Integrity, respect, honesty, loyalty, obedience -- above all else.

The below is subject to changes.

YOU, D-E-S-C-R-I-P-T-I-O-N

Name/Username
What name do you go by online, in public?
Age
Race (We aren't racist, but I'm trying to be as in-depth as possible here.)
Hair color/length
Facial hair (if any)
Eye color
Height
What sort of shape are you in?/Weight
Location
Sexual Orientation
Marital & Relationship Status
Number of Children/Are they independent? (I ask this only because we aren't looking to have someone else's young children living with us.)
Religion/Tolerant?

LIFESTYLE

Experience (This does not mean years -- I want details)
References

Major fetishes
Limits (what you won't do)
Limitations (what you can't do)
Phobias

NON-KINK

Do you have a driver's license/vehicle?

What is your personality like?
What is your sense of humor?

What TV shows/movies do you enjoy?
What kind(s) of music do you enjoy? What kind(s) do you hate?

Do you like to read? What?
What are your hobbies?

What do you do for fun?
Specific: Do you ever go to the bar/karaoke?
Specific: How do you feel about RPGs? Video games? Card games? Tabletop games?

What types of animals do you like?
What are your favorite foods?
Can you cook? What kinds of food? (If it's just following instructions on a box or bag, let me know. That's still something.)
Cleaning Skills

What is your education level?
What kinds of talents do you have?
Are you employed? If so, what is your field? If not, do you support yourself?
Are you able to travel, if you aren't local?
Are you able to pack and move without our help (aside from unpacking)?

MEDICAL

Do you take any medications?
Allergies
Other medical issues (including chronic pain and diabetes, for example)
Do you have any past issues? (We can talk later.)

OTHER

Are there any specific traits that you think will stand out?
Flaws
Is there anything else you want me to know?

Some of my preferred ways to punish a disobedient slave may include:

• ignoring said slave (possibly while giving them a list of chores to do)
• leaving said slave at home when my Husband go out
• writing assignments
• ordering the slave to hold difficult positions for a period of time
• giving the slave lines to do
• being bound and ignored

You might be given a task that isn't within the usual parameters of your duties.

I prefer not to use spanking, but if I do you can bet it won't be fun.

I might decide to humiliate the slave at a local gathering.

I could decide to request that my Husband punish the slave. I guarantee you that punishment would be far from fun. If I am so upset that it isn't wise for me to be the punisher and I'm willing to enlist someone else's help, you are in trouble. Also, He won't be happy at being enlisted -- especially with a male slave. It is also useful to humiliate the slave by not even deigning to be the one to punish them.

Simply denying a punishment to someone who begs to be punished, if effective with the slave, may be done.

Humiliating tasks may be used.

The final punishment, if a slave refuses to learn, would be release from my collar. This is not always a punishment, as it can be done if things are simply not working.

That should give any potential slave some idea of what to expect if they misbehave.

From finding each other to meeting:

Stage 1•Initial connection
• <(time period: N/A)> •
Stage 2•Exchange emails
• <(time period: to the satisfaction of both parties, limited to a reasonable length of time)> •
Stage 3•Real-time online chat (IM) just the two of us
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 4•IM with my Husband, so three of us
• <(time period: TBD)> •
~~~~~~~~~>>Meet in person, all three of us, outside the home

From meeting in person to moving in:

Stage 5•In-person meetings outside the home, the three of us
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 6•In-person meetings outside the home, the two of us without my Husband, which may or may not happen
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 7•"Sessions" in the home to test, with my Husband home
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 8•"Sessions" in the home with my Husband not home
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 9•Draw up and discuss pertinent contracts.
• <(time period: TBD)> •
~~~~~~~~~>>Slave moves in.

From moving in to full commitment:

Stage 10•Slave lives in the home and serves domestically.
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 11•Slave progresses to masochist duties, in addition.
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 12•If female, the relationship progresses to sex. If male, the slave may be permitted to discuss the possibility of sex outside the relationship.
• <(time period: TBD)> •
Stage 13•If still compatible, the slave is collared, and a mark is discussed -- to come later if determined to be desired.
• <(time period: TBD)> •
~~~~~~~~~>>The commitment is complete.

This is a general idea, not set in stone.

Pertinent Fetishes and Desires:

• Bondage
• Spanking/Flogging/etc.
• Foot Worship (or Care)
• Massage
• Domestic Slavery
• Ownership Marks -- not necessarily a requirement
• Collars

Limits/Limitations:

• extreme pain (giving)
• rimming (giving)
• bodily waste/excrements (including vomit)
• needles of any kind
• the use of electric devices for play -- soft limit
• face slapping (giving and receiving)
• fire play/burning (does not include branding by professionals)
• blood play
• cutting
• pegging
• sissy boys

Turn-Offs:

• smokers of any kind, the smell of smoke
• anyone who drinks more than socially, or to a level of being out of control
• anyone who uses tobacco in any form
• pony & puppy boys -- kitty girls might be okay, if it's not all the time
• being begged
• people under age 21
• sissy boys

Moralities/Standards:

• I will not aim to injure someone, whether temporary or permanent.
• I will not participate in any sexual or sadomasochistic act with anyone under the influence of drugs or alcohol of any kind, including but not limited to cigarettes, cigars, tobacco, and marijuana. This also extends to preion medications.
• I will not smoke or use tobacco, cigarettes, cigars, or marijauana.
• I will not drink to the point of getting drunk, with rare exceptions.
• I will not participate in any sexual or sadomasochistic act while I am under the influence of alcohol or preion medications.
• I will not have my slave marked by someone who is not a professional.
• I am not interested in the Mommy role or having another little in the home.

Duties (all slaves):

• You will be required to clean (including dishes, laundry, counters, anything that needs to be done). This also includes scooping the litter box and possibly cleaning it out when it is emptied. We keep masks on hand so you don't have to breath in the dust.
• Some light cooking may be required, but that is not a for-sure. This is mostly to give me a break and so He has no need to take over when I am not up for it.
• You will be required to contribute to household expenses.
• You may be required to give me massages. Experience isn't necessarily required, but is helpful. We can help direct you. He may also require massages.

Kajirae Duties:

• You will be required to serve drinks and food, most likely Gorean style. If you don't know how to do it this way, you must be willing to learn.
• Eventually, you will be involved in sexual acts with the both of us. This may include but is not limited to giving and receiving oral, fingering, use of toys, nipple play, and other such acts.
• You will be naked around the home at all times, unless otherwise required.

The following duties are a third category. They will required of the kajira if she is the only slave, but will fall to the male slave if there is a male slave. If the kajira is found first, there will be no male slave.

• You will be spanked.
• You will groom me, which includes such things as shaving me (likely with an electric razor) and brushing my hair. My needs may vary from time to time.
• You will be responsible for care of my nails and feet. If feet disgust you, this is not a good home for you.

Male Slave Duties:

• You will be required to serve drinks and food, but not Gorean style.
• You will be required to remain chaste unless otherwise agreed by us later in the relationship.
• You will wear clothing that covers your private area at all times.

If these duties seem rather menial to you, you are not a good candidate. The primary purpose of having a slave in this home is to lighten my load so I can get done what I need to. If that seems selfish, so be it. We all have our desires.

We are seeking live-in and long-term from all slaves.

Requirements (all slaves):

• no younger than 21, no older than 45 (with rare exceptions)
• single in all forms, legal and otherwise
• childless (or all your children are independent), and not seeking to have children
• fit (or working toward it) and able-bodied
• hygienic and healthy
• non-smoker, drug-free, disease-free, no heavier than a social/light drinker -- no compulsively social drinkers (if you have to drink every time you're at a bar, that's not okay either)
• able and willing to be around cats and dogs
• poly or interested in poly/hierarchies
• okay with ending it if things aren't working
• good at cleaning
• willing to give up all your possessions within an agreed-upon time period (after committing)
• willing to not be on the lease, but listed as a resident – and sign a living agreement (to be discussed at a later time)
• willing to be micromanaged, but not expecting it
• able to travel to meet & to relocate yourself and all your stuff
• independent and able to contribute to household expenses

Kajirae Requirements:

• breast cup size: small B up to a large D (exceptions made at our discretion upon seeing pictures to verify attraction)
• willing to practice safe sex always – there will be no bareback
• heteroflexible, bi-curious, bi-sexual, or otherwise interested in men and women at least under the right circumstances
• willing to give up control to both genders
• willing to wait for sex until all parties are comfortable
• not wanting to be shared with people outside the relationship
• experienced, references preferred but not required
• masochist, but not a major pain slut (this falls to the male slave if there is one already)
• not into "extreme" activities (blood-letting and the like)

Male Slave Requirements:

• willing to give up sex with the understanding that you might be permitted to have a FWB later on (given circumstances I approve of) -- note that if we don't get to this stage, things are likely not working and we would be best going our separate ways anyway
• masochist, but not a major pain slut
• not into "extreme" activities (blood-letting and the like)

Preferences (all slaves):

• local to the area or state
• United States citizen (residents of other countries could prove more difficult to relocate)

There are two options, with the first being the primary goal.

The dynamics of first (and preferred) scenario one are as such that I would own the kajira, and she would wear my collar, my name, etc. She would primarily serve me, while having a standing order to obey my Husband & Master as though He was her Master also -- as, in effect, by being my Master, He would be.

My Husband would have final say, almost all of the time -- though on certain occasions, as her owner, I would override Him if necessary. We would present as near a united front as possible. He would, in effect, have control over her through me if nothing else, but there is that standing order. This is not for everyone.

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In the second scenario, there are two slaves involved -- one male slave and one kajira. The kajira I will address first.

The kajira would belong to my Husband, but serve both of us. She would be third in the order of the hierarchy of the home. She would be involved in acts of sex with both of us at one point. She also would not be involved with the male slave, except in that they would both be in roles of submission.

The male slave would belong to me and me alone. My Husband would have little to know interaction with him, unless necessary. He would be the lowest in the home and likely treated as such. He would be likely chaste, not involved with sex with anyone in the home, and maybe permitted a friend with benefit later in our relationship (once I was ready). My Husband would have the right to give Him orders, but it is not likely He would directly.

In both scenarios, my Husband is the Head of the Home and the primary Dominant figure. The only reason He would "interfere" with my role over my slave is if He deemed it necessary.

In both scenarios, I am under my Husband. Being His and a Switch (not fully dominant), I am the secondary Dominant figure. I may exercise full control over my slave, but He has the right to step in.