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Friday, May 15, 2009

Reminder for all who going to meet someone ofline ...Safemeet

Reminder for all who going to meet someone ofline ...: I am re posting this for 1 of My sub friends/sis .
she going to have a meet ..hopefully a safe meet.
I wishe her the best time possible
well anyone else need this reminder 2 ..
stay safe no matter what!!!!!

PLEASE read on ...I need to stress this because to many people
regardless vanilla or lifestyle meet without safety .

safety for there
very own life .think about it twice and make your safety check up on
everyone you wanna meet.

SAFETY
Emotional Safety
No,
pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart
as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal. Here are
some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1)Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to
admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking
for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking
for love and romance, be up-front about it. If you are dishonest about
what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.

2)Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are
too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM
gossip.

3)If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once
again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to
them.

4)Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a
prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN.
Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're
getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about
what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe
everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell
you, and always, check it out. 5)If
a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else on-line about
them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up
with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with
EXTREME
caution.

6)If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal
information after you've already given yours, then take it as a
warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7)Don't get dragged into on-line gossip. It may be fun for awhile, but
eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people
on-line who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.
8)Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And
above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
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More on Safe Calls
Note:
These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't
cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental,
physical and emotional health could be at risk. Do
what's right for you, but consider these or similar suggestions very
seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity for the
first time.{there shouldnt be any BDSM activity on first Meet} Any
Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy should have no problems
with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that should
be a warning signal that they are not what they appear to be. The
following information should be given to the person(s) receiving your
safe calls: Your full name Your home address and phone number Make,
model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving
yourself, or Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car
information, etc.) if you are using other transportationALL the
information you have on person you are meeting, including:
Their full
name and screenname(s) or
logon ID(s)
Their address and phone number(s)
Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person
you are meeting.Pass on to your safe call person(s): Where you are
meeting The name of place you are meeting The
address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable)
{THERE SHOULDNT BE A MEET IN A HOTEL ROOM}

and phone number (if you do
not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call) When you
are meeting - time and date {ALWAYS A PLACE IN PUPLIC} The phone number
for the local police in the town you are meeting
Be sure to have agreed and understood codewords for your safe call, one
indicating that everything is ok, and one indicating that you need
help. The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the
established meeting time. The second phone call should be made within
30 minutes {OR EARLIER}after the first. The
third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before
leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first. The fourth
phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting. If
the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no
less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then proceed
with the departing call and the last call SAFE CALLS From:
"acquiescent" safety thank you
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?How can they help? Many times people are so eager to meet and/or have
a session they forget about Safety. A Safe Call is a call that is used
when you are meeting your partner real time. It is a way of letting
someone know who you are going to be with, where you are going to go
and gives a way for that person to contact you to make sure that what
you thought was going to happen, does. Set up for either you or your
Safe Call to call you either at a specified time. If it is at a
specified time, then it is your responsbiity to call your Safe Call
within a half hour either way of the designated time agreed to. If your
Safe Call is the one making the call, to be sure that you are ok. If in
either case you cannot be reached or spoken to, it is the
responsibility of the Safe Call to contact the authorities, whether the
Hotel Manager or the police from the city you are in. Another method of
using a safe-call is to decide upon two code phrases, which would sound
normal to a person over-hearing the conversation, but that would
signify either 'all ok' or 'trouble'. Such phrases can range from 'my
head hurts' to 'I will be missing the last bus so don't worry if I take
the train'. Obviously, adjust the phrases to your environment. Who can
you have as a Safe Call?? Anyone you trust with the information you get
from your partner. The information is not for personal use but to use
in a case of true emergency. Whether it is your mom, dad, sister, close
friend or even someone you know online that you feel comfortable with.
DO NOT go unless SOMEONE knows you are meeting your partner..!!!! The
FIRST MEETING should ALWAYS be in a public place. By having a Safe Call
you are at least taking care not only of yourself but of those you are
leaving behind, if something goes awry with the meeting. You should NOT
plan on playing/scening at this first meeting. Use this time to get to
know each other socially and get to know the personal you. It is also a
time to make sure that the chemistry is right between you both. If it
is not - it's ok. Not everyone you meet for the first time is going to
be that instant attraction. But be honest about it. What you both said
online/telephone may in fact NOT be what the reality is when you meet.
It is far better to know in the beginning than to keep on and hurt for
a lifetime later. It's up to you to make sure that someone knows what
is going on so that you can get help if you need it. Take care of you
for yourself and your loved one's
.~Mommah Passion aka Jade

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