1. Be dependable- this means to come if you say you are coming.. this means to contact me if you are late.. this means to let me know if you can’t come. This is important whether dominant or submissive. It is common courtesy.
2. Be honest. If you can’t make it, tell me. If you don’t want to, say you don’t. If you aren't honest in everyday things, how can I trust you enough to play with you?
3. Communicate- I’m not needy or clingy. But a little “hey how’s your day” every now and then, or just some time to talk when you aren't red hot horny, will go a long way. How else do you get to know each other well enough to do the things we do?
4. Be public. I don’t care if you are shy. I don’t care if you are private. (in regards to going to a public event) Refusing to be seen SOMEwhere with me is a red flag.
5. Be willing to do some vanilla things. Get together for dinner. Go to a movie. Stay in for a movie. Take a walk in the park, with no promise of anything kink related or sexual. It doesn't have to cost you anything but time. There has to be a connection other than lifestyle.
6. Have SOMETHING in common with me outside of fetishes. Like the same documentary. Enjoy the same music. Have something to talk about in our down time, because we can’t always be up.
7. Listen to me. Hear what I say. If I say it, believe it.
8. Expect all these things from me. Because these things are not Dominant things.. nor submissive things.. These are HUMAN BEING things.