Trough the years spent in the life style learning I have come across many interesting things that helped me see something else then I used to see (it still happens as I learn more) and I feel the need to share with you some of this things. 

And I will start with a very interesting classification of the types of submission done by Diane Vera around 1984.

D/S LIFESTYLE

THE 9 LEVELS OF SUBMISSION

The following isn't intended as a rigid classification. It was written by Diane Vera and published in The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, edited by Pat Califia, from Lace/Alyson Press, Boston, 1988, reissued 1990 (still in print).

Within the S/M subculture, different people use the words "submissive and slave" to mean many different things. When submissives say "I want to be your slave," sometimes they mean only that they want to be tied up and whipped. Many professional dominants routinely refer to their (usually _not_ very genuinely submissive clients) as "slaves." At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants, and who truly want to exist solely for their Dom(me)'s use, pleasure and convenience. And there are many shades in between these two extremes.

1.THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST.Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensatons rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).

2.PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Not into even playing "slave," but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.

3.PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshipers).

4.TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).

5.TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

6.UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE. Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.

7.PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE. Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please dom(me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom(me) has first pick of the slave's free time.

8.FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE. Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom(me)'s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially of the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.

9.CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS. A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I've met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases I have reason to doubt the claim.

Of course from this 9 levels of submission are many derivations but it is a simple approach that helps one understand more about who and what he/she is. Wit this classification comes the complementary one of the.. domination depending on what type of submissive would a Dominant want, care, can have. 

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My limits:
- Children
- Scat
- Blood
- Mutilation
- Dolcet and cannibalism (I don't even know why some crazy bastards would add this shi.. stuff under the life style.. it's grotesque)
- Needles, nails, knifes and anything related as long as they damage my skin
- Broken bones and internal hemorrhages
- Insects, snakes
- Exposure for long period of times to extreme cold and very high temperatures (ex.: being left out in the snow, being forced next to a fire and left there for long periods of time)
- Canes (I actually have a love/hate relationship with them and this would be one of my soft..er limits)
- Never submit to women
- forced into ingesting or tasting chemicals(mouth soaping; dangerous drugs; etc.)

- Anything harmful to my health and my life

Few examples of things I am into, interested to try, fantasies that might be even remain that... :)

1. sadism/masochism
2. breast bondage, nipple play, breasts and nipple torture,
3. ritualistic BDSM sessions, initiation rites
4. humiliation and not too heavy forms of degradation
5. pain (especially breast pain and genital pain); love to take pain knowing that that will please and arouse my Master and he would tell me how please he is with me taking it.
6. orgasm denial and forced orgasm,
7. oral sex,
8. masturbation, mutual, forced
9. vaginal fisting and genital torture
10. bbc (and no, not the network television.. can you believe I actually have been asked that a few times?! *facepalms*)
11. dark skin men - Partners of other nations or races (not only, don't worry)
12. Aroused by sounds (voices, music, German language - which I know very little but I consider it the language meant for BDSM sessions)
13. being utterly in love, obeying, trusting and completely in lust
14. intelligent, demanding, calm, with great sense of humor, that knows when to be subtle, taller (then me 162 m approx. 5 ft 3 inch. so I guess pretty much any man would be taller then me lol), elegant men with commanding presence
15. being dominated by someone who has a mental strength that doesn't cower to my intelligence, but conquers it,
16. being overpowered, being owned...body, mind, heart and soul,
17. being naked while my Master is clothed (business suit; masquerades outfits, etc.)
18. fuck me like a whore, but treat me like your queen
19. abduction and rape role play (role play=play a role under consensual terms)
20. affection, love, care, aftercare
21. dirty talk
22. dual and multiple penetration
23. gags,
24. chains
25. flogging,
26. belts (belt spanking/whipping, belt strapping)
27. certain kinds of whips.. the less skin damaging ones (of course it's always a matter of how you use a whip)
28. hairbrush spanking
29. paddling
30. crops
31. light biting,
32. breath play,
33. clamps and clips, clothespins, weights
34. deep throating,
35. corsets,
36. ballet shoes,
37. harnesses (leather, rope)
38. exposing cloths
39. chastity belts, chastity devices
40. face slapping,
41. fisting,
42. ice cubes
43. animal tail butt plugs, animal training, pony girl
44. anonymous bareback or cream pie (now this is a fantasy and I am not so sure if I would be able to ever do it but maybe.. just maybe with the right Master, in the right D/s relationship, with strong bonds and IF he'd ask me to, I would do my best to please him)
45. anonymous breeding, (see above)
45. lactation (induced, forced, etc.), milking machines
46. Hairless genitals
47. Perfume
48. Having someone had their genitals against me or fondling parts of my body without my consent
49. Even if I don't like to be burned, the idea of being marked as a sign of belonging to my Master it really intrigues me. Could as well be a piercing
50. breasts and pussy suction
51. dilation, expansion of body parts - body modification
52. forced exercise (ex.: combined with sexual arousal and orgasm control)
53. bestiality (fantasy and I am doing it in rp only on SL)
54. latex
55. leather and the smell of it
56. rubber
57. pvc
58. cling wrap, mummification
59. masks and gas masks, hoods
60. cages
61. subspace
62. toys and devices (they call me "The Avon Lady of the sex toys" because I have about 10,000 US dollars worth of them)
63. medical play (examinations, catheters, controlled bath use, forced wetting, etc.)
64. school play
65. curious about slavery (it is my deep believe that eve though I would only start a relationship as a submissive, under the right Master, in time, I would be able to grow into his slave)
66. worshiping
67. begging
68. being a teaser
69. committing acts that are being considered to be sinful and punished for them
70. men of all ages (older would be a bit better though due to life experience, maturity and something I've learn about most older men, *chuckles* their list of kinks can be most impressive) 
71. Excitement from knowing that others are aware of a persons sexual activities
72. rp and rl control and domination
73. being spit on
74. cum - body fluids
75. being dominated and totally humiliated by a group of Doms at a private party (never tried it so a fantasy at the thought of which I get shiver but in the same time being threatened with it it might get you what you want... I know it sounds contradictory but it has psychological explanations)  
76. Ecouteurism - Listening to others having sex without permission
77. power exchange
78. hair pulling
79. being hooded and used, forced to pleasure
80. being hugged by strong safe arms,
81. being humiliated and tortured for an audience (private party)
82. pushed up against a wall and taken passionately or by force.. or both :)
83. being shown off at a kink party,
84. being stretched
85. having dirty things written all over my body
86. being watched
87. ass play
88. enemas
89. being forced to wear insertable toys out in public with wireless remote controls,
90. forced into public bondage under clothing
91. not wearing underwear and bras
92 wooden pony - crotch punishment (I know it can be painful and very uncomfortable but this is a fantasy so far)
93. kneeling
94. clit & pussy spanking/flogging, torture, pain
95. gag reflex training (ex.: wearing a dildo gag for hours that would be pushed in further little by little - still a fantasy)
96. squirting
97. crawling with a belt in my mouth knowing I'm about to be... belted with it :)
98. discipline
99. domestic rituals/rules/structure, domestic servitude - discussed before hand
100. drooling, gagging
101. face sitting (both giving and receiving)
102. high heels
103. fishnets
104. forced exposure and nudity
105. French maid
106. forced glory hole - fantasy 
107. grooming (on regular basis - I am a bit germophobic so I tend to be.. overly clean; or as a part of a ritual session)
108. having my labia spread wide open so my clit stands out
109. having my head pinned in place against a hard surface, foot job
111. weights
112. lace
113. looking up during a blow job
114. rough sex
115. forced to masturbate in a pubic places
116. golden showers - tried once but only.. "shower" 
117. golden douching - fantasy
118. golden enema - fantasy
119 medinever lived it but I want so much to try it)
122. pantyhose/stockings
123. posture collars
124. build up sexual tension
125. suffering for my Master's pleasure
126. swallowing
127. my hitachi wands (I have a tendency to burn them so I buy 2 at the time just in case)
128. very curious about erotic hypnosis - tried some.. I'm not easily hypnotisable but it seams that after a while might.. move something there :)
129. hooks (vaginal and anal)
130. furious sex after an argument
131. erotic lectures used for setting up a certain.. mind set or even used as punishment
132. forced humiliating name change
133. cyber, phone, virtual interaction and even sex; the secret admirer scenario, etc.
134. I have no piercings in rl but I would love to be pierced for my Master as a sign of belonging/love/devotion...
135. Serving (maid, waitress, pony girl, ashtray, tray holder, orally, etc.)
136. clit vibrators/massager
137. alpha males
138. forced ingestion of aphrodisiacs - NO illegal drugs...
139. mind controlling and mind fuck
140. bukkake - fantasy
141. trained to cum on command, count down or even without touching
142. conditioning
143. cuddling and spooning
144. Discomfort during sex (rough edge of a table as counterpoint to pleasure; cold stone versus hot flesh; position is uncomfortable at first but then becomes perfect; penetration is painful, then pleasurable)
145. Erotic torture
146. forced to wear slutty makeup and cloths
147. Public displays of affection
148. rough sex
149. seduction
150. Sensory overload or enhancement
151. riding someone's fingers or an object
152 Simultaneous orgasm
153. autonomic arousal from proximity
154. night time and morning wake-up sex
155. forced tattoo
156. telepathy, empathy 
157. corporal punishment
158. dress codes
159. training

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As I said before, this is a list with title of example and as some of you might recognize it, I have used as help examples ob site. Very helpful. Some of them might be repeating but I think it's more important to get the point :)

Characteristics I admire in a Dominant:
1. Maturity
2. Experience
3. Self control
4. Sense of humor (a truly intelligent man always has a great sense of humor)
5. Educated
6. Wise
7. Passionate
8. Able to commit 
9. Not poly
10. Open minded
11. Willing to experience and experiment with me as any things as possible
12. Knowledgeable about the human nature and women
13. Elegant, and with fine tastes
14. Eclectic tastes in general
15. A man that stands up for his word
16. A man that know that you can never play games with someones body nor feelings
17. A man who knows how to change behaviors by the power of example
18. A man that I can look up to
19. Open 
20. Willing to developing a great communication between us
21 Humble but self confident
22. Loving and caring and aware that this are action words
23. Trustworthy
24. A strong Master
25. A man who would love me for what and who I am and of course take the time to know me and "get" me
26. A man who would not want to change me but to help me grow into a better person for us, for him and for myself
27. A man capable of respect
28. A well spoken man
29. A man who would not try to kill my passions and dreams but that would indulge with me in the passion and support me in my dreams
30. A man always willing to learn understanding that this li in general is a continuous learning and growing process. 
31. Not a bossy bastard with a domineering attitude that things that that makes him a Dominant, a man who would not ask me to kneel for him just because he has a dominating nature but because he managed to put a collar around my heart, win my trust and respect and with that my submission. 
32. A man who made peace with his past
33. A man who would not be afraid of falling in love
34. A man that I can count on and a true protector
35. A man able to get into my mind and my heart and make sure he remains there
36. A people person
37. A man who'd not forbid me to have friends and family and respecting my relationships with them
38. A man that would get involved in my life and who would be able to extend his dominance and control over it
39. A lover, my god, my everything.

This list is an exemplificative one and not a limitative one. I am a wear of the fact that it is very possible that such a man to not exist out there but, I do know for sure that through the right D/s relationship, which should bring out the best in U/us, one can discover it's most hidden qualities and talents or even become more then he/she ever dreamed. 

- A born leader but born to submit to My One
- I am like the Alpha Female Wolf. She'd be standing out in the patch that she'll be rulling over. She will only bow to the Supreme Alpha Male. The One that can dominate Her even if He has to do it trhrough violence. But once that physical, animalic, primitive Male takes His mate, She is dominated by Him, She only gives Herself to Him and She will mate for life. I will fight until the last bit of resistance is gone and all that's left is obedience.
- Don't treat Me like I'm already your submissive.
- I'm not playing hard to get, I am hard to get.
- The price of my love? If you have to ask, you can't afford it.
- I have eclectic tastes, including BDSM wise. Have an open mind or don't waste your breath.
- D/s for me it's based on unconditional love, trust with your life, exeptional communication, total openness, lust... If one of them is missing, I call it marriage.
- I AM NOT POLY
- Looking for a relationship that eventually would extend in RL