UPDATE: August 24/2016 I suppose its not really a shocker that I didn't stay single for all that long, I slept alone for years, so was ready to have someone special. I'm now happily entangled in an open relationship where we address all sides of being of a kinky nature. I get my vanilla, my kink, the crazy monkey sex, and someone to talk chickens with. I still play with subs since he doesn't have a submissive bone in his body (actually he's pretty interested in learning about becoming a Dominant), still have my lover/fwb arrangements, but all within the healthy confines of complete open honesty and affection. I've added him to my profile, just so we're clear that I don't walk alone anymore, although I often do play alone once I decide to actually play. Its wonderfully refreshing, the lack of games. And being spoiled regularly doesn't hurt either. You can't undervalue a man who gets up a half hour before you every morning, just so he can bring you a coffee in bed. Onto the regular profile! Well then. I just deleted everything I'd written over the past few years in my profile to get everything up to date.What I'm Looking For A reasonably articulate, intelligent, single, communicative, fun, available and either local, or willing to travel submissive. Big points for people who are employed, positive, sane and are one of those rare individuals who actually do what they say you are going to. Independence is respected and appreciated. This means...you aren't counting on someone else to pay your bills for you, you don't live in Mom and Dads basement, and you're capable of taking care of your own shit. Submissives that are dominant personalities, or alpha in the public world are very much appreciated and admired. Entrepreneurs, business people, thinkers and doers are very welcome, since on the vanilla side of things, that's where I wallow. Ideally someone with a somewhat switchy personality would probably do well by me. I think its cute when my sub gets bossy with others. Bi men are adored in my household, however no matter how I try, cross-dressers don't excite me. I like regular ole manly men...who happen to submit to women, and maybe get a hankering for a bit of man-man fun now and again. What I Am A completely sane, hardworking (some tell me a workaholic), single parent, who to those who don't know the kink side of me, is a kind, sweet, softhearted country woman with intelligence, common sense, a wicked sense of humour, and a very good friend to have. I am a BBW, and have zero hang ups about it. I tend to be practical and logical, as opposed to overly emotional. I'm independent, down-to-earth and can take care of myself just fine, thank you. I don't want tributes, I don't need useless knicknacks, I am far from materialistic, and actually have worked very hard (and continue to) work towards simplifying my life. This means less investment in the things, and more investment in myself, my family and those I care about, and causes that matter to me. I am very fond of critters, this means those with allergies to pets just should stick to e-mails. I come from a long line of matriarchs, so this means I'm happy leading, and don't need to be a twat about it, it just happens naturally. Sane, remember? This little trait of mine means that if you are better at something than me (which I have no doubt there are some things you are more capable than I am), I will defer to the expert on the matter. Part of being a good leader is knowing when you don't know something, and finding someone who does. This is how we learn and evolve as humans. Now my kink side. I'm a woman who gets excited by not so much the doing as the reaction of my sub. If someone has become my sub, I care about them a great deal, they are not only my sub but a treasured part of my life, as a friend AND sub. Yes, that can be done. lol I don't and can't do casual one time things, go see a pro if that's what you need. I do this for me, so I will invest the time and energy in making sure a sub is right for me. I feed on the reaction, and connection of knowing you as a person, and as a sub. That means if cuckolding puts you in subspace, I enjoy it. If suffering, and pain excite you and put you in your happy place...then I love it. I adore the mental aspects of D/s, its not really so much the activity (although its fun), as the power exchange that excites me. Especially if you're an alpha type person otherwise. I appreciate it that much more. But what I do LOVE is tease and denial. Nothing sexier than a frustrated man that is just waiting for the word. I am a non monogamist, I have yet to meet any man who fufills both my sexual and kink desires. I don't think that superhero exists. I also enjoy relationships with certain females, but I'm sooo choosy that few meet the criteria. No, you can't watch. Give it up. ;) Anyhoo, I suppose I've blabbed enough on here for now. Feel free to say hello if you want to meet one who is probably the oddest Domme you'll ever meet on here, if the other Dominant Female profiles are anything to go by. I enjoy making friends with other Dominants and love sharing ideas, and socializing in general. You Scored as DominantOxford Dictionary: Dominance: power and influence over others (sexually)
Dominant
89%
Switch
86%
Experimental
75%
Sadist
75%
Bondage
64%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
57%
Submissive
32%
Masochist
32%
Vanilla
29%
4/2/2016 5:15:35 AM
There's nothing like trying to burn someone and completely fucking up the english language in one sentence. Good for you, you sure showed me, my little Dommey feelings are crushed! Okay not really, but you seem to be compensating for lack of self esteem or something, so I'm being nice. Now go back under your little rock and stay there until you grow a personality or manners. Both would be nice. In the meantime here's a wee impromptu english lesson. See below.
1. person or thing that loses or has lost something, especially a game or contest. 2. People who try to insult others online, and yet are illiterate fuckheads.
3/29/2016 1:24:21 PM
Ah the sound of disappearing subs.
Its like a little popping noise, then a wee poof of smoke, once shit gets real, usually.
I suppose I shouldn't be shocked that one who would not share his first name, a face pic, or anything else about himself did so.
I AM real boys and girls. I wouldn't have a 10,000 word profile if I wasn't, that is way too much effort for a scam. I wouldn't live in North Bay, Ontario...I'd pick somewhere with a shit ton more kinky people, instead of either snowbanks or mosquitoes.
That means you must be prepared for questions, and my desire for verification and real intentions. It means if I am considering owning you, playing with you, or even just going for coffee or a drink with you, I genuinely want to know about you, not just what you wish you were. I want facts. Personal information. YES, you have to.
I have to keep MY ass safe and real, and there isn't an app for that on my phone. I use good old fashioned common sense.
Which is in dangerously short supply these days.
12/29/2015 7:59:45 AM
The last couple of days I was thinking about how even though as a very young woman, who really had no damn clue, got an inkling that I liked things a bit different from my teenage counterparts.
Gawd I was so young, and the older me wishes I had had a mentor to tell me what I enjoyed was not weird or wrong. I spent 20 years afterwards trying to fit a regular mold. The second a vanilla boyfriend would get assertive or jealous, I would flip out and get dump his ass on the sidewalk. I was not an easy girlfriend to have. He had to walk carefully, that poor vanilla boy, let me do what I wanted, and yet let me know what he was up to. He had to remember monthaverssaries as young people do, even though I'd forget. lol Poor buggers.
I suppose my first sub was really my first boss. A much much older man, a friend of my father's who got me a job doing property maintenance, with him as my supervisor. I had NO clue why, but charming him into giving me preferred jobs, and little perks thrilled me. I liked knowing he looked at me wrong, he bore shame for it, even though he actually did nothing wrong. So I used his man-crush against him. He'd buy my lunches. Take me with him on errands while the other students worked in the heat. He'd watch me put on my sunscreen, and I took my time doing it. Paid me for hours I didn't work, and picked me up and drove me to work every day. Now thinking back, he was a pretty damn good sub.
He ignored my Dads wishes and got me my first puppy, because its what I wanted more than anything. An older guy can't give a young woman much really, without his head getting beat in by an angry father, but he could give me my most precious puppy, who I had for 15 wonderful years.
Fast forward two summers later, now 17, and still I had my summer job. His devotion was a little more apparent, and it irked the hell out of the Company executives sons and daughters as this teenage nobody became the summer students boss' second in command. Now he bought the flowers I liked for filling the company flower beds, he always made my lunches, and the equipment I used was always top notch and best choice. I never did hard labour. Eventually, one day after having some drinks at his house after work he confessed he loved me, right or wrong, he was mine. He pleaded for me to agree to go far away with him, where I could do whatever I liked bring my precious dog, as long as he got to be there and take care of me.
When a grown older man tells a much younger woman this kind of thing, especially a virgin with no clue, while laying on the ground at her feet and crying....well its a bit confusing. This isn't what we see in the movies. Its not teenage romance that I read. It was confusing as hell this unfettered devotion. Now, I would understand and appreciate it for what it was, but then, I just told him that it couldn't go anywhere. He cried some more. It was very sad actually, and now I feel badly about it. He really should have been made my property, we got along well and I liked the feeling of freedom I had there, but it was a world unknown to me.
So from my experience, I've made it my mission to educate those young whipper snappers who just don't fit that vanilla mold. If they feel the need to Dominate or submit, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Its just our kinky folk version of normal. Go for it. Be yourself you kinky fuckers.
LS
12/23/2015 8:42:03 AM
So a subbie from the US bought me a very sweet gift today, a new dress for a New Years party I'm attending, such a lovely surprise, something useful and needed! Not ALL Yanks are bad, I suppose, despite the fun we poke at you poor buggers. But its going to take a lot for this Canadian to forgive the Americans for the invention of spray cheese in a can. Just so horribly horribly wrong.....Obama and Justin should really be talking this kind of thing over.
12/12/2015 6:01:50 AM
Today I was asked why I think I'm an odd Domme. Interesting question
My Answer:
Because I am all of me, unlike many people on the interweb. I don't pretend I'm something I'm not. I'm an ordinary yet extraordinary woman in jeans and dirty shoes from my shitty attempts at gardening and playing with my dog. I'm not afraid to show I have a heart and will not take what isn't freely given. I'm a happy woman and don't feel my kink interests need to be limited to a dark dungeon in some basement like a stage set for a play. It isn't a play, it's life. I want it to be a happy place, where a sub knows their submission is special to me. No one is less, it's symbiotic. I'll laugh at a subs predicament, but a big part of it is joy that a strong and wonderful person I like put themselves there for me to enjoy. I'm not a bitch or cruel. My wicked side stems from a need to see parts of a sub they want to show but it's difficult. A vulnerability that needs to be ripped out of them that may require violence, torment, suffering or service. I understand that with my power over others comes responsibility. I take it seriously and love it.
12/8/2015 5:10:47 AM
As has happened in years past, I am posting my list of presents I am wanting for Christmas. Yes, they're demands, its for your own good so do as you're told. Now I don't care if you celebrate Christmas or not, I do (sort of), and anyone anywhere can give me these presents.
1. Slow down and take a deep breath. Take 2 seconds to enjoy some Christmas lights or have a nice cup of joe in a nice coffee shop. Regardless of why those lights are up, they are pretty. What can I say? I'm a woman, I love sparkly things. When you get home, if you're feeling frisky you can hang tinsel off your naughty bits and take pictures. But for now, just relax and chill.
2. Refuse to take on debt for the holidays or ANY holiday. No one is going to remember a lamp or sweater you gave them. Give your people time. Time with you. Be creative if you must give gifts, and show thought, it will save you a fortune, and be memorable to others. This does not mean boudoir photos for your Grannie. That's just plain fucking weird, dude.
3. Be that one nice person in the mall. All that tension and negative frantic energy is very contagious. I watch it every year spread like poison. The only thing that fixes it is a few people doing the opposite. Be that person. Besides you're not there frantically buying gifts because of 1 and 2, you're just getting toothpaste or something. Please help out the elderly. But don't sing Christmas carols, unless you can actually sing, and no random hugging of strangers. Both should be illegal, but unfortunately only one is.
4. Do something you've never done before. Buy the person behind you their coffee, bring stuff to the food bank, take up drawing, or learn to fly a plane. Growth as a person is one of the secrets to happiness. Not a new dildo and set of killer boots. A shocking surprise, I know.
5. Feel lonely and sad over the holidays? So do a couple thousand other people around you. So put away the whips and chains for a bit, they scare the regular folk. Go help them feel less lonely, and you will feel less lonely too. Just let them talk. The secret to good conversation is the ability to listen. Then to celebrate your feeling good you can do something evil to yourself when you get back to your dungeon. Like bake cookies to give away. Be careful who you give naughty gingerbread men to though. Long story there, I'll tell you about it another time.
6. Call someone you miss, but are waiting for them to call you, or you just never make the time to call. We all say "oh I should call so and so", but never do. Do it. They'll be so glad to hear from you and will talk about it for days. This is calling upon you to stop wanking over porn for 2 seconds and call your Aunt Mildred, once you settle down and put your clothes back on, otherwise that's strange shit. Let her tell you about her 40 cats and the silly things they do all day. Like eat and sleep. She was nice to you when you were a kid, so return the favour.
I am not a religious person in the least. But I do find others get very stressed out and often sad/depressed over the holidays, so this is my list of demands so you can help fix that.
Get to it.
And have an awesome day.
LS
2/26/2015 6:57:43 AM
Watch out Niagara Falls, I'm heading your way for the weekend! ;)
1/14/2015 10:09:34 AM
Its interesting that lately I don't find too many things interesting. I'm an Aquarius, curious about everything, and notorious for not being very in tune with my own feelings, while hyper in tune with others...but I think I'm sad. Yes, that's it! And the grown-up me says its ok to be sad, but by the fuck, it sucks ass. And not in a sexy way.
I desperately miss my long time friend with benefits. We had our reasons for parting ways, he didn't want to go, and I didn't want him to, but it had to be done. I was ok the first month, the 2nd month wasn't too bad, but now at 3+ months, it hits me.
Now, I look for something similar. Someone that gets me. Doesn't try to pigeon hole me as all Dominant or all vanilla. Understands that either of those things ebb and flow. Knows that I can be teased out of a terrible mood with a shitty joke and a big hug. That makes me smile when he sends me a text, and I can make him hard in a second by replying with something nasty. I loved knowing I drove him that kind of crazy.
I miss the sex that wasn't cheap and sleazy, the whisker rubs that said we had all the time in the world, even though we were always pushed for time and showed he enjoyed every inch of me. Quick recovery time, so I could always have more, more, more. And I took it. Often.
I miss the coffee talks with my friend. Working out loud on what is in this crazy head of mine and seeing what he thinks of it. Telling him about subs I've met, people I've played with, work, and even talking about my chickens. Fuck I miss that. I haven't talked to anyone about anything for months really.
Ah well enough with the bellyaching and pity party for today, I have no doubt it will all work out as it should. Onward and upward!
10/18/2014 3:50:52 AM
My frustration lately comes from sweaters. I've recently opened a store, so a spend a lot of time in the mall. Every time I go for coffee I see all these amazingly cute clothes in styles I would love to wear. Too bad all of them are made for Lilliputians.
Anyone who knows me knows I love to wear a nice elegant flowy sweater in the winter with a pair of leggings and my boots. I'm a Canadian, so dressing for cold weather is something I know to prepare for! So I go trekking to my local plus size clothing store.
Hmm. No cute sweaters.
I go online. Again...the only person I see wearing the kind of sweater I would like is Queen Latifah, and I assure you, her and I do not have the same budget constraints when it comes to clothing.
I can buy flowery upholstery pattern clothing so I can blend in on my Grannies couch, dresses that will drag behind me in a decidedly inelegant way after meeting a northern Ontario mud puddle/slush hole, sparkly stuff appropriate for the non existent night club life here in North Bay, t-shirts made for days of Mom Mode, or matchy matchy pant/shirt combos that are perfect should I ever decide to take up Bingo and join the Womens Christian Auxiliary.
So this leads me into the statistical research of the fashion clothing industry, because surely I am not the only woman on the planet frustrated by my lack of options due to the sheer fact that I am curvier than most.
It leads me to the conclusion that despite the statistical information that tells us that the average woman wears a size 12-14 and up.....clothing manufacturers just aren't keeping up. Even she who was unarguably the sexiest woman to ever live, Marilyn Monroe, ranged in size 18-22, depending.
There are more stores for petite women (who do exist, I love you guys too and am glad you have such nice damn sweaters) but my curvacious self, and my sisters are left out in the cold.
Literally. I'm shivering now just thinking about the upcoming sweaterless winter.
I am going to look at this more. Don't get me wrong, curvy clothes have come a long way since my younger days of horrifying fashion due to lack of options (I burned my Grade 7 school picture, it was THAT bad). But we still have a long ways to go. I think I want to be part of the solution of this glaring gap in fashion supply and demand.
So if you are a person of curves and have any suggestions as to what you would like to see for yourself (like an awesome sweater for example, but I think I have that one covered), feel free to drop me a line.
I know, this isn't kinky at all. Unless, you're really into sweaters.
Ess
10/2/2014 3:12:05 AM
You know, sometimes I wish I could live in the alternate world that Fin Dommes seem to live in.
Except instead of shoes that I can't walk in, and clothes that I would rarely wear, I would demand silly things...
Like new snow tires.
If it would make my sub feel any better, they are equally expensive as a custom made pair of thigh high leather boots. Except I would use them every day.
"You like your Mistress in one piece and alive, you worm? Yes, you're going to buy your Goddess snow tires, so she doesn't end up in a ditch! Get out that credit card!" Then smack his ass with the Goodyear Xl400 pamphlet sitting on the Tire Guy's counter.
Yeah sexy as hell, that. lol
THAT my friends, is MY rubber fetish.
But just so you know, I would also get the studded tires, just because they're extra kinky.
9/26/2014 7:48:48 AM
Today is one of those "feeling like making someone squirm" kind of days.
9/5/2014 7:53:55 AM
I've been oddly lonely lately. I have my 'roomate' at home, my family, and much going on vanilla wise, but that is just part of who I am. But more recently I've been wanting to hang out with those that understand all of me, the kink side too, my She-Ra, dead sexy, mean and yet playful side is itching to do SOMETHING. Spend entire days (even just one) just being LadyEss. Its weird when you live your life in compartments and constantly switch hats, some hats collect dust a bit and that makes one feel out of sorts.
It could be just the caffeine levels dropping.
8/14/2014 11:43:06 AM
Had a lovely lunch with a new boy today. He made a lovely pasta lunch, with chicken and veggies.
The table was set so nicely, it was a nice change to eat a civilized meal, with the right forks, not rushed, nice and relaxed.
I told him to serve lunch naked. So I had something nice to look at while we ate and talked. A newbie, so I was gentle with him and definitely left him aching, dripping, and crying for more. I don't think he really expected to be left so frustrated. Muh ha ha....new ones are always surprised by that.
He's learning that a Mistress doesn't ALWAYS allow an orgasm. I think now he has an inkling of what it is like to be controlled by another. Starting to absorb that it really truly isn't about him.
We'll see if it happens again. Either way, it was enjoyable on my part.
5/8/2014 11:00:18 AM
Funny and true story.
Sub messages me wanting to serve. I say fine, go take care of my friends who need help today. I give him the address, and clearly say there are NO STRINGS OR CONDITIONS in your service, just do what they ask. You get NOTHING out of this.
He goes. Surprising actually. But suddenly there are conditions. He likes to be slapped, yelled at and spit on, he considers this fair compensation for his service.
Oh right and he's married too, so no marks.
Sure buddy. I told my friend to slap him hard for imposing conditions. You want a slap, oh my you will get one. And she has a mean set of lungs. So she yells too.
Suddenly, and shockingly (not in the least), the sub is suddenly called away to work.....off he goes, she slaps too hard and yells too loudly apparently. Oh my, I'm sorry Princess!
Dude, the preconditions were given to you. Your attendance was by my message your agreement in helping a Dominant out today, in return for nothing. Like a BDSM date, no first base, no nothing. The second you started talking about how you wanted to be compensated is why got you way more than you asked for. This type of mentality is what leads us down the path of males thinking they deserve to be compensated for every little thing they do for us. Does dinner mean a blow job? Maybe a little spank?
Smarten up. Grow up. I understand that for kink to progress it takes an investment of time and energy, and getting to know each other. The sooner you realize that as well, the better.
5/8/2014 6:44:05 AM
Interesting thing going on on CM.... The Dommes say there are no real subs and the subs say there are no real Dommes.
I think since I have real friends (with a pulse and everything!) on both sides of the fence, even way up here in no woman's land, this is hard to believe.
So if there is a true service oriented sub out there who wants to just help without the prospect of any self gratification, except that you've served well and as directed, then let me know. Many profiles on here talk about just making a Woman's life easier by serving, and yet how many have just gone and helped out expecting nothing?
I have Domme acquaintances in need of 100% service oriented, no strings help. Missisauga area, if that helps any.
Time to put your back sweat where your mouth is I guess.
As a little add on to this, even though I am I Dominant, I work hard at helping others when possible. I'm not saying that because I'm some goddamn saint, I'm not, but I think community is important, and that means giving something of oneself...I find most people just need a little bit of time spent with them, or doing something that I am easily capable of that they aren't.
Is it a big city thing to leave someone in your community struggling when helping would only require your time, maybe giving someone a lift, or getting them a few groceries because they can't get around, regardless of their kink leanings, or lack thereof? I've done my fair share of time scrubbing floors and doing dishes and cooking for those who couldn't do it themselves, because someone in my community needed it.
So, when I see love for 'no strings housework' on your profile, or 'butler or maid' service on there...I'm thinking what a nice person, taking care of others, I live with the hope that this love of doing things stems more from a community minded person, rather than wanking madly because you got to use apple scented dish soap. I don't want to end up jaded like my Domme lady friends.
My Favourite Story as it relates to getting things done, and helping others:
Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, And Nobody
This is a little story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody's job. Everybody thought that Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.
Sure its been out there forever, but it stands the test of time.
4/24/2014 9:58:38 AM
So I've decided to take under consideration a little female sub from southern Ontario. Here's to hopin'!
4/2/2014 4:09:24 AM
My long term dream that keeps reoccurring: Having a nice property that is not necessarily isolated but private, and sustainable. Some acreage, a sort of communal life where as a small group, myself and my submissives, maybe a Switch and or Alpha sub type primary partner, work towards a life that is healthy, friendly, happy, and most of all successful. I have several business ideas that could be profitable, but I am but One Woman, I can't possibly accomplish everything I want to. We all have jobs that pay the bills, the bills are reduced greatly by living together, so I make sure everyone puts a little away for the dreaded time of needing a pension. Perhaps the domestic sub gets an allowance for taking care of the others. Perhaps someone works from home. Vanilla on the outside so no one is ever uncomfortable having non kinky guests or family come visit. I don't know how it all works specifically, but its a lovely idea. Don't go ruining my idea with all the legalities of communal living. lol Its my fantasy for now.
2/21/2014 1:13:33 PM
Today is freezing rain, snow, high winds, and of course more crappy highways.
Dear Winter,
I am breaking up with you. Its not you, its me....quite frankly Summer is hotter.
LS
2/19/2014 4:35:16 AM
I can't wait to meet babybbw, hopefully we'll get together soon.
C'mon winter, hurry up and finish! lol
2/14/2014 12:20:57 PM
Happy Valentines Day everyone!
Hope you all have wonderful kinky plans for this most romantic of nights. I'm off to help some friends set up for their play party! Nothing says I Love You, like a little flogging and rope. lol
2/4/2014 3:50:36 AM
Today is my first full day of being 40, I think I like it!
2/4/2014 3:49:42 AM
Since so many people share poetry on here I thought I'd share something I found...
An Ontario Poem
It’s winter in Ontario, And the gentle breezes blow St seventy five mile an hour At thirty five below Oh how I love Ontario When the snow is up to your butt You take a breath of winter air And your nostrils freeze shut Yes the weather here is wonderful So I guess I’ll hang around I could never leave Ontario Because I am frozen to the ground
-Unknown
Sniff. Its beautiful, I'd cry but my tears would freeze to my face.
11/21/2013 3:18:15 AM
Attention Southern Ontario-ites!
I'm heading south next week. I want to avoid winter, and have a long round of work related visiting to do. The game plan (always subject to change) is Monday, down Hwy 11/400 to Barrie, stay there until Wednesday morning, then Peterborough area, until Friday at the latest, then back to my precious Northern Ontario.
If you'd like to get out from behind your computer and actually meet a real human who has interests similar to yours, contact me.
No wankers, fakes or douchebags please. Nor does this mean I want to play. I just like meeting new people.
6/8/2013 1:36:46 AM
Funny story for you. So, I have a meeting with a local company manager. I insisted through e-mails if he wants my business I have to be bribed with coffee. Said manager brings coffee to my office, we yap for ages, get business stuff all taken care of....
And then he falters a bit in the conversation. I can tell he really wants to say something but , is hesitant to do so. "Oh just out with whatever you were going to say!" I tell him.
He says to me, " I NEVER say this kind of thing to women I've just met, but you're stunning and I'd love to spend some time with you."
He's surprised he managed to spit it out, and I'm surprised, period. But pleasantly so, I'm a terrible mind reader and often oblivious to overly subtle advances. Just talking to me never works, everyone talks to me including children, old people, and everyone in-between so I can't tell low level wooing from hey-nice-weather conversation.
But that folks is the best way to let people know you're interested. Just say so! Sure its scary, sure you might be rejected, but it got another coffee meeting for that guy. It might work for you too.
You need the following, pee me. Class, manners, English lessons, personality transplant, brain cells, and a much better penis. Honestly. Have a wonderful day!
2/7/2013 4:52:51 AM
I'm looking forward to this weekend, even though it is a working weekend. I'm off to visit a Daddy friend and his babygirl, it'll be nice to talk in person rather than by e-mail!
Then hopefully some playtime with a sub. I am seriously overdue! He's been industriously scrubbing and cleaning to get ready for my visit. I'm sure I can find some dirt somewhere to punish him for.
1/17/2013 9:53:42 AM
Allll right folks, let's start placing bets...
Cheer if you think the sub who so desperately wanted to meet for coffee today will bother contacting me or show up....
All I hear is crickets.
I'm with you guys on this one. ;)
Funny how that goes.
1/9/2013 10:01:40 AM
Oh my the awesomeness continues!! Today I recieved a lovely gift from a slave in BC. We've known each other for years now, and he's coming to terms with his submissiveness, and it's so nice to see him settling in and finding contentment in his proper place.
1/9/2013 9:37:58 AM
Today is a great day. A submissive made this Domme very happy, by doing simply what I talked about in my Christmas journal post. I'm copying it on here for everyone to read, because to me, this boy has really taken service to heart, and is amazing. There are many on here who say they wish to serve, no strings attached, but do they really? This boy did it, and for that I am an extremely happy Lady Ess. Here's is what was sent to me.....
well LadyEss, your profile writings have really inspired me, i took the "servant heart" to heart, and yesterday i did a couple small things that made a world of differance to me, i was at the down town bus terminal, and i always thought giving bums money did little more than fuel their addiction to booze or drugs, but an more mature man about 55 approched for me for some change, said he was hungry, well i did not give him money, but i did take him to the cafe in there and got him something to eat, and listened to his story, everyone has a story.........and yes he is alcoholic, admitted that to me, but upon hearing of the immense loss and tragedy in his life felt such compassion, so i contacted a person who i knew that had over come addiction, and we both took him to an AA meeting and got the phone number for a long term tratment centre here in our city. We brought him there this morning, and he he is now admitted to long term treatment with a place to stay, treatment for his issues of which we were told alcohol was merely a way for him to self medicate from all his pain..........so thankyou so, so much........and yes i am i one who has spent countless dollars on some outfit or shoes for a Domme, but man this feels like i have really been a faithful servant today
I don't need shoes, I don't need amazon cards and presents cluttering up my life. This kind of thing is what pleases this Domme more than anything.
12/1/2012 5:17:02 PM
So really all I have to do is put a list of demands down on here and I'll get what I want?? AWESOME! So I'm going to give it a shot. Listen here you tinsel covered slave bitches, Lady Ess is making demands.....
1. Rather than an amazon gift card sent to me, how about you go make a donation to a charity, I don't care what, but starting close to home never hurts. There are a lot of people doing without, and they need your help far more than I need a pair of sexy shoes. Sure I'd love some new things, but there is nothing that I NEED (other than a few days of quiet), there are others that do.
2. Rather than spending hours serving me and painting my toes, and grovelling about on my floor, how about you go give a hand to a family friend or elderly person that truly needs the help, I can fend for myself. If you are truly submissive and all about service, as I hear over and over on here. Good! Then prove it by serving someone who will give you nothing but gratitude in return.
3. Random: I want a pony. Not a human one. I've been somewhat good for 38 years, and I'm just throwing it out there in case Santa is watching, I think I have enough well behaved points. I've been patient you fat red and white bastard, time to cough up. If that isn't possible, then never mind, you get no cookies.
4. My biggest and most difficult demand. SLow down. Let the person with only one item ahead of you. Smile dammit, regardless of the time of year. Try and be nice, everyone is as stressed as you are. Help the Mom juggling too many bags and wrangling kids. Help the old guy trying to lift bags of salt into his car. Take off the freaking blinders, look around, and make the holiday season more holidayish for others. It actually makes this time of year a hell of a lot more fun.
5. And if there is anyone out there with the power to pull the plug on the endless playing of Christmas carols in the stores, please do so! I don't mind it for a few days, but reallly, do we need that 30 days before???? That is just cruel and unusual punishment, even by my freak standards. Already I'm begging for mercy, and we have a looong ways to go!
Allright, so there is my list of demands. Now you do your part.
10/30/2012 9:32:14 AM
Hey there,
I'm not seeking submissives at this time, this Mistress is taking a little breather. Time to rally and clean house. Friends are welcome and I am keeping my profile here so I can stay in touch with those friends that matter to me. And to those friends who do matter to me, thanks, you're wonderful and can always be counted on to make me smile!
LS
10/29/2012 7:11:36 AM
Well this has been a drama filled 24 hours and I'm utterly EXHAUSTED. I hate drama and being upset. To anyone on here who cares to know, or is just plain nosey, feel free to read about it on my FL profile (same name). It'll be deleted in a few days when I calm down anyway, so it really doesn't matter in the scheme of the big picture. I just needed to rant and with no one to yell at that seemed like a grand way of yelling. lol Either way, I no longer have a collared female pet, she has handily been distracted and wooed by another Dom, and has been cut loose. I'm sure they'll be very happy together. Onward and upward!
9/4/2012 11:29:06 AM
Now I have one hell of a cold.WTF!! I've been taking vitamins, eating better and at least twice I did things that very closely resembled exercise.
I don't count sex as exercise, it's too much fun to be associated with that horrid 'E' word.
But I have been enjoying raiding my neighbours garden. I even dress like a garden ninja.
8/30/2012 12:36:31 PM
I must be PMS-ing like craaaazy today. I feel grumpy, out of sorts, missing my pet, craving ice cream, chick flicks, and time on a couch. lol Alas, no rest for the wicked. The very very wicked. ;)
8/14/2012 6:59:28 AM
Wow I realized I haven't updated my journal here in a bit.
I met my pet...we hit it off instantly, and she now wears my collar. All decided within 3 days. We both figure if it works, it works, and why beat around the bush.
So, pet is working hard on moving to be closer to me. YAY! I hate her being so far away.
6/18/2012 1:27:56 AM
Well I am one excited Domina! 6 more days and my little subbie girl comes to play with her Mistress. Both of us are counting down the minutes. The list of things I want to do to her is longer than can ever be accomplished in 48 hours, so I'm mentally trying to whittle it down to the favourites, a nearly impossible task.
I know myself well enough to know it doesn't matter what I plan, it'll all change as I go along anyway. Watching her squirm and having her serve me will be what I enjoy the most. The rest is just details.
Have a fantastic Monday A/all!
Ess
6/7/2012 3:18:58 PM
Today is a sad day. I think my precious laptop has finally bit the buscuit. It was 6 years old, had been dragged everywhere, and was so well used that there were hardly any letters left on the keyboard. Long nails chew the hell out of keyboards, btw. lol So for the moment, I'm stuck using my itty bitty netbook. All my pictures are gone. Sigh. Ah well it's an excuse to make new ones I guess. I really am glad I salvaged all my work related stuff before Ole Reliable croaked!
So, if anyone out there has some recommendations on a good laptop, or any major complaints about theirs, I'm willing to listen. I don't have a huge budget for this, unless of course it's a really early Christmas present!
5/22/2012 9:11:18 PM
I don't know who on here has read Fifty Shades of Grey, by E L James yet, but whoever has, should be doing a happy dance that a book about BDSM has gone mainstream and is on the New York Times bestseller list. There, hopefully kinksters everywhere won't seem quite so scary in the not so good way. I get very tired of the "oh you must be a freak" look because of my preferences. It just is what it is...nor will I impose it on someone who isn't interested. It's like me saying I prefer men who have blue eyes. I just do, can't explain it.
Now for the downside, which seems to be a major pitfall whenever something BDSM related titillates the masses....
In the book the Dom, is attracted to a young innocent woman, and of course they have a relationship (the basis of the whole book, as you can imagine). What ticks me off about the whole thing is that Grey has of course been seriously and mysteriously abused as a child. He was a submissive to a Domme for several years before becoming a Dom himself. I'm somewhat irritated that for some reason, in almost every BDSM story I've read, or movie I've watched (not counting dirty movies here), that one or the other (Dominant or submissive) has a horrific past. To me, it's like that crazy time when the world was trying to justify a person being gay, or transgendered. I'm sure they still are (like we don't have bigger planetary issues to worry about), but the fact of the matter it just is they way a person is. Just accept it. Can't us kinksters be kinky just because we plain ole LIKE IT??? Does it have to stem from some sort of psychological damage from youth? I think not, maybe for a few. Everyone has a past, some worse than others, and yet still some become kinky, some not. So don't go blaming my kinkiness on my parents, because they're awesome.
I'm sad to say that while I was very happy to see a book shed light on the BDSM world in such an interesting way, that thought chewed on me through the whole thing. But of course, I'll end up reading the other two books, just so it's all finished up properly.
I swear, I'm going to write the most boring autobiography ever just to prove that regular, well adjusted people can be kinky too.
1/15/2012 6:55:57 PM
Hmmmm trying to find old friends on here....it's not going very well. Lost their number, the e-mails...dig dig dig, ah well T/they're a lovely couple and know who they are, if they read this, they'll get in touch. Well She might, he's likely tied up to something. lol
11/6/2010 6:21:04 AM
Good Morning E/everyone,
I just wanted to put a blurb in here that I while I appreciate all the interest from male subs wanting to serve me, I'd really in my heart of hearts enjoy a female to play with. I've been browsing around, and my experience with my own gender is limited, I'd like to expand on it. There is just something so sexy about a fem sub, so of course I want one! lol
Here's my little rundown of what I'd like so if by chance you've gone to the bother of reading, you'll already have an idea of wether or not we're compatible.
1. I don't care if you're married. I know only too well what it's like to have screaming needs that aren't being met. I kick ass at discreet. I am very good at being a friend first, kinky friend second. I completely understand family obligations, that kind of thing, and will never interfere with that. I expect the same.
2. It all takes time. There is a lot on my bucket list, and plenty we both have to learn, the trip has been a lot of fun so far, and I know it takes time to build a connection, and trust before I go dangling you off a ceiling somewhere. lol
3. PLEASE BE SANE! Enough said there. I'm big on the SSC credo. I've had enough run ins with looneys on here, thanks.
4. I can travel a little bit, but not very often, so a bit of freedom on your part would suit me well.
Well I guess that's it for now. Say hi when you can, and if nothing else we end up being pen pals telling each other the naughty crap we've been up to. lol
Ess
7/30/2010 2:53:29 AM
Woweee! I just won the Collar Me Group 900,000 dollar draw! lol Oh boy I need to send my private information ASAP....I should throw in my Social Insurance number in there too, just to make sure they have everything they need....
Now boys and girls, be nice and buy your lady something pretty, or at the very least something wickedly naughty that both of you will enjoy. lol The best reason is no reason at all!
7/5/2010 6:28:27 PM
Interesting chat with a lady today. She proclaims quite vigorously that all of this BDSM stuff is shocking and disgusting (yet has snuck peeks at a couple of shows featuring it). Hmmm ok well each to their own I suppose. Yet, at the same time she is a 46 year old 6'2" amazon who wants a man who is honest, sweet, pays attention to her, and thinks she's sexy as hell. She is tired of dating men who hold her height and size against her......lol. LADY!!! You are so missing the boat... I have a feeling more of her lack of success at finding a partner is the negative additude and inability to think outside the box.
4/22/2010 2:39:14 AM
To anyone who may be reading my profile, and hopes that someday I head in their direction: At one time I was allright with getting out of Dodge now and again. It's not looking good at this time, so if you contact me, realize you'll be travelling to my area. I am a recently self diagnosed workaholic, and really haven't made it to step 2 yet of the self help program, which is SLOW THE HELL DOWN. I'm finding my work to be a bit like figuring out a new submissive...how to push the limits and get more, a tweak, a nudge, and get it all working exactly the way I want things. And since submissives have been such a disappointment lately, I'm transfering all the extra energy. It's almost frightening, all that energy.
11/16/2009 5:23:58 PM
Woot! Loving the new job! As much as many of you feel I should be just sitting on my pretty ass being beautiful and barking orders...it doesn't pay the bills. So I have broken nails, cut off the rest (it looked silly anyway, one long one short so on and so on), and am enjoying my new job. I singed my hair this weekend due to a slightly out of control grass fire. I really didn't know I could run like that, but all I could think was of the flames hitting the bushline, so Super Lady Ess ran to save her trees. So everyone rest easy, my dog still has something to pee on. lol Thankfully I didn't burn my hair too badly, and the hairdresser trimmed it all up so it looks nice again. My running shoes are destroyed though, stomping a tarp on fire didn't agree with them. For some reason, I'm thinking I have the ratty Domme look down pat. lol Which really isn't that surprising, I never do anything the normal way.
10/20/2009 12:45:22 PM
Met a very nice sub from on here for coffee yesterday. God I love coffee, and having a great conversation while imbibing in my addiction was even better. We will see how that goes and what my time allows for. Damn vanilla life interferes with fun, every time. lol The only reason I posted this is to show all those that are ranting...not everyone is fake. Be genuine, and the same will come back to you. And stop ranting and whining...it's unattractive.
10/15/2009 12:07:38 PM
I keep getting asked....what are you into? Just as it is for submissives, for me it changes, and depends on the relationship with my sub. This sounds odd for a Domme to say, but I'm into whatever my sub is into. No, that doesn't mean the sub calls the shots. It means that to get my sub into that subspace, to draw on the subs energy and feel my Dominance over them, I will do what is necessary. If making my sub scrub a floor with a toothbrush gets him/her to where they need to be for me to have complete control....so be it, I really didn't need the floor scrubbed, but it works. I'll dress them up, put them down, spank them, put a leash on them and drag them around by their throat. In doing all that, I see the quivers and twitches, and the nervous sweat....and THAT my dears is what I am into. I am into seeing my submissive, submissive. And truthfully, nothing is sexier than a submissive who is anything but to the rest of the world. Then they are MY submissive, not just a doormat that anyone can pick up and order around.
7/14/2009 10:28:24 PM
Oh what to write about...I've recieved quite a few messages from sub males thrilled with the fact I seem reasonable and sane. Which I suppose I am, for the most part. Just don't catch me before my morning coffee, you do that at your peril. lol So I went browsing around looking at some other Dommes profiles. Some seem nice, but there are a lot of snarly ones out there. Even I'm scared, and I'm a pretty brave soul, so I thought. That much negative energy must be exhausting, I'm sure. I guess I'm not a woman who wants everyone cowering in fear of me, I want the best of them, and I find that comes from praise when deserved and punishment when earned, not just mindless cruelty. Kind of like training a dog really.....lol. God forbid a Domme be like everyone else and laugh when something is funny, and cry at chick flicks (okay, I don't do that, but you know what I mean). If ever I end up so ruthless and mean spirited, please someone tell me, and I'll quit this whole thing. I take joy in my strength, and pleasure from those who want to serve me, a whole lot to smile about, I think.
5/21/2009 6:47:59 AM
Got a couple of interesting e-mails the past couple of days. One offering to be my financial whore...I guess that's a nice way of saying he'll pay for me to play with him, I won't even pretend to know what the hell he was talking about. Another sent me his cell phone number. I have to say it worries me when someone is so desperate to be submissive they compromise their privacy, safety and well being. There's something unbalanced about that. I find it alarming, and have no desire to spend my time with someone so needy that they'll sacrifice some very fundamental things, before even knowing me, to just anyone who is willing to take. I want their everything later, when they know me, ache and burn for ME, when the giving comes with a free heart, not desperation.
