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Why do "submissives" assume they can call "dommes" Mistress? My advice is call the person by their name i.e LadyM45. If Mistress is not part of her name why call her Mistress? Don't assume all "dommes" want to be called "Mistress"
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I block people who cannot take NO for an answer. I receive an e-mail which I say I am not interested in the person but I keep getting emails from the same person sometime the same e-mail. What is wrong with people do they forget who they have sent emails to? Several people have done this and they have been blocked. I hope it clears up the reason why I block people.
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What I see from time to time is "submissives" also having a "dominant" profile with sometimes the same photograph on both profiles.
My question is are you submissive or dominant. Most people who are both use the term "switch".
People like that are fooling themselves and others by having two profiles. Just say you are a switch in one profile and people will understand.
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Thank you for your responses.
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Question: Has anyone found a true sub/slave/domme/dom from this site which has lasted more than five minutes?
If so I would be curious to know. I am considering deleting my profile as I have not found what I seek and wonder if I will here.
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I wonder why people waste time sending a one line email. I would think if you do not know the person, your first e-mail should be an introduction to attract the attention of the person it is sent to.
I must be on a different planet than most people. I am sure my friends would agree!!!!
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You do not have to pay for common courtesy. You speak with someone then all of a sudden they stop talking to you. No reason given and e-mails read but not responded to. What more can I say. It is rude if nothing else, and people wonder why it is hard to take anyone seriously here. |
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Isn't it also funny when you hit a nerve that you are blocked. The laughable thing about this particular situation is I have not contacted this person He contacted ME. When I politely asked him to stop contacting me he became abusive and when I responded in a polite manner he blocks ME. Laughable isn't it, considering it was made clear a long time ago we were not suited; HE came back with "greetings" thinking that would change the situation!!!
I have come to the conclusion here the majority of people here wants to play which is fine if they say that from the get go but what is annoying is when people say they seek the same things you do when they don't. HONESTY is very important, especially here. |
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It is funny how the "players" like to call other people players. This person would like me to believe I am a player because I want to get to know people before any interaction but he is very quick to say "I want to serve you" without even knowing a thing about Me. Who is the player here? Me or him?
I still don't get it how people expect you to allow a stranger into your life. |
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What has happened to getting to know people. I have come to the conclusion that people on here can "serve" anyone without even knowing who they are as a person.
Question: is the reason why "relationships" do not work out because the parties do not know each other?
I feel getting to know someone does not happen overnight. Yes you have things in common to start with but I find the people here just want to "serve" or talk about "service" and cannot mix the "two worlds" together and have a conversation that does not only include d/s but other topics. Why is that? Trust and honesty is very important and they don't happen overnight.
It is not hard but people make it so.
I have been called so many different things because I am who I am. I want a partner who will submit but also who is a man. It is not hard but people make it hard.
I have removed my profile because I have felt over a period of time that the people I "attract" were not getting what I seek.
Some may say I did not give them a "chance" but in mind I have given more than one "chance".
First impression........ |
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This is for one person, you know who you are. I don't have to identify you.
Changing your name means nothing to Me. You are still who you are with all your different names. You can't love or feel anything for anyone because you don't love or feel anything for yourself. HONESTY is important and you don't have the first clue about being honest.
How much more can a person show you before you understand what is going on?
I have wasted enough energy and time on you and I have no more.
A New Year approaches again and you will be doing the same ole same ole.
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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not assume every female on here wants to be called MISTRESS.
USE THE NAME ON THE PROFILE WHEN YOU FIRST APPROACH SOMEONE. DO NOT ASSUME OR PRESUME MISTRESS IS OK. IT IS NOT. |
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Don't send me one liners and expect me to find that "attractive" it is not.
AND for the idiot who just sent Me the one liner and commented that I have been looking for a sub for THREE years. Sorry you got that wrong.
With your one liners I am sure you do not attract any attention at all but being blocked!!!! |
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It causes concerns when ONE person has TWO profiles. ONE AS A SUBMISSIVE and ONE AS A DOMINANT. What does that tell you about the person?
I think if ONE person has a profile that says they SWITCH it is more understandable than TWO different profiles. Some people even have the same picture on the two profiles. Scary but true!!!! |
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I wish people would be more honest than they are.
I just wasted my time with another "GENUINE" TIME WASTER AND USER. This was my original profile: "I am a black woman who lives in London. I have been seeking for sometime a GENUINE SUBMISSIVE, which I am sure other dominant women like myself have had great difficulty finding also. I seek a long term relationship which is REAL not fantasy. A natural progression of everyday life and...... I have found over the years that it has been difficult to find a submissive who can live a life of submission with a dominant woman like myself. Many say they can and are given the opportunity and it does not work because.....A LTR needs hard work. It will not happen overnight. Honesty and trust is very important. Without those, there is no foundation for a LTR. I am not seeking a player, a married man who has time on his hands, a novice, someone who is "heavy in the scene". I am seeking a mature genuine submissive partner who wants a LTR with a dominant woman that is real and is not a figment of the imagination". So please explain why would someone approach Me and waste my time when I have made it clear what I seek. If you are not the person I seek DO NOT CONTACT ME AND WASTE MY TIME. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND ME. No relationship is easy but with each party compromising, communicating and talking through things it should work. It takes some time to get to know someone but if a person will not allow you to know them, then the relationship will not work. Also please do not judge each relationship as the same as your previously failed relationship. If you go into a relationship thinking that then your NEW relationship has no chance. Do not compare your new partner with your old or because something sounds familiar you say "here we go again". Give the new partner and new relationship a chance. We all have faults, no one and I repeat NO ONE is perfect. WE learn from each other and grow and develop that way. I would also suggest people who depend on stimulants (cigarettes, alcohol and/or drugs) to get through life, DO NOT CONTACT ME. I would suggest that you know yourself before you embark on a relationship with a strong dominant woman like myself. I am not a player at life and I do not seek one. I seek a stable, mature partner who can deal with life's ups and downs without running away. I am not seeking to be in CONTROL 24/7. I am of the real world and seek a real relationship with the D/s element a part of it. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED so accept whatever you receive if you are not who you say you are.
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One so called "serious" slave contacted me and we started talking. He had read my profile (before I took it down) and my journal. He claimed that the dominant women here were not "serious or dominant enough". I told him what I was about and would interview him on Wednesday of this past week. I did have difficulty with my internet connection and I wrote him a message when I could get back online to explain my absence.
NEVER TO BE HEARD FROM AGAIN.
What is up with you people. Is it the thrill of talking that excites you? IS ANYONE REALLY SERIOUS AND REAL HERE? to the point where things progress from just talking meeting and then going nowhere. Is anyone really honest about who they are so when you meet, you are who you say you are and you are not found out to be a "fraud"?
Someone once said, they should have two sites one for the genuine and real who are looking to grow and develop and the others for the fantasists. I am starting to agree with that person.
Another thing that surprises me is the people who say they are owned but are still looking!!!!
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Why do people waste time writing a one line e-mail? What is the point of that?
What is the point of wasting people's time that is my burning question at the moment. |
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What I have come across is people write in their profile they want/need certain things. When they get it, they can't handle it or bite off more than they can chew.
I had one person contact me (from another site) quite recently and I spoke to him on the phone. He was "surprised" I called him and I found that strange as he sent his number to do so. When I behaved as I should, he started to get flustered and nervous and was not sure what he wanted and where he should go with this contact. I politely told him he needed to find out what he really wanted before he sought anything from a dominant woman.
After our conversation, he sent me an e-mail with some excuse my not hearing from him and when I told him what I thought was his problem, he told me I was a "troubled woman" I had to laugh because all during the conversation I was calming him down and doing what dominant women doing controlling the conversation!!!
He even had difficulty getting into this site!!! Need I say more.
Be secure in who you are and everything else will fall into place.
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Why do "friends" have to keep looking at your profile? I just find this strange from someone you have been speaking to for ages and regard as a "friend" but every time you send an e-mail the "friend" looks at your profile. Strange but true. |
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Just had an interesting "conversation". It is irrelevant if the person is dominant or submissive, they should be given the respect they deserve. The funny thing about this conversation is I viewed the person's profile nothing more and I then received an e-mail from him saying I should talk with him. Considering I had only viewed his profile I was somewhat surprised by his quick e-mail to me and also the tone I got from it. Unlike him I responded how I felt and he looked at his e-mail and agreed it was somewhat "abrupt".
Why do people jump to conclusion without having all the facts. Talking to someone for a while does not give you the right to "judge". To be honest we should not "judge" people. Give people a chance. If during a conversation you think you do not want the same things does that mean you have to be rude? NO. Explain this in a way both parties understand and can move on without feelings being "hurt". It is not what you say but how you say it. Take the time to get to know people and also read each others profile and understand what the person is seeking not what you want alone. Nothing happens overnight. It takes time and patience.
We are individuals and like minded people will attract each other. We can't like everyone in this world and we cannot be liked by everyone. We all have our "style" of doing things and we should be respected not disrespected for that.
Please do not also think because we have different levels of intelligence that makes us superior etc to each other. It does not. We should learn from each other and not look at intelligence as a "weapon" it is not or should not be seen as that. Don't let insecurities make you do things you will regret or lose out on getting across what you really want.
If you are nice person get that across and if you do not understand something let the person know this and not assume and presume and get it wrong.
Conversations are not about winning points or who is right or wrong. I see conversations as a way of getting to know people and whether you want to develop that conversation into something else.
There my rant is over :-) |
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Mistress
Why do all "subs" assume that a dominant woman wants to be called mistress?
My advice to you all is to address people accordingly, ie. if they are Lady... in their profile write emails to that effect and wait until told to call them mistress. Only write Mistress if it is part of their name or told to.
Just needed to say that. |
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Disappearing Act.
Why do people do this? You are contacted by someone. You find that person interesting so you start "talking" with that person. Everything is going well then they disappear why?
If anyone has the answer to that question, let me know.
Another thing, you receive an e-mail but because you do not respond "quickly", the person who sent the e-mail deletes his profile, again why do people do this?
I am sure somewhere out there someone knows the answers to these questions because I don't and would love to know the reasons so I can start to understand these people!!! |
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PLEASE STOP SENDING ME E-MAILS THEN BLOCK ME FROM RESPONDING. IF NOTHING, IT IS RUDE |
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What do you think this site is about?
I ask this question all the time because I have not quite worked it out. I have always used this site to meet like minded people and hopefully make some friends but I have found over the years that people can be very shallow they forget you in a heartbeat and when you send an invite to be in the "friend circle" they have to check your profile to see who it is from. The same if an e-mail is received. The only time I will do that if I do not recognise the name.
Also why do people keep changing their names? You are still the same person irrelevant of what you call yourself you can't change YOU by changing your name can you?
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It is funny how people will block you because you comment on their e-mail sent to you or they don't like what you say about them. I only block people if they are offensive and rude to Me.
I have noticed from time to time that I receive a "mass" e-mail from so called "subs/slaves". I make the comment that it would be more impressive if the e-mail sent to Me was only to Me but not to the masses then I am blocked from that person.
Strange but true.
I show my individuality and obviously the people here don't like this but I treat people as an individual and I would like that in return. No two people are alike not even identical twins!!! They do have some difference to tell them apart.
Bear that in mind when you are introducing yourself for the first time. You do not get a second chance for a first impression and individuality is attractive to Me.
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What is it with people. Someone contacted me. We had a problem talking in chat so he gave me his msn address. I started speaking with him and my phone goes, I tell him I am on the phone. He is still talking to me so I put my call on hold by telling my friend I need to type something and this "mature" personm as he keeps telling me, starts saying I am not honest because I told him my call was on hold LOL. What planet is he on. What more can I say. |
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I have just come online to see a message then it disappeared. I also sent messages this morning and they are not in my sent box so I have no idea if they have been received to the sender. Can anyone help? |
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Can someone tell me how to turn off "subscribe to journal" as I don't want people to subscribe to my journal? I have asked one person politely to unsubscribe and he won't and his photograph is offensive.
Thank you in advance. |
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I politely asked someone to unsubscribe to my journal, as I did not think it was necessary for him to do this. He sends me a message then BLOCKS me from responding.
The question now arise, why was he subscribed to my journal if he does not want me to respond to e-mails he sends me or even talks to me?
There are some very strange folk on this site. Stranger than words can describe. |
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I think this is soooo true!!!!
"Risk
To laugh, is to risk playing the fool. To weep, is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach out to another, is to risk involvement. To expose feelings, is to risk exposing our true selves. To put your ideas, your dreams, before the crowd is to risk loss. To love, is to risk not being loved in return. To live, is to risk dying. To hope, is to risk despair. To try at all, is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, Because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they simply cannot learn, change, feel, grow, love, live... Chained by their attitudes they are slaves.
Only the person who risks is free."
Author Unknown. |
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 I have been reading profiles and I see where "submissives" are "complaining" there are too many "dommes asking for money/gifts/tributes". Do not get me wrong because I do not condone this, but I sort of understand why some "dommes" may go that road.
"submissives", not all, do waste other people's time "trying to find themselves" and I think some "dommes" feel they should get paid for that by the next person/submissive.
My time has been wasted and my heart hurt but I do not "judge" each "submissive/person" by the other. If that were the case, I would be a very rich lady!!!!
Just something for others to think about. Seeing it from another perspective. |
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I did this "test" on QuizFarm.com
Which kind of Domme are You?
You scored as a Teasing and "bitchy" Domme
What a tease You are!!! But You can be so cruel... You like to tease Your slave as much as possible, both at home and in public. You like to be very sexy so his attention is totally on You, and his cock is always hard... But... You rarely let him cum. You keep him always on the verge so he's more obedient and it's more exciting for You. Oh You like him to have blue balls so much!
Teasing and "bitchy".............. 90%
Kinky and sex driven............................ 82%
The Trainer....................... 80%
Fussy and demanding............... 76%
Sadistic but indulgent......................... 72%
Loving, caring and with submissive tendencies,,,,,................... 70%
Psychologist...................... 68%
Possessive and controlling....................... 58%
Cold and distant.................. 57%
Lifestyler........................ 56%
Humiliatrix....................... 50%
The Player........................ 42%
Female supremacist....................... 38%
Extremely sadistic, twisted and pitiless.......................... 36%
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A week after my "subbie" returned, he has now left with no reason whatsoever. If there is a reason I do not know what it is.
Why do people behave so strangely. They get what they want and leave at their whim. Something said not like should be spoken about not leave.
I have always believed treat people as you would like to be treated and the world would be a better place.
The funny thing is my heart belongs to him.
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I am pleased to say that writing about what happened between myself and my "sub" has helped my "sub" to realise a few things.
I knew it was in him to do this but because of various circumstances, it took him a while to understand what I was trying to do for him. I am pleased to say that is he is making progress.
If honest, I am very proud of him now.
It is good to talk.
I have learnt a long time ago that people are individuals and have to be treated like that, even though they might make the same mistakes, people need to be seen and treated as a individuals.
I will say that I misjudged him as a time waster. I will say that I did not treat him as an individual and I apologise for that.
I think we both made mistakes and we are learning from that.
Keep up the good work. Others might not know who you are but I do and I am very proud of your progress.
Patience is the key to everything |
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