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Submissive woman, active in the lifestyle publicly for 1 year. Studying for 8 years.
I selected the category of switch because technically I fit. However, please understand that my topping comes from my submissive side. There is a distinct difference between me as a top and Fem Dommes. I top to give other submissives pleasure. I only pursue the interests of bottoms if they are the ones I have knowledge and training in. This is a wide category, but I'm still constantly learning. I would expect the same from whoever tops me.
I'm looking for a local and attentive play partner more than a D/s relationship. I'm not opposed to a relationship, but I'm taking my time to find what I want. I meet a lot of people and have weekly activities with lifestyle friends. This is my life and not just a kinky preoccupation.
My secular interests are singing, writing (historical fiction and some erotica), reading, foreign language study, painting, teaching, Scrabble, socializing and photography.
I'm a very open and down to earth woman. If you have any interest in what I offer, feel free to ask any questions you have. I will email my checklist as a bottom and a separate one as a top to those interested.
Here's what I'm looking for. A Dominant or submissive male or female. Single or genuinely free to play. Clean and honest. I was trained by Old Guard Dominants so I value the code of Trust, Respect, Honor and Loyalty above all other qualities.
I'm a serious player that enjoys the psychological side of topping or bottoming. I hope to find someone who is open to possibilities of a relationship. A well-rounded person with a good sense of humor because I wish to socialize outside of the scene as well from time to time.
Looks are not my primary focus.
Like many of the lifestyle authors I admire feel, sex is not the absolute focus of BDSM for me. Often sex clouds it's goals and can lead you adrift. I'm looking for someone that understands that the best scenes (without sex) can be more powerful than any sexually-stimulated climax.
On both sides I enjoy posturing, rituals, servitude, domestic duties, flogging, electrical play, occasional edge play, bondage/harnesses, occasional exhibitionism, oral service, detailed lifestyle studies and reports (teacher and student--continuing education), conventions, lifestyle advocacy (which can be done privately), after-scene journaling, paddling, smoking and shoe fetishes. There are more, but these come first to mind. All are negotiable. I'm open to being introduced to new tasks and fetishes.
Special note: With male submissives, I prefer not to feminize or sissify. Same with bisexuality. I have no desire to tear down a man, but to build up. Submissives and slaves (when deserved) are to be cherished. However, beautification and role switching is another matter that I will accommodate if desired. Same with those that are bi-curious.
Looking forward to meeting those of like mind.
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