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Please read my profile thoroughly and be a LOCAL resident.
It is not all about the whips and chains but about the love and caring. You take care of someone by providing him or her with the stability of what they need with the balance of what they want. Sometimes it is a whip and cane, other times it is just a kind word, always a firm hand and a gentle heart.
I like things my way however compromise is always part of the bargain. Although I consider myself a lifestyle Domme, I don't desire to be "on" 24/7 even though being "Domme" is a big part of my life. I am the Leader of an OC Femme Domme group called Ladies In Charge of Kink (LICK) which can be found on F*tLife under that name and on our website www.lickoc.com, the 2010-2012 appointed Event Coordinator for Threshold, and very active in the BDSM Community. I have taught Fire Play, Pegging, Spanking and Caning classes at Threshold, Dragonsgate Studios, DomConLA as well as private lessons. I host a monthly LICK Femme Domme Play Party at Dragonsgate.
I take great pride in my ability to organize, my finesse with food, my friendships and activities. I want someone who can fit in with my lifestyle in both the vanilla and the kinky. To ascertain if we are compatible, we will get to know each other in the first before exploring the second.
With all of this there is a spiritually that I believe in (not religious) and I use to help guide me in the different paths of my life. I want someone who can walk on them with me. Is that you? Please be drug and disease free, non-smoker and a light drinker. Relationship free and either adult or no children only.
Please be sincere in your introduction of yourself and include a picture (a photo of you sex organ does not count).
As I am not a collector, I do not friend people I don't know, so please don't ask.
Thank you,
Lady Killashandra
WARNING: To institutions or individuals, you DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile, writings or pictures in any form or forum past, current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and subject to legal ramifications.
P.S. Due to the quirks of CollarSpace please change out the "*" for an "e" in the name of the LICK group above to find the website it is located on.
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Posting as of 07/04/16
As the subject line goes, I am newly single, ready to get out, have some fun and live life joyously! I am a firm believer in “Ask and Ye Shall Receive”. I am looking for someone who hopefully has the following traits:
Important Stuff
* Looking for a lifetime relationship.
* Between 45 and 60 y/o (younger is negotiable).
* Height/weight proportionate, takes care of themselves, not a couch potato, enjoys getting out and doing things.
* Drug and disease free, light drinker, non-smoker.
* Between a 6 and 8 inch cut dick and knows how to use it. Exceptional self-control and doesn’t need Viagra to get it up and keep it up. (Non-negotiable) Don’t laugh, like I said, ask for what you want. LOL.
* No children under 18.
* No pets that require care, kind of hard to spend time with me if you have to go home to walk the dog.
* Easy going, a sense of humor that can make me laugh :-), likes to engage in conversation, have fun, be adventuresome in life’s journey, put up with my Dominant/Analytical personality.
Vanilla Stuff
* Has a wide variety of Vanilla interests.
* I want someone who fits into my whole life not just kink. We have to get along in the Vanilla before we throw kink in the mix.
* I love jazz concerts, movies, museums, theater, cooking (former chef), being adventuresome with eating out, travel, Scrabble, finding new things to do.
* A love of woodworking would be awesome (not necessary) since I am in school for it and love building furniture and stuff. Something to do together.
Kink Stuff
* A service heart with the skills to match.
* submissive/slave but still has a backbone for taking care of things that matter.
* Enjoys play, whatever form that may take. I enjoy fire play, needles, tickling, CBT, pegging, foot play, a lot of other things too. Cannot do too much heavy impact play right now as my swinging shoulder is still recovering.
* Open to trying new things in kink.
* Open to being a demo bottom as I enjoy teaching in the community
If you are interested and think we would be a good fit, please email me with a picture and tell me about yourself. I look forward to hearing from you.
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I am going to be on TSR Network TV show tonight at 8pm. The network is all about kink and Rev Mel, the hostess for the show will be interviewing me. Go to tsrnetwork.com to watch, you can make comments and ask questions during the show. See you there!
Lady Killashandra |
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It really bothers me there are so many flakes and wannabes on this website. I am one of the few people on here who will actually set aside time to meet someone. Then they either don't return phone calls, don't follow through on making plans or cancel at the last minute.
It is really annoying as my time is valuable, not only that it is just plain RUDE! |
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Just changed all of my pictures around and dated them. I felt the need to date my pictures so that people who look at them know they are not 10 years old. I look at the pictures on this site and can tell by hair styles and clothing that some of them are ancient!! |
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As you can see, I just put up a couple of pictures from New Year's at Threshold. My hair is much longer than the current pictures which were taken 11 months ago. A much more feminine look. |
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Wow, what a Valentine's weekend. My birthday was on the 11th, I was however in Mistress Cynthia's workshop that evening, so I took my own birthday cake with me. Boy was there a story behind that as I had to strong arm Stater Bros into doing the cake they agreed to; someone there got cold feet about doing a kinky cake. LOL.
I got out of the workshop at 11pm, went to bed and woke up at 5:30am to get on the road and get to Threshold. I am the new Event Coordinator for Threshold and "My Kinky Valentine" was my responsibility. It turned out awesome!! It was only possible after a month of planning and through the efforts of all the volunteers. It was a lot of work (a 12 hour day) and I was exhausted, however it was a lot of fun.
Sunday, even though I did not want to crawl out of bed, I did so and went to my Domme Scout Troop 96 meeting held at Threshold where we did an induction ceremony and received our sashes. Miss Fawna and Master Anakratic (she is a female Master) did a wonderful job. It was full of rituals and everyone was very touched by it.
Came home, took a short nap and then went out to dinner to actually celebrate my birthday. I finally collapsed Sunday night though it was not until Tuesday I felt human again.
All in all a great weekend.
Now I am planning my birthday party at a private dungeon. Very cool!! |
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It would seem nothing I write makes any difference. Another guy just wasted a large amount of my time when he finally said he did not like cats. I have stated I have two of them.
Not only that, I have clearly stated I play with a switch MtF trans. People continue to contact me and when I ask them about her they say they would not be comfortable.
It also states I am into public play and active in the BDSM community, yet here again, people contact me who have zero desire to play in public or be involved.
Does no one here read? Pull your head out folks! |
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Okay, I just do not get it. I put everything in my profile and in my journal. Folks, why not take the time to actually read it before contacting me?
A couple of days ago the person I was conversing with wasted a chunk of my time. I was actually going to meet him when I mentioned that my current play partner is married and we play with her wife's permission. Only then did he disclose he was also married. The difference? He is involved in this lifestyle behind his wife's back. Disgusting!
Then someone else contacted me and wasted more of my time who has custody of two teenage children when it clearly states in my profile "either none or adult children only."
Good heavens, I am speaking a foreign language?
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I guess people only read what they want to "see".
As I said in my new profile info, "Well I've tossed everything written here previously out the window. I decided it did not represent who I really am." Because my journal said in it to answer the 7 posed questions, some individuals were wanting to know what I had posted previously. I decided to make it easy on myself and post it in my journal for a permanent record. I then get responses of "I am not the sub for you" based on what has been removed??? The whole point was I decided that was not really me. Duh! Like I said, read what you want to see.
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Well since I changed my profile I guess the 7 questions no longer apply. If you are curious this is what I previously had posted:
To any who have the pleasure of serving me I will always be addressed as "My Lady."
I am looking for a LTR with either a male or female submissive. Someone who is a true masochist but does not top from the bottom. My favorite is the cane. I enjoy foot worship and body worship however they are a privilege not a right!!
I am a "place for everything and everything in its place" type of Domme and that includes the sub. Be it verbally, mentally or physically EVERYTHING has to be just right. However, I do not play the game of messing things up just to get punished. You will get more than you bargained for.
I expect someone to be at my beck and call however being obsessive is not tolerated. My time is my own and yours is mine as well. I expect to be treated like a Lady at all times. Chivalry is not dead!!!
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When you contact me, please respond to each item notated below in your initial e-mail, only then will you get a response. Just label them 1 through 7 in your message.
1. Guys, if you are not a masochist, I am the wrong Domme for you. I am a heavy sadist and thoroughly enjoy it. I enjoy giving pain purely for pain's sake, not creating some fabricated scene to amuse you. It is a give and take I find very erotic. In case you do not know the difference: a sub will take the pain to please a Domme but does not relish it and usually will not have an erection. A masochist loves the pain and the harder you whip them the more aroused they get, in some cases even having an orgasm. Big difference!! Oh, by the way, I recently discovered I have a penchant for being a strict disciplinarian and enjoy giving out punishment when a sub does not live up to expectations or breaks my rules.
2. Be drug and disease free. You must be willing to submit to HIV and all STD testing as I take my health and life very seriously. Don't smoke or be allergic to cats as I have two of them. No alcohol issues either, I enjoy a good Shiraz but not to excess.
3. If you are married or in any kind of a relationship do not apply. I do have ethics and will not intrude on another woman's (or for that matter, man's) territory, plus it speaks volumes about your principles, no thanks. Also, if you have kids they had better be grown. I do not intend on splitting "My" time with children as I don't share well with others. Being a parent is a responsibility to be taken seriously and I would want too much of your time.
4. Be well-rounded in your vanilla life. There are a lot of activities I enjoy doing outside of the BDSM scene. Movies, theater, museums, Scrabble, dining out and most importantly, holding an intelligent conversation. I am looking for someone who can participate in my entire life not just the scene.
5. You will be responsible for keeping the house clean, running errands, being a body servant and periodically a footstool.
6. My philosophy is, if you control a sub's orgasm you control the sub. I am looking for someone who is willing to be in chastity full time. They will be milked on occasion and if they are really good, allowed to orgasm on command only. More than likely this will be allowed only while you are being penetrated, just depends on what kind of mood I am in. Hopefully you are dildoe trained.
7. I want someone who will be sub first, then a whipping boy, friend, lover and whatever else I can think of.
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Folks, what part of the following text in my profile is not understandable? "When you contact me, please respond to each item notated below in your initial e-mail, only then will you get a response. Just label them 1 through 7 in your message." I keep getting messages from subs who for whatever reason do not read my profile in its entirety and are incapable of answering 7 questions! They just get deleted. Telling me how you want to suck my toes is not what my profile is about. Just answer the questions.
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It really bothers me when married individuals contact me behind their spouse's back. Your marriage vows count for something!!! I have played with a married man in the past, however I met his wife and got her permission to play with him. I may be into a kinky lifestyle however I do have morals. I will not tread on another woman's marriage without her permission. If you are married or in a committed relationship, do not contact me unless you are willing to bring your wife/girlfriend to meet me. Period. |
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When you write an introduction (or profile) for a Domina, it would help to take a good look at it before you hit the SEND button. All too often, I get messages from guys who come across as though they cannot string two sentences together. A little clue, I am not the only one. Of the Dommes I talk to, a majority comment on how subs sound very ignorant due to their writing abilities. The messages are deleted because they want someone who is intelligent and I admit to doing the same thing. For some of you, it may be bad typing skills, for others, english is a second language. Either way, proof-read your messages before you SEND them. |
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I am so sick of supposed subs (try saying that 5 times fast) not being real. I am disappointed by the wannabe's who don't know their own minds. You have to be able to communicate what you are about so a Domina can make an educated decision whether or not your interests are compatible. If you are unable to intelligently articulate what your needs are then how do you expect us to figure it out? I'm sorry, I'm not a mind reader.
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| Age: 28 |
| Cleveland,
Ohio |
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