New vent today...Sorry I can't help myself just because it irked me so badly.

SOOOOO you read all these post from Doms that there are so many FAKE subs...they don't know what they want.  Or they back out at the last minute...blah blah blah

Are you fucking kidding me?  Sorry I warned you it was a rant...

If they backed out maybe they didn't feel safe or maybe they decided something YOU said turned them off.  I mean I know they want to be owned and they want to be treated a certain way but damn... did you think you earned that in the first 5 minutes talking to them?

No matter if they say they want to be property. They are still PEOPLE with MINDS and HEARTS...I know shame on them for thinking they have the right to think or feel.  

Bad subs! Your so terrible and don't deserve anything like respect, consideration, safety, sanity or consensuality (if thats a word).  Let me squish you under my shoe like the dirty bug you are.  (sarcasm really dripping here) 

If you are a Dominant your job is to lead, to control, and to take care of the person who is submitting to you.  It does not matter if you are a Sadist or Female Supremist. Old School or Old Guard. And the list goes on and on.

Another person puts their physical, mental and emotional well-being into your hands...Shut the fuck up and EARN their trust.  You all sound like Tarzan beating on your chest..."Me Tarzan you worthless worm"

And just for the record this is NOT just directed at male Dominants...there is ALOT of female Domme's who have worse opinions and actions then alot of the male doms.  Hell I read one Domme say so and so choked at the last minute...I told you I would let all the other Dommes know.  

Are you in 3rd grade?  I am going to tell on you! (Insert foot stomping and crying here)  I would have choked on your ass too.  Obviously you need to recognize you're really not a Domme but a little girl trying to play grown up games.

I will never forget the wises words a man said to me once.  "If I have to tell you I am dominant than who am I trying to convinence me or you?" He told me "A true dominant never has to say a word, never has to wear a sticker that says I am Dominant, he or she just is. When that person walks in a room they command attention without saying a word." He told me, "If you can do that, then you know you are ready to lead someone else."  Until that day, soak up every bit of education you can and learn who you are before you try to lead another.

So that is my advice to all those wanna-be Doms.  

OK so here is my rant for the day.  Why?  Cause I can.  So I had a sub approach me and I politely turned him down.  He ask why? which is fair and not offensive to me.  So I proceed to tell him.  He was basically very negative about how he viewed himself and projected himself in his profile.

If you see yourself with no self worth how can you expect someone else to see you with value.  It doesn't matter if you're short, fat, old, maybe you have average looks or maybe below average...part of what makes you attractive is your pride in yourself.  Why would you want someone else to want you if you don't want yourself?

I mean seriously, I hate the word fat but ok...I am fat.  But I am attractive, and smart, successful and proud of who I am as a person.  If someone else can't see it then why do I need them in my life.  And that goes for subs too.  Be proud of who you are and what you are.  If you dont like something then change it for yourself not because someone wants you too. If you want to be seen as something valuable then you have to believe you are.  

OH THANK HEAVENS the holidays are over.  I love the family and all but damn I am tired.  I feel like I am more exhausted now than any other time in the year.  Now comes all the work of putting everything away and now trying to figure out what to do with all the new stuff.   

ok so I am thinking of going to lifestyle explorers tonight...I wonder if I told the male subs I was going how many would show up and make a request to show up? hmmmm the possibilities

OK so I have been seeing profiles and I am just venting today but hey maybe it just because it has been a day from hell. 

I am domme and you must give tribute to show your sincere...Are you fucking serious?  

Why don't you just go stand on a corner?

And it's you bitches who give real Domme's a bad name.  The loyalty of sub and the GIFTS of a sub shows no limits once you prove you are for real.  I have never had to say bring money, jewelry, flowers, take me to dinner etc to a sub.  Once they know you're as giving with your time and CARE.  Yes I said TIME and CARE, you are a Dominant therefore it is YOUR responsibility to take TIME and CARE for your toy.  

Now on the flip side of that it is the sub's job to treasure the time and care you give but damn if you have to be paid for just stand on a corner and call it a day.

Ok I know I am a bit slow and thank you to those that have patience.  I have a full box of emails and I promise I will start working on them this weekend.  Life is finally reaching the calm aspect again so I should be back to par soon.

I know I have a box full of emails but I am going to ask everyone bares with me.  I will get to them as soon as I can.  We lost my daughter's father earlier this week and well life is a bit rough right now.  

Ok boys and girls, I need you to have a little patience with me.  I am getting ready to move, it is locally but there is lots to do as I am sure you understand.  Not to mention work has been a little insane.  I am more than happy to chat and get to know you but meetings are temporarily on hold until after the move which is the end of July.  

ok I just have to ask.  Am I really that odd individual when I say receiving oral doesn't really do anything for me?  

Sorry guys I am more than just a lollipop.

We shall call this my personal rant for the day. 

WHY IS IT A OLDER SUB/SLAVE APPROACHES YOU AND SAYS I KNOW I AM OLDER BUT... 

What makes age a ruling factor?  OK maybe the younger subs are easy to corrupt, to my way of thinking.  But an older sub is more mature, secure financially so they are not looking for a mommy.  NO I don't need your money, but I do love to be pampered.  They know a little bit more of who they are.  The older generation tends to know how to treat a lady.  Open doors, pull out chairs etc...Things that are old fashion respect...

The younger subs have to be told to do those things. I mean really, where did all the lessons in respect a woman go?  Is this a sign of the times changing?  Holy Moses if it is, I pity our future generations of women.  

So to the older subs, if you think you are too old you probably are not because of your age but because you think you are.  

Younger subs, step back and learn something from the older ones.  

Turning 40 next Monday the 14th.  Did I really just look in the mirror and realize I am this old?  Damn where did time go while I was having fun?

 I knew a woman once who used to say  "too many subs,  not enough time." And I hated it because I believe submission is gift that is offered and should not be cast aside easily.  However I will now say..." too many subs, not enough time." There are TOO many subs who are seeking Dominants, and I often hear not enough Dominants,  especially real Dominant women. Don't waste my time with I want Mistress but you are not willing to work to get to that level.  I understand work, I even understand vacations but I do not understand, NO communication.  I dont know, call me a control freak but I want to know where my toy is at all times, or at least most of the time.