”) but it can be set up to ring at my land-line AND at my CEL ... at the same time.
This is especially good if I’m home and if my CEL decides not to answer the call because it can’t presently locate my carrier’s network (which happens a good deal of time in my semi-rural home).
Secondly, if I just can’t answer the call, not only does Google-Voice have the standard voice mail capability but additionally, and with reasonable accuracy, it will transcribe what the person has said into text, then send that text, along with an audio file of the message to my e-mail address which I can then get on my mobile phone.
What an efficient way of doing things !
This is just about my favorite technological add-on to date.
And of course, someone may choose to dial “*67” before dialing my number, which still serves the purpose of blocking my callerID (hint: you remain anonymous).
So, with Google Voice and "*67* technology, I now insist on voice confirmation sooner rather than later with someone claiming interest. It's reasonably secure for everyone and shows sincerity; in my case, if the "woman at the other end of the Ether" is not actually a woman (rather is - select one or all - a man/scammer/child) we can get to that truth right away and be spared from another time-waster.
So again, I can not speak highly enough of "Google-Voice".
|
|
|
|
|
There is no longer any excuse for a person who legitimately wants to know you to refuse voice confirmation:
With Yahoo chat there never was but now with "Skype", which is free software, one just needs a (cheapo) microphone at a minimum, to speak anonymously over the internet as if using the telephone, voice to voice.
Excuse Number 1: "Oh, I do not have a microphone!" Well then, if you *really* live in the USA, go to Radio Shack who will sell you a PC-compatible microphone for $10.00 or so. If you use a Mac, they either come with a built-in microphone or you can purchase one. If you can afford a Mac, then you can easily afford a microphone (Hey, I use a Mac and have followed my own advice).
I repeat: There is no longer any excuse for a person who legitimately wants to know you to refuse voice confirmation.
|
|
|
|
|
I have deleted most of my photos due to several lowlife scumbag losers from this site (who have been allowed to remain on this site) stealing them. See the relevant journal entry.
Additional photos of me and my "facilities" (which are several, varied and appreciated by sincere real time persons), will be exchanged for genuine photos of you. No exceptions. I am not here to facilitate your wank/jill-fest
If you write to me enclose a vanilla photo (NO exceptions), and I shall reciprocate if I feel there is a fit.
I am weary of children living in fantasy la-la-land behind their computers. Be genuine in who you say you are and in what you say you want, be willing to work towards that in the real world ... or be gone. |
|
|
|
|
I've added a photo. Yeah-yeah, it's very edited, basically of my hands and my singletail... but as I have noted, people *have* stolen photos of mine in the past, so I am being cautious.
If someone wants to steal that one, then screw 'em.
I am refraining from adding some of my dungeon, AKA "Area II". The photos were always a big hit with the sybur-wankers & dreamers of both sexes here.
(While I found myself amused when that type would "perv' my profile," I was most angered when it was proven to the authorities that a user here stole one of my photos to use in their collarme profile, but that collarme did not feel theft to be justifiable cause for pulling a user's profile and booting them from the server. Pretty sad.) |
|
|
|
|
I am not suggesting the legalization of anything, I simply liked Joe Klein's writing, especially the "slogan.".
Excerpt from "Why Legalizing Marijuana Makes Sense", Time Magazine on-line edition, Thursday, Apr. 02, 2009, written by Joe Klein:
"For the past several years, I've been harboring a fantasy, a last political crusade for the baby-boom generation. We, who started on the path of righteousness, marching for civil rights and against the war in Vietnam, need to find an appropriately high-minded approach to life's exit ramp. In this case, I mean the high-minded part literally. And so, a deal: give us drugs, after a certain age ? say, 80 ? all drugs, any drugs we want. In return, we will give you our driver's licenses. (I mean, can you imagine how terrifying a nation of decrepit, solipsistic 90-year-old boomers behind the wheel would be?) We'll let you proceed with your lives ? much of which will be spent paying for our retirement, in any case ? without having to hear us complain about our every ache and reflux. We'll be too busy exploring altered states of consciousness.
I even have a slogan for the campaign:
' Tune in, turn on, drop dead. '? " |
|
|
|
|
So, the offending photo has been removed but the user who was the thief will not have her profile pulled. I'm rather saddened...
(BEGIN RANT)
I have pulled all the photos in my profile.
Why?
Because some asshole-douchebag-online-only-bitch-LOSER on Collarme stole a photo of my dungeon, and superimposed her ugly-ass body over it.
(Thanks to another user here who initially brought it to my attention, writing? ?your a fake arent you lol? ...? then when I asked for clarification, going on to explain that she recognized my photo in another profile. Yes, I have reported this to Collarme Support,? but I don?t know that anything has yet been done about it.)
So now, if I do post a photo or two or three, I have to superimpose the words ?stolen from Lawrence? over each and every one ?
What a pain.? I don?t know that I will bother.? To what end?? If you are local to me and if you know me you know I?m legitimate.? And if you do not know me but if you ask around about me, you?ll get good reports.
Oh...? did I mention that some *other* on-line-wanker here stole one of my photos that I took of someone else (with the model?s permission) and is using it as her Yahoo chat avatar?
What is wrong with some of you people? Have you no lives of your own that you have to steal from others?
I think I may well be done with this ?community? if there is no effective security let alone ?vetting? in place.
As I think of it, I mostly heard from online-only people (of both sexes). Who could ever forget the one from Great Britain who, when I finally got the message that she was not real-time, asked if I had any more photos, ?that I can use for later?? (meaning her little masturbatory sessions).? Perhaps? I should take a lesson from the girls here: having NO photos will cut down on ALL the wankers, of both sexes.
If you know me, you know my phone number, and know how to reach me.
(END RANT)
|
|
|
|
|
The Four-Way Test of the things we think, say or do:
1. Is it the truth?
2. Is it fair to all concerned?
3. Will it build goodwill and better friendships?
4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
(Source: Rotary International) |
|
|
|
|
Here's a real 'beaut ... a female slave writes:
"... webcam is about the extent of my training, but truely is all I desire for this moment.
Not to mention, its safer then real life."
She then goes on to say...
"I am looking for an experienced Dom, etc etc, blah,? blah"
So the question I would have is...? just what kind of "experienced Dominant" would bother wasting his time with on-line-only "experiences"?
I am reasonably experienced, and I for one would want *at least* a reasonable return on the investment of my time spent with someone. Honestly, I do not see where I would get that return from on-line play or an "on-line-romance."
And as to safer?? Sure it is "safer", but so is NEVER LEAVING YOUR HOUSE TO EVEN GO FOOD SHOPPING!? Your definition of "safer" still leaves you sitting behind the computer screen, probably masturbating.? If you do not see yourself as better than that, then yeah... I would not want to know you either.
And if you have no courage (taking reasonable care to plan ahead for your safety) how are you ever going to actually experience anything with someone?? You'll never get experience sitting there alone, letting "your fingers do the walking." You've probably been doing that your whole life... and are you more experienced, are you really better off for it?
Sheesh... get real.
|
|
|
|
|
Speech to text recognition software ... why did I wait so long to get it ? Seems to work with everything. It needs a little training ... but what (who!) doesn't ?
|
|
|
|
|
About voice-confirmation, and protecting your anonymity:
(As mentioned earlier) I have mild carpel-tunnel which doesn’t get in my way with most things, BUT typing literally becomes painful for me.
Additionally, I have in some cases spent upwards of two hours with someone typing back and forth, only to have them disappear TOTALLY when I suggest voice confirmation.
I am suspecting that not only are these people insincere cyber-wankers/jillers, but they are most likely men.
Again, these are the points: as well as being tired of wasting time and energy, extensive typing is painful for me!
Therefore, VOICE CONFIRMATION IS EXPECTED (no, not at THIS SECOND, but sooner rather than later) and can be done while maintaining your anonymity... simply dial *67 then my phone number (if I choose to give it to you), and my callerID will be blocked from knowing your phone number. I will never see your phone number! *I* am the one who would be taking all the risks here, and there is absolutely no reason why a sincere girl cannot call if only to voice-confirm.
So my point here is: if you are seriously real-time, then sooner rather than later, you’ll have to become comfortable enough to take (NO!) risk, and call me. If you’re not ready for that? Then don’t waste my time, go back to sybur-kindergarten, and Have A Nice Day :)
|
|
|
|
|
(Firefox seems to be trashing any journal that I choose to edit, so do excuse any duplication.)
If someone who defines as submissive/slave writes that they have a genuine desire to serve, that they are "Willing To Relocate" and that they are sincere... but has a bazillion "Friends" listed in their profile... and is still logging in to that profile on a regular basis (and has been for months), then I think it's a safe bet to say that if they have not yet made a real time connection with *someone* yet (on their "Friends" list or not), that they probably are not genuine. Anyone who can tell me where my logic may be flawed is welcome to write.
|
|
|
|
|
Technical snafu report, RE: “Friend-Request”
(I think I’ll post this in the appropriate forum, and if I learn anything will add a new entry.)
(I accept that this is occurring JUST on my end, is not Collarme’s “fault”, and I am asking if anyone else has experienced this phenomenon):
First of all, IF you get a friends-request from me, and we have never met in the real world, or we have and we do not like one another, or... whatever (you get the idea) then please DO consider it a technical glitch, please DO refuse the request and please DO NOT add me. If you read me, it should be obvious that I am really not a fan of “social networking”.
The grimy technical details:
Over the last few weeks, it seems that whenever I look at someone’s full profile my browser sends off a “Friend’s Request” when it was never my intention to do so ... for sure without my permission, NON-consensually even !!
Collarme support says that some FireFox extension on my side is conflicting with collarme. I accept what appears to be a perfectly valid reason.
The solution is to turn OFF all FireFox extensions, then restart , then turn on an extension, then go look at a profile, then wait to see if a friend-request was sent, then re-start Firefox, then activate another extension, then repeat the process ... until the varmint (the offending extension) is located.
(Yes I know I could start with the last extension that I installed, but it has been a while since I installed any extension and for sure the last install of an extension predates this problem by a few months anyway.)
The problem is while this solution makes great sense (1) this would take a lot of time that I do not have and (2) I pretty well have all the extensions I need (and no more) to take care of business, and am loathe to part with any of them. So, I guess I am OK with checking my e-mail to see if I inadvertently sent a “Friend Request”. Short term, it is less of a pain than doing the above procedure.
Has anyone else seen this issue and if so, what did you do to correct it?
Thanks!
|
|
|
|
|
(Re-entered)
While I try to respond to everyone who "pervs" me, I''ve had to change my strategy a bit: Now I''ll review the profile of someone who has "perv''d" me first, and if there is simply no way we are compatible (you stand 5 feet and weigh 350 pounds, you claim to be "Native American", you were born a male but are convinced deep-down that you are a girl and want me to dom you, you''re female but married or partnered and "must be descrete", you''re of either sex but in a syburrrr relationship with someone miles from you who you clearly have never met and most likely will never meet... the list of bozo-like beahavior goes on and on ... ), I will not send a thank you note but will just "hide" you. Additionally, if you are a genuine dodo raving on about your dom-lee-ness, or how much of a "twue-sub" you are as examples, then I''ll block you.
Life''s too short to waste time on these life-forms..
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Ackkkk every time I attempt to "Edit" a journal entry... the whole entry disappears !
|
|
|
|
|
Here's the deal: After ONE chat, if we *both* see potential, then we need to talk on the phone. You would call me using "*67* so that callerID is blocked at my end, in order to maintain your security, if you so choose.
For the paranoid types ... I am not "pushing" anyone when I say I want to get out of chat and move on to phone verification. Don't bitch at me due about this requirement. Hell: I would be giving you *my* number - who’s risking their security at that point?
Instead you might try deciding ... just how do you propose to go about meeting someone in the real world? A phone call is the next logical step.
My reasons are twofold and most logical:
(1) I have mild carpel tunnel syndrome (physically, I am perfectly fine otherwise, thank you) so on the rare occasions that I do e-mail or chat with someone, it’s until we both feel comfortable enough with each other to exchange phone numbers then meet for coffee. Typing for too long is an unnecessary repetitive stress and not worth it for someone who will only be "a ghost on a screen."
(2) There are way too many children-of-all-ages who message me with no intention of meeting in the real world. Chat that leads to nothing in the real world is a waste of my time and I can't be bothered with time-wasters.
Thus, I can’t and won’t tolerate endless chats and endless e-mails that go nowhere. Who has time to waste on someone not serious about at least a vanilla coffee-or-lunch-date in the real world, sooner rather than later ?
A final comment: I'm sensing that these hit-and-run chats I’ve been experiencing of late are morphing into the equivalent of virtual “speed-dating”: if you don't like some ONE thing about someone, rather than discuss it, people take the option of hiding behind the anonymity of the Internet, and (virtually) walking away without a word of explanation. Most childish... and children (of all ages) are one of my hard limits.
|
|
|
|
|
Concerning "Friends Requests", I'm flattered of course, but please know that when I am on-line, it's not for "social networking". Rather I'll use any reasonable technology from on-line tools such as e-mail and chat to more old-fashioned tools such as 'The Telephone', as vehicles for actually meeting compatible persons in the real world (initially for other old-fashioned activities like "coffee-dates" or "lunch-dates" ... you've heard of them, yes?).
To that end, I would prefer that you not request to add me as a "friend" until we meet in the real world.
|
|
|
|
|
For all intents and purposes, I'm presently "on sabbatical," focused
on activities that will bring a better return on the investment of my
time and energy. You may write if you wish, I'm just not certain that I
will be getting back to you ASAP.
====================
Additionally, if you need a reference on groups in the area of
Central New York State, you may wish to drop me a note. I am familiar
with most of them, several for a very long time.
Some I can recommend (and would tell you why), some I can't (and I won't tell you why, probably saying something like "at this time I can not recommend so-and-so," and leave it at that).
These would be my personal opinions based on my personal experiences, so YOUR Mileage May Vary ... but at the least you might gain some new information before attending a group that you are not familiar with, even if everyone you have encountered so far or every comment you have read so far has raved about that group. 'Nuff said.
|
|
|
|
|
If you are familiar with AppleScript, (and perhaps Colloquy?), then I'd like to communicate with you :)
|
|
|
|
|
In order to protect a new keyboard from all the dust caused by the construction upstairs, I purchased a fitted, soft plastic cover made by "zCover". It does the job very well, but the way the rubber *feels* it's ALMOST like I wrapped a condom around around the keyboard.
Now ... can you imagine typing on a condom? Further, can you imagine how that would give a whole new meaning to "Syburrr Sex"?
Folks who are into that ought to consider getting one of these "skins" :) Hey, if someone believes they are actually doing something sexual when they are typing something sexual on-line, then then they ought to be practicing "Safe Syburrr Sex"... right? After all, not only can you not be too careful, but perhaps the sensation will be close to the real thing for you :)
|
|
|
|
|
This is too funny... a single "male sub" wrote me out of the blue, his comments in quotes
****
"Love your profile"
Thank you.
"but a little to scary for me"
Well... if you had read the journals? You'd perhaps get the sense that I am not seeking single males.
Therefore, there's really nothing here for you to be scared of as you'll never see this place.
"That was easy, wasn't it ?"
***
Made my night, thanks dude.
|
|
|
|
|
It’s been over a year in the making but my home has been invaded, and far from in a bad way: I have my builder here, ripping apart the bathroom, beams exposed, ceiling to floor.
I’ll end up with a large jacuzzi, new energy efficient toilet, a nice sink, *perhaps* a bidet, and...
I-bolts inserted in the ceiling beams... this to hang bathroom supplies, flowers and such... of course :)
The builder (a wonderfully nice but vanilla man) said, “Wow, you could hang people from those I-bolts!”
If he only knew :)
|
|
|
|
|
(Thanks to my good, long-time and local friend "s" for her editing skills of my current description.)
Presently "on sabbatical," focused on non-lifestyle activities that will more likely bring a return on the investment of my time and energy.
You may write if you wish, I'm just not certain that I will be getting back to you ASAP.
Please know that when I am here, it's not so much for "social networking" as it is a vehicle for meeting compatible persons.
|
|
|
|
|
One of the reasons I spend less time here and on the chat side was an interesting event that recently occurred for me on the chat side, that I think is worthy of sharing:
I was told by an "OP" that I could not use the phrase "gay-dar", which is a spoof on the word "radar". It is a term used in both the gay and straight community in my local real-time area. Said person gave no reason why I could not use it. I was further threatened with being "removed from the room." Which is (if you know me) way down at the bottom of my list of concerns - that's one of the reasons we have a power switch on our computers :)
Anyway ... it strikes me as odd. When I got into the lifestyle, one of the reasons I loved it was because it was not supposed to be "politically correct". You could be who you wanted, not have to adhere to society's "norm", expect to be poked fun of, give it back... "it's all good".
What troubles me in this (on-line anyway) environment, and I am not complaining, only making a statement, is the trend towards being politically correct. It saddens me. We loose some of our freedom when that happens... and hell, the vanilla world works hard at taking our freedoms from us enough already, thank you very much.
I am left to conclude that the migration to politically correct social-networking as the ultimate goal continues. And again... that saddens me.
|
|
|
|
|
(I feel that this is my best profile, as it has substantial, well-rounded in-depth information about me... but it's long and most people do not have the patience to review it in full. It is provided as an historical reference.)
=========================
Greetings:
This is a condensed version of my original profile. Thanks to all who wrote to say they appreciated the clarity and detail of the original.
I am on other sites, so ... if you absolutely *have* to know more about me than the following would express, and right-this-moment, then I suppose you could do a Google ... :)
I am approaching my "search" (Gawd, saying "search" can read as so "desperate" ... ughh) from two perspectives... business and personal.
From a business perspective, I make BDSM-themed videos, and am always interested in hearing from genetic, height-weight proportionate females for paid shoots (thin is just fine, "phat" while pleasant for some, would not be acceptable here). Yes, you may bring your SO if you have one. Two forms of photo ID and a signed model release as well as a copy of a *current & complete* STD test are required. Note that the above is NOT a solicitation for pay-for-play-sex.
From a personal perspective:
- I do not seek a doormat: I adore strong positive-thinking people who are happy with themselves as people and who are actually giving up something when submitting to me.)
- I do not seek a one night stand / one weekend encounter.
- I do not seek a "B.O.R.E" (Bedroom Only Relationship Experience) where we're "only kinky in the bedroom".
- I do not seek someone who wants to "live in a cage 24/7/365." Pah-leeze get real !
- The pictures of my training areas represent just training areas in my home, and do not represent everything about the person that is me. If you are sincerely seeking what I have to offer than you are going to have to work at getting to know me, as I would work at getting to know you. Someone's best expression of genuine interest in someone else is to ask questions.
- I do seek, among other things, sincere, emotionally mature, D&D free, height-weight proportionate persons
(1) preferably a genetic female who is, SINGLE (!!), with no young children depending upon her-as-mommy (while kids are great - I have two adult children who do not live with me - I would never expose children to this environment), as well as open to actively expressing bisexuality even though she might define as "straight" - the woman who would be my live-in partner would recognize what with the films and the training that go on here, other SS&C and STD-free women do pass through, and I will not be going off with someone without my partner by my side.
If the above is a "hard limit" for you, I'd advise you to stop reading now and 'Have a nice day!'.
(2) I am not ruling out a suitable cuck-couple. Operative word "suitable".
This/these person(s) is/are capable of a full-time live-in Long Term Relationship (if not already local to me, then relocating here would obviously be required), "gets-it" that we live in a real world with all of its limitations (but that we work with that), also "gets it" that this is first and foremost about establishing an excellent M/s relationship ... all the rest of it (love etc.) flows from there ... and further that "humiliation" is expected, and relished as one of the most effective training tools ever devised.
- Additionally I do "train", I do "mentor", I do work with M/s couples, I do enjoy real-world friendships. I don't do syburrr-friendships, especially with people I will most likely never meet.
- I have
Click on the 'View Full Profile' button below to read the rest of this profile.
|
|
|
|
|
When I read comments from people who self-define as submissive or slave that read: "I was sent here/told to create a profile here by my Master in order to learn," I have to wonder: why is the Master not doing the teaching? In every real time relationship I have ever had, that's always been my role. What's changed? What have I missed?
Further, while I would never separate my charge from any of her on-line acquaintances, why would I want my charge "learning" here from people she or I do not know in the real world (many of whom by the way they type here would apparently not know which end of a flogger to pick up)?
Welcome to the New Millennium.
|
|
|
|
|
The "Invite To Chat" feature usually crashes or otherwise disables my computer system (Windows XP or LINUX, depending upon my mood).
After repeated attempts, I don't use the "Invite To Chat" feature, preferring one of the numerous third party dedicated chat systems that are available.
You may always ask me for my chat name on one of them (take your pick).
|
|
|
|
|
An e-mail I had written prompted the following response/exchange. This is not a flame directed at anyone or any system, just a statement of facts. "If the shoe fits ...":
Her: "what would you do to me in the dungeon?"
Me:
Oh dear...
Would you have any idea as to how often I get that question from people who have not reviewed or reacted to anything I have written in my full profile (I do not see that you have read my full profile in Collarme's "Who's Viewing Me" section), let alone from people (2) responding to anything I have written to them in an e-mail ?
Answer: I have lost count.
But I can tell you that not long ago, a woman (from the UK, incidentally) [EDIT: Lawrence is located in the USA] did confess to me that she masturbated twice a day and only wanted more of my photos (anyone's photos for that matter) as well as the answer to the question "what would you do to me in your dungeon?" for later masturbation sessions. She wasn't interested in knowing ... Am I experienced? Am I safe/sane/consensual? Do I have references in the real world? Am I legitimate in what I say I am seeking ?
So look: I am serious in my search here. My profile is short, complete and explanatory as was my note to you. Both pieces of texts having taken thought and time to complete (I am selective in who I e-mail), I would expect a similarly sincere candidate/respondent would speak to what I had written either in my profile or in an e-mail to them when writing to me, in an effort to communicate back to me that they were at least interested in knowing about *me* first (before they put their life in my hands, at least in the realm of "edge play") as well as "what I would do in the dungeon?" There is no "pat answer" to that question. Everyone reacts differently: one size definably does not fit all.
If you too are serious in the goals you state in your profile then "read up" on me as a person. If you then feel we share similar points of view (examples of what we would apparently agree on: yes, a slave in not a "a zero limit object," and yes, "we should be lovers and master/slave"), then let's begin an honest dialog that works towards the real world.
If all you want are pictures and hot e-mail, then I'm not your man: My time here is an investment towards an attainable real-world goal [EDIT: maybe I am fishing in the wrong sea here? LOL]. I don't possess so much time to throw away in playing that game.
Incidentally, thetrainingofo which you claim to have recently discovered is indeed good porn. But good porn is *theater*, not reality. I know: I try to make make good porn, and I know people who make good porn. If you are as experienced as you claim to be, I'd suggest that no site would be worth such effusive notice in your profile .... because you would have actually *lived* something better emotionally and spiritually than what you've simply witnessed (on the computer) in anyone's film.
Good luck"
|
|
|
|
|
To those subscribed to my journal (or any one else for that matter) and if you care to know, (1) my main profile text has been re-written / condensed and (2) I have a copy of the original that I can e-mail to you if you want it.
|
|
|
|
|
5/8/08: Yes, the last photo is a sample of my rope work (references available *laughs*).
|
|
|
|
|
I do wish that people on the collarme chat server who wish to get fancy-dancy by using extended mIRC scripts, would take the time to learn how to use them so that they *at the least* do not inconvenience everyone else.
If you are going to drive a stick shift without taking the time to learn how it works, then drive an automatic, and give everyone else a break.
Selflish little kids ... no wonder you're on my "/ignore" list ... LMAO
|
|
|
|
|
4:29: New photos approved, re-ordered. :)
|
|
|
|
|
This is a call for models, NOT a solicitation for sex-for-pay.
I'm partnering with an adult video producer who has distribution contacts. We're planning a BDSM-themed shoot in Upstate New York sometime in the January/February '08 time frame.
Are you a female with *some* acting skills, aged 19 to early 20's (or older, but we prefer that you look that age), mature emotionally (no children of any age, please), D&D Free, bisexual, reasonably attractive & H/W proportionate, (your photo will allow us to be the judge of that) and interested in performing in BDSM films?
Expect no permanent damage or permanent marks, expect to provide 2 forms of photo ID (required) for a one day (4 or so hours), moderately-scripted shoot. All SS&C, consisting of mutually consenting behavior between adults, (think interrogation, "InSex" or "WaterBondage" though not to the extremes of those latter examples).
Several photos of the set are in my profile.
This is a serious offer and strictly business. Send (at least) two vanilla photos for consideration. All sincere responses answered.
|
|
|
|
|
Photo 10 (located at http://www.collarme.com/photos/32700p10.jpg?0.26955) depicts one of my most effective training devices.
NO, this is *not* a TASAR, throwing out a prob, attached by a wire, that embeds in the skin, then, as explained on the TASAR site: "Wires transmit electric pulses to target." TASARS can kill you, and death is a hard limit for me.
Occasionally, someone will say "I can get headstrong ... some have said I am bratty. Someone will give up on me because I am not a doormat." This is totally normal. Given that patience is admittedly in short supply to most, it simply takes a patient dominant to work with you through that state of mind.
On the other hand, some do indeed get very mouthy or they "act out" in order to get attention, attempting to "force the dominant" to "punish" in the moment. This is similar to "topping from the bottom."
For those moments, "The Motivator" gets the subject quickly back on track.
In an instant, attitude turns most serious. The moment is not so silly any longer, nor is there any question that you do not have the dominant's attention.
One little touch puts things very much into perspective.
"When all else fails, the Motivator prevails."
|
|
|
|
|
I logged into a chatroom today, and recognizing I missed an entire thread, nevertheless saw the comment, "mostly give one a false sense of security and a place to observe," which I found to be the perfect definition of syburrrr-play. Well said !
|
|
|
|
|
Notes on the "Cock Farm" Photo 12;
Conversation between me and the driver of the pictured vehical, side by side at a light, both of us yelling across the road where necessary:
Me: Uhhh... Excuse me?
Him: Yeah?
Me: Er, you sell ... cocks?
Him: Yep, sure do.
Me: Hmmm ... People can actually *buy* them?
Him: Sure they can. This is America, right ?
Me: Is business good?
Him: Yep, can't keep up! Har har !
Me: (pause ... I'm thinking "Oh, WTF..")
Mr: OK then, so ... would you sell me one?
Him: Sure! Do you want an aggressive one or a passive one?
Me: Uh, err, uhmmmm, uhhh ... aggressive ... I think ?
Him: Right then. What size do you want?
Me: Errr, uhmmmm... 10 inches ?
Him: Hmmm, that's kinda small for these guys ...
(The light changes, and he's off, never to be seen again. But the photo remains; Yes, that's right: I had a "CockMan" sighting!)
|
|
|
|
|
Technical note: I recognize that there are some minor formatting errors in the text area(s). Since I have been on Collarme ('04), I have yet to understand how the system expects me to cut and paste from a spell-checked text file into the CM text-description area so that the end result is *always* WYSIWYG. I have tried most everything I can think of (yes, I have done the text editor's format/word wrap/on and off trick before copy/paste) and nothing seems to work. After 3 years, that's enough time spent on that. If you are subscribed to my journals and have a reasonable suggestion, feel free to pass it along. Other than that I am done tweaking for WYSIWYG.
|
|
|
|
|
Caution, a few rants/raves/laughs (depending upon your perspective) follow.
I've been cruising profiles of late, and have seen some stunners. What a great entertainment value is Collarme!
Please note that there is no personally identifiable information in this journal entry.
My original of this journal appears to have been deleted, perhaps by
the person (again who I did not mention by name, thus criticizing no
one) using the automated system. Who knows? Who cares? But if that were
the case, they would have had to have reported the profile many many
times through the automated reporting system. If so, I am pleased to
have given them something worthwhile to do with their time, looking
forward to them again wasting their time. *Laughs*
In any case I thought it would be fun to post the journal entry again, still NOT
mentioning the user's name of course (no-no-no, perish the thought!):
Seeking submissive women, these folks claim to have a "school" and had written their profile in the style of a professionally designed college-sales
brochure, going so far as to state that "financial aid" as well as
"on-campus and off-campus housing" were available! Unfortunately the
profile is totally devoid of personality let alone passion. Now ... for
you as a submissive, if that 'floats your boat', then go for it! Write
and I'll send you the user-name. I think that's allowed.
But it's my sense that most will laugh at it along with me. So, live long and prosper, errr, uhhmmmm "Professors" !
Another; a FemDomme (who is actually a couple?) indicated that no
e-mails from men will be read/accepted/whatever unless said male had a lead on a submissive female for them. Gee, sounds like some I would go out of my
way to assist for no renumeration, perhaps not even friendship at the end of the day. "Just give us the lead and go away." Yep, that sure is how the world
works.
I also adore the profiles of the 22 year old males who identify as "Master" ... and have their prom photos in their profiles ... oh pah-leeeze ...
So, is there any doubt that Collarme.com is *the* greatest 'durn entertainment value on the Internet ?
|
|
|
|
|
Yes, I still train. Yes, I work with couples of all genders and persuasions. Yes (obviously) I have the facilities and can host. As well, I have access to a local BDSM Bed & Breakfast. Write for details.
|
|
|
|
|
"s" has found a nice man, and at the moment I am taking a break from training, focusing on family issues.
I would repeat that I do not do poly as it pertains to the person I would have share my life.
|
|
|
|
|
Gotta' love the new "Who's Viewing Me" feature. It's apparent that the majority of people are viewing the photos, not the profile, and if they write, they are writing to the photos and not to the man. If this is you, it'll be obvious to me, so don't expect a response unless I have nothing better to do.
I'd especially like to thank all who define as "straight male submissive", "married women" (whose husbands don't know of their interests), and women who claim to be "deliriously happy" with their master/dom who've browsed me. Good luck in finding what you seek here !
|
|
|
|
|
Answering a common question, yes I have several "play areas";
Area One
is on the ground floor, has rugs, music, a 1/2 bathroom, etc., and
could be described as "your typical nicey-nice play area." Maybe
someday I will get around to posting photos, but why bother? You can see dozens of similar shots in the next profile.
Area Two
(pictured) is... dark, dank, dirty and well ... delicious. It has
running water, a drainage system, and several restraining stations. It is more severe and provides a totally different mental and
physical environment... after all, environment has a great deal to do
with head space. It would be prudent to not jump to conclusions about
what you think you see on the walls.
|
|
|
|
|
As there is no category for "race play" on collarme, if you are a person of color who has an interest in that area ... ask.
|
|
|
|
|
All "JAVA Chat Requests" are blocked at my end. Sorry but it just doesn't work for me. If you want to chat, I suggest that you use the "Chatrooms" feature, then enter the following command in the text line:
/query Lawrence111
You'll get a new window into which you may type a note directly to me, and if I am on-line I will respond.
|
|
|
|
|
Notes on the photos:
#1 & #2 are of Area Two. More to follow (see #7 below)
#3 - My border collie, photo-shopped by S. Yes, this is an illusion.
#4 - A real sign, at a lady's salon, phone and name photoshopped out and my text inserted by s. I get a laugh every time I see it in the street.
#5 - A Thought For The Day from a "Twue Submissive"
#6 - My border collie once again, groovin' in the snow.
#7 - A feature of Area Two.
#8 - Multi-functional table located in the Fireplace Room (see journal entry for 10/05/2006 below).
#9 - This stainless steel collar made by VadFarkas on this site is shower-safe, and locks in place with a tamper-proof security screw. Once secured, it stays secured (unless there is an emergency), the antithesis of the all too common "velcro-collar".
|
|
|
|
|
Thought for the day: Forget your "lost little girls" who may not yet know it but who will in the end submit to most anyone rather than be alone. Give me a strong woman any day, a woman perfectly capable of standing on her own, a powerful woman, powerful enough emotionally and physically to surpass me, who instead decides to trust me with her need (vs. want) to submit the core of herself to a man she feels to be worthy of her.
|
|
|
|
|
The table is in my fireplace room (NOT "Area One"). As you can see, it looks rather vanilla, and is certainly used for those purposes. However, it is rock-solid, no one moves once attached there. Other uses include waxing and stretching.
|
|
|
|
|
I think people here get confused here about the "CHAT" function, so I would like to clarify where I am coming from when I use it.
I started using IRC back during the first Gulf War ('91) when it started to become popular as a way for the troops to stay in touch with the folks back home. It's great that the technology has been made easier with web browsers and all, but I would suggest that some people might want to do a bit of research in order to understand some of the established conventions (that have been around since before they were) before they publicly blast someone for doing what has always been accepted as OK in the *rest* of the chat world (DALNet, UNDERnet, etc).
Here on collarme.com, CHAT is set up to work with a web browser, which is all well and good (as well as simple), but CHAT here can also be accessed via dedicated IRC clients such as "mIRC" and "Trillian", which I have been using for years (If you use the above software, just point your IRC software to "/server www.collarme.com" and hit return) .
I use it because I find dedicated IRC clients much more flexible. You can see a list of channels (what folks call "rooms"), you can create a new channel, you can see who is in a channel before you join that channel, you can easily send a private message (something I like to do because I find it next to impossible to have a conversation with someone while in a channel, especially when lots of people are typing at the same time), you can see how long someone has been idle, if the person knows how to set up their "/whois" and have entered information about themselves, you can see if they are spoken for or not. In short, there are lots of benefits to dedicated IRC clients.
For years, the convention has been that it is rude to send someone a PM from within a channel that you are both a part of without asking first. This is understandable.
But nowhere is it written that you can NOT send someone a private message (a "PM") from *outside* the channel. People have been doing this for years, and there is nothing wrong with it. The recipient has the right to reply or not.
Those are two of the established conventions, folks, and they make sense.
If you are the recipient and are bothered by the PM, you can simply use the IRC convention called "/ignore" and all the sender's communications to you, both private and public, will be blocked from your sight. What that we could sometimes do that in the real world !
What I have found to be annoying *here* is that some people who are new to IRC (who have only used a browser, not dedicated IRC software) do not understand this latter convention, an established practice. Because the "ask when in channel" convention is *all* that most people know, they presume that any unsolicited PM is "bad."
Get a clue, this just isn't true!
I usually will look in a channel before entering in (yes, this is something that one can do with a dedicated IRC client) and if I see someone I know, or would like to know, then send them a non-threatening, friendly PM. It's their choice to respond or not, "/ignore" me or not, etc.
I suggest folks get educated before complaining. I'd be happy to talk with anyone who has respectful questions, or differing points of view. |
|
|
|
|
I am glad to have met some nice folks here. However, and while I rarely rant, I do have a pet peeve:
If you write or talk to me *and are married or in some kind of relationship, I am not interested!* I have a limited amount of time and need to spend it developing a relationship for myself. If you are committed in some relationship, you are clearly not available to me as a potential partner, so please don't waste either of our times.
|
|
|
|
|
I discovered a while back that the IRC client "mIRC" (or even the multi-chat client "Trillian") work well for the chat portion of this service, and evidentally it is not against the rules to use them. I find either to be much more versatile and stable than the java/web client. If you have questions on either software package, drop me a note. |
|
|
|
|
I've enjoyed some of the communications I have had with Users here, and look forward to more in the future. I've been busy with my music, so if you happen to write and I do not get back to you immediately, please be patient. Thank you :) |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
