Tip - Casual does not mean random stranger.  Nor does it mean you can go straight to discussing sex on your first message.  Even casual meetups require attraction, and with my interests they require trust.  

Merry Christmas to all!

In lieu of the holidays, a few smooth reminders to the people who contact me.

1. I'm really.....really....REALLY not looking for a relationship.  Your offers of collars and "something more" are immediate turnoffs for me.  They hold absolutely not interest.  I am not being rude when I turn you down, I am being honest.  No point in either of us wasting our time.
2. When you ask me what I'm looking for.  I'm going to direct you to my profile.  I'm very clear, as far as I can tell, on what it is I'm looking for in my profile.  I shouldn't need to repeat myself constantly because you can't read a few lines of text.
3. Don't make assumptions.  Fantasist doesn't equate to new.  I've been around the block a good few times.  I know what I'm doing, I know how to stay as safe as I possibly can, and I don't need to be taken in hand and taught all about the big bad world.
4. Humiliation and abuse are not equal.  If your idea of humiliation is to call me a useless ugly fat pig over and over again, I can assure you, you're not having the effect you're hoping to have.  That's not humiliation, it doesn't affect me whatsoever, and it's exceptionally easy to ignore.

For the people who've messaged me not under the assumption I'm an idiot, thankyou.  I'm looking forward to the plans I've made with some of you very much, and I can't wait for the new year.  Happy Holidays!