Memories of you

A silhouette in a darkened room

 Candle a glow bodies in tune,

 I see you kneeling, upon the floor

 Eyes looking down submission once more,

 As I advance towards you heels click as I walk

 I see your body tense up, muscles hard as a rock,

 A whip in my hand a gleam in my eye

 You want me to command you, without a single cry,

 My heart is racing as I regain self-control

 I see you as vulnerable as a newborn foal,

 You sense my need and reach into your mind

 For what may be coming, or what morning might find,

 Your mind reeling of leather, chains and much more

 You think of other nights wondering what is in store,

 I ask you to rise and stand once again before me

 I look into your eyes for all that you see,

 The tension is easing as you look into mine

 Your submission has drawn a very fine line,

 I tell you that this night will be like nothing you've seen

 And as the evening passes you feel all is a dream,

 When it's all over and out of subspace you creep

 I hold you close as we both fall asleep,

 Thank you for giving me all that you do

 My life would be incomplete without these memories of you

LadyRose

I wanted share something I wrote about a dear sub.....

I want to add that this is not recent I wrote this in 2010, I had it on another site and coppied it here. I still miss him a lot but there comes a time to pick up your life and live it that is what I am doing now.

I was sitting in MSN chat in 2001 a male sub came in did the can I get you anything Ma'am line and I was busy chatting with a friend so I just said sure water. I guess he knew I was not impressed I was watching his "Very detailed online serve". But I was deep in conversation. When the boy arrived at me with the water ( I knew this cause he typed it all out) we were all watching by than and waited for the skilled serve. But no this boy was feisty he tripped and spilled it all over me ( again I knew this cause he typed it) people gasped or hushed.. I just looked at him and said " I will have you boy!!!". Many chats with him and 9 months later I arrived Real life in Texas in my truck we were to meet at a hotel. The Hotel messed up my room and overbooked, I was put in a room I think they used to steal parts from... the faucet and light switch and other things were missing. I layed down to rest as I had had a long drive from Peterborough Ont Canada to Dallas Tx. The boy arrived went to desk and they could not find my name. Well of course they could not it was not booked it was just written on a peice of paper and placed under the pc keyboard. I woke up heard a truck and saw him walk to the front of Hotel.
If you have ever planned a first meeting Real life with someone from online I can tell you that it never goes as planned!! So the boy is at desk telling clerk I am sure she is here and he is running trough all the names he thinks I checked in under including LadyRose. I walk thru door he turns and sees me and his face goes blank he knew it was me he takes a few steps towards me and stops.In his words " I floated in thru door long red skirt swirling at my ankles with each step." I walked past him looked at clerk and said in a FIRM voice. " I have been waiting for my room to be prepared since 5am it is now 10am I was put in your Utility room. I require My room now Please!!! The clerk stuttered and said yes Ma'am ( I love the south you dont have to train anyone ;)I said call me when it is ready I turned to the boy loooked at him and said and you come with me Now!!! He was quick on his heals. we visted for a few days and he came back to Ont with me he was here for 6 Years pet_saganLR was the best male submssive I have ever had serve me. I did get the boy. Nothing against all the other subs but sagan was My pet we had our moments like all do but we stayed close. Sadly he had to return home 3 years ago I hugged him at the Bus station and off he went. Six of the best years of my life was driving away. It is true if you love something or someone set them free.His family needed him.I had to put My wishes second.
This past Friday I learned sagan passed away Dec 3 2009 at age 33 much to young.I had been quite ill for months so I messaged him when I could but No replies. We had always kept in touch I last heard from him Nov 24 when he asked me what size ring do you take? Than Nothing all these months.My heart aches deeply

To Lifestyle
If you own a sub or you serve a Dominant give them a big hug now and share your love. For we never know what the next day will bring.

To God
If a young sweet innocent boy asks you if you would like a glass of water be prepared.

To Sagan
I will love you ALWAYS
LadyRose

The following Posts will be LadyRose's Random Ramblings with the thought that Knowledge is worth much more if it is passed on and shared.

 Protocol

To Me Honesty respect and trust is what the lifestyle is all about. You must be honest with yourself also. If you do not know why you are in the lifestyle or who you are. Read ask questions and learn do not deny yourself a chance at what can possible be the strongest experience or relationship in your life. If you have decided we are all a bunch of creepy kooks than move on do not deny us what we desire. Do not waste your time and life mocking us life is too short no matter what your interests are to deny yourself of them.

I do not put myself up on a pedestal any idiot can do that. For me the greater feeling of Dominance is a sub calling Me Ma'am or Mistress not because I tell them to but because it is in their heart to do so. I a get no self gratification from seeing a sub kneel at my feet from fear or because they are expected to Do not kneel before me unless your heart calls out telling you to do so and you feel yourself falling to the floor in respect. Weather we are Lord Lady Master Mistress sub or slave we all have feelings we are all human and have meaningful lives to live. I am open minded but strict and demanding.

I think that the most difficult thing for a boy of mine to understand and face is the fact I would defend him at all costs. Even though I am a woman with a male sub I take my position as Mistress seriously and do not back down when my sub is attacked or approached. For a male sub this takes some getting accustomed to. They must learn to stand quietly and let me take control of the situation I have no fear and my property is always an honor to defend.

Protocol The Merriam Webster Dictionary -Protocol-The ceremonial etiquette accepted as correct in official dealings, as between heads of state or diplomatic officials

The first part of that definition applies to BDSM "the ceremonial etiquette accepted as correct"

Who sets protocol standards?

There is no Miss Manners in BDSM the standards are set by each individual or set for a particular relationship what I might call protocol another Dominant would not require or do. BDSM clubs might have certain protocols in place such as a sub/slave is only allowed to attend an event if accompanying a Dominant or under a house collar. Some clubs do give out house collars or a Dominant might put a sub in their collar for the night or event.

Why do we have protocol?

-As in everything rules and guidelines make for more constancy

The lifestyle can be confusing if a sub has rules and guidelines they can feel more comfortable and confident in what they do

The dominant can have pride in a well trained submissive and I have often received compliments from other dominants as to how well my boy is trained

-It helps set the mood for a better training session or play session.

Using Protocol sets an example for others, some have no idea BDSM protocol exists or when or how to use it.

Using Protocol can help eliminate the problems that people encounter in any lifestyle.

-Just knowing some aspects of protocol can help one understand what is actually going on in a situation. (Example if you are sitting at a table and food is placed in front of you but no one is eating you would know that all were waiting for the Host or Head Master/Mistress to begin.)

- It helps eliminate those times when an uncomfortable situation occurs such as touching another submissive without permission.

Basically respect yourself and others use good manors and be a wise leader.

Diaries- a submissive should have a diary it can be used in different ways. There is much to learn and remember keeps notes, write how you feel about your day and always read it again in the morning and make a small comment about how you feel. As things always look better in he morning. Your Master/Mistress/Trainer will specify how they wish you to use the diary.

Vocals

How do you address your Dominant?

• This is one of the first questions to ask if you have not been told all dominants have different expectations

-How do you address other Dominants/submissive?

Look to your Master/Mistress for guidance on this, also it is not wrong to ask the Dominant or submissive what they wish... as in all things if not sure ask respectfully.

How do you address others outside the lifestyle?

-When in public your dominant may not wish to be referred to as Master or Mistress make sure you clarify their wishes on this.

- Are you expected to greet others or only reply?

Ask your Master Mistress how they wish you to do this. Some Dominants believe the sub is not to talk unless spoken to... if you know a Dominant follows this rule than it is best to wait until you are greeted or spoken to always honor a Dominants rule if possible while still following your own Masters desires.

-Are you permitted to talk freely to others?

-Again this is a question to ask your Dominant and get it clarified some Dominants do not allow a sub to speak to other Dominants or even submissive.

Postures

How do you present yourself in private and public for your Dominant?

This can be very complicated in some cases you must find out what your Dominant wishes and what they desire. For instance I have times when my sub is kneeling at my side not doing anything but waiting to serve me. I might also have them stand and wait in the wait position.

How are you to physically greet others such as stand, kneel, shake hands, bow, lower head curtsy?

In real life I do not see many subs curtsy or bow it just is not done often that is more of an online habit.

One rule of thumb is never touch a Dominant without permission. Again you are guided by your Dominants wishes. But if a Dominant extends a hand to you to shake you would be best to shake it. Also if you know they do not like direct eye contact refrain from it.

Body Language

How do you express emotions or ask for a Dominants attention?

All Dominants do this differently. For instance if I am at an event and my sub wishes my attention he is allowed to tap my right ankle gently to get my attention than he sits and waits if I am in a conversation I will not acknowledge him until I have paused so they wait.

Touching others

Best to never touch another Dominant or submissive without their permission even for a hug or a playful tap.

Walk one step behind and to the right unless otherwise told

Eat when at Mistress’s table you do not take a bite to eat till she does

When visiting you do not take a bite till the host does and than Mistress at very formal events you do not take a bite till all Dominants have

Sleep your place to sleep is on the floor where Mistress has told you .You do not sleep anywhere else unless told to do so. Never presume you will sleep in Mistress bed each night

 Again this all falls under a Dominants wishes some subs are allowed to sleep in Masters bed each night some are given their own room and called when service is required.

Eyes are to be downcast never look directly into my eyes unless you are talking to me when speaking to me your eyes should be on mine so that I can see inside your heart and soul

I wanted to share some much needed inspiration. For some reason in this lifestyle we often meet the person we think is perfect for us and than we lose them for many different reasons...CM this is for you

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

 Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

 LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

~Unknown~

One of the biggest issues in the lifestyle today is Collars.. Some are searching for a collar some seek to give one and many wish to understand why they cannot seem to find one. A collar can be verbal or material however it signifies a bond or commitment between two people. The collar can be represented by many things a chain, necklace or a bracelet leather or metal even a piece of rope. There must be meaning to each collar and the reason for giving them. These days people just jump into a personal collar I have always used the Training Collar than Formal Collar

Types of Collars

~Collar of Protection ~ is used Real life a Dominant might give it to a submissive to oversee them maybe to help them make the right decision or guide them. It is often used online to protect a sub from predators and people who pretend to be lifestyle but prey on people with submissive tendencies. Usually the understanding I the Dominant will have power over what dominants the submissive speaks to or sees. This in itself is a huge responsibility having another’s life in your hands and making decisions for that person. Whatever the reason it is offered to give a feeling of safety to a submissive. In offering this the Dominant should understand this is a responsibility and not given lightly. That being said a submissive should not accept this collar unless they feel they will be protected. There should be some kind of Bond or friendship between the two people. The submissive should feel safe the Dominant should feel comfortable in this position. This collar is not about Domination it is about the sub and her protection.

~Training Collar~ It can be given Online or real life, a training collar is given to a sub by a dominant or sometimes a House in order to show control over that sub during a training period. The training can be Theory, Service or a certain BDSM activity or full training. A submissive can be trained by someone other than an owner. Often BDSM House’s train subs. This collar is not a permanent one and in the end the submissive should have knowledge. This collar can be given by the Dominant or begged by the submissive.

~Collar of Consideration~ is like an engagement ring Is given to a sub so show Other Dominants’ the community and the submissive that the Dominant has taken enough interest in the submissive to offer them a collar and the submissive is interested in serving this Dominant. This collar can be for any length of time but is usually followed by a Formal Collar if the two involved feel that the bond is strong and they wish to be together forever.

~ Formal Collar/Personal Collar~ This collar IS the same as a wedding ring. It can be and often is offered with marriage proposal too. This is the sealing of the relationship. It was a long road getting here but the time has come to be devoted to each other forever. The Formal Collar is offered by the Dominant. This Collar is often given in a Collaring Ceremony there are many types of ceremonies The Rose Ceremony was a popular one.

This Collar is often more decorative, could have spikes or diamonds or glitter. The ceremony can include a Tattoo or Piercing or even a Branding for the sub. The couple can write the ceremony themselves or write the vows.

What  does BDSM mean: Bondage Domination Submission Sadism and Masochism

 What does the BDSM Symbol mean and look like: the BDSM Emblem is an extension of the Triskele is an ancient shape that has had been used in many cultures for centuries with many meanings The Outside edge and spokes are of a color representing metal gold, iron and silver. The rims and spokes are equal and the metal arms rotate clockwise The inner fields are always filled in and black. The three holes in each section are holes right through not a dot

The Triskele is used in many cultures but the true symbol was

The three divisions stand for the three different parts of the lifestyle B&D D&S and S&M It also represents Tops Bottoms and Switches. Safe Sane and Consensual are three parts to the emblem

 So I came back to Collarme from a year hiatus. In some ways nothing has changed yet in others much has. It is definite there are more submissive males in search of the Dominant of their dreams. There are also a lot more Female Dominants.  I think I have grown in many directions in my time away. Partly because I had the first vanilla relationship in my life which was a disaster and lasted 15 months and partly because of a loss of a loved one. Also partly because I was very ill during my time away and was in hospital a few times.It is true you never know what you have until you lose it whether it be friends, family, jobs, finances or health... we take much for granted in our lives we live and complain and yet there is always someone that is in a more serious situation than we are. Be kind to each other reach out and touch someone and be rewarded with a warm feeling.

After 7 or so weeks of watching the rooms as well as the room I am often in I have decided to share my ramblings for those that care to read.