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Hello everyone and welcome. I've been on CM before, but it's been a sufficient amount of time since then to justify starting from scratch with a new profile (and besides, I've managed to thoroughly misplace the access information for my old one!). First, a few things about me. I'm what you might call an educated person. At least, more than a few people have tried to teach me over the years. I'd like to think that something's managed to rub off. Being that I'm an educated person, I'm usually called upon to make my living with the ol' grey matter. Science, Tech, Research and/or Development, all that good stuff. When I'm not building or working with shiny/flashy things, or learning how to build or work with even shiny-er/flashy-er things, I tend to occupy myself with Philosophy, Art, helping out it my community, or some combination of those three things. Additionally, while I tend not to be /seriously/ interested in sports (particularly the watching of them), I can definitely get behind running around, lifting heavy objects, or other such silliness when the goal is personal improvement and hardcore R&R (if that makes any sort of sense). Doing all of this stuff tends to mean I end up pretty busy most of the time. This will lead to an important consequence I'll talk about below (have you been taking notes?). Next, why am I here and what am I looking for? Well, in common with many of you I suspect, I'm a kinkster. I won't get into the nature vs. nurture debate of sexual orientation just now, but suffice it to say that I've been more or less wired for D/s since I've sexually come of age (not that I knew it the whole time!). I suspect that's something else I have in common with many of you. Assuming that that's that case, our mutual proclivities lead to an interesting problem. In a world where we are a (typically, with some very visible exceptions) quite silent minority, how do we identify the likeminded within the large vanilla pack? Is it effective to form relationships with random people as 'normal' and then try to find a way to work our kinks in? Is that fair? A better solution to me, particularly as I live in a rural area without a local 'scene' (not that I'd necessarily be interested in participating in one if it were available), is to try to find someone(s) from a group of people which are already looking for the kinds of relationships I'm interested in forming. CM (such that it is) is the best/most accessible way that I've found to do this. That tells you why I'm here. Now, what am I looking for specifically? In community parlance I'm looking to establish a long-term relationship with one (or more, potentially. I've not done that before but I'm curious and/or interested about the concept) female who is either a slave or a submissive with slave-like tendencies. Why am I looking for that? I've been in D/s relationships since my earlier years of college with most of them being limited, up-front, in duration. While I value all of them, I think I'm at a point now where I'm ready for something that doesn't have an expiration date but rather is formed with the intent of stretching off into the sunset. I find that I most enjoy myself when I have time to fully learn about and understand a submissive. To work my claws into them and make them dance, if you will. That's when the really interesting things can happen. I say slave, or submissive with slave-like tendencies, not because I have a particular, extremely precise, picture in my head of what I want. It's my opinion that, just as individuals are unique each relationship between individuals must necessarily be unique if it is to be most valuable. Rather, I know my own nature. I push, sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly, for increasing levels of control over my submissive. I've done it in the past, and I presume that I will naturally do it in the future. In the end, this has a tendency to challenge any 'limits' or boundaries that are not my own, hence my choice of terms. That being said, I'm sure that's exactly what many of you might be looking for. Fair warning to everyone else. One last thing on this general topic both related to what I've just said and what I mentioned above. I tend to be a very busy bee. I know, everyone's busy, but my busy-ness and my natural inclinations require that a sub hoping to have a successful relationship with me be prepared to devote sufficient amounts of time and energy to adapt themselves to my rather hectic schedule. Specifically, as I typically move every five years or so (not necessarily intentionally, but it's an observed pattern) it would be best if you either had a career that is somewhat portable or intend to be a house-subbie (which is fine, I'm sure I'll think of more than enough things for you to do to occupy your time). Also, while I'm more than happy to take my time establishing a relationship, my goal is that you live with me. That's when the fun starts from my perspective, and you should know that that's what I'll be driving towards from the start. I encourage you to begin the process of figuring out if that will work for you starting from the first time we talk. Finally, how I conduct myself here. Being CM'ers I'm sure we're all mutually aware of the limitations of the site. A degree of trust is important to establish early on in my opinion. Preferably to me, we'd talk a few times and then (if you're close, and once we're mutually convinced we're not axe-murderers) we'd meet someplace in person. If you're farther away, it might take slightly longer (but not too long!) and the first visit (probably at some pretty, relatively neutral, location. Everyone needs vacations right?) might be a bit more in depth (too better make use of difficult to arrange time). Also, while I don't post pics on the site, I do send them on my first message. Reciprocity is appreciated both to build trust and to give me a better idea of who I'm talking to. That's it for now folks. See you out there.