This profile concerns who I am in relation to the lifestyle community at large and is for any others in the community with whom I might interact, or who might simply be interested, as well as a few other things not specifically related to the lifestyle but that indicate who I am as a person.

I am a Domme. That is fundamental to who and what I am as a person, not a role I take up and play, and not just a kink I enjoy. It means that I am the one with the authority and responsibility for making all the big, life shaping, decisions in my relationships, and that a-symmetrical structure of authority permeates and shapes all aspects of my relationships. Less fundamentally, I also like to express my sexuality, love and care through various forms of sadistic play. And I am and have always been poly and bisexual, even before I knew the word. For me, that means I've been able to enjoy casual sex with a variety of people of different genders and body types, as well as a range of more ongoing relationships with different levels of commitment. These days, I am ethically non-monogamous, although for much of my life I was not.

I also believe that far from being some form of evil, sick, or perverted deviance, such relationships enrich the lives of those who choose them, and that they are legitimate, and should be able to be enjoyed with the same freedom as 'normal' monogamous, heterosexual, non-kinky relationships and sex lives.

I enjoy connecting and sharing with others who share a similar way of living and the values underpinning it: honesty, openness, and intimacy. I have, at times, played an active role in building and sustaining communities of such people, although these days I'm not very active in that regard.

While I would not overclaim my knowledge, understanding, or technical skills, I consider myself to be nurturant and supportive, and a good teacher. I happen to be trans: I spent much of my life living and identifying as a man but I now live and identify, and am mostly identified by others, as a woman.

At present I have only one relationship: with my slave. He is a perfect match for me, both as a slave and more broadly as a person. We have been involved together for nearly 6 years, most of it at a distance, with regular visits, as we lived in different countries. In January 2022, he was able to migrate to be with me, and we are now (finally) married and living together. While I still describe myself as poly, I am deeply content living monogamously with him, and am not currently interested in any further relationships; I do not see that changing.

I love gardening, cooking and eating (a meal built around food fresh picked from our garden with my darling slave is one of my deep pleasures). I play sport competitively and like to cycle. I'm involved in my local community association as a volunteer, and am actively involved in building connections in my local neighbourhood. Finally, I am committed to the ongoing support of my ageing parents.

I value personal integrity and generosity of spirit, I value a disposition to personal growth and an openness to learning and new experiences, a commitment to self-care, physically and emotionally, and a general sense of sociability. I value commitment to, but not obsession about, career. I am a retired academic, with an active intellectual and cultural life. I value connection with people - relationships of various sorts.

Two notes about writing.1. I prefer to communicate in complete sentences and complete words (I dislike intensely text abbreviations). 2. *sigh* How depressing that I even feel the need to write this but... if you are going to write to me, for heaven’s sake make it more than a bland hello, especially if your profile tells me nothing about you. Who are you? Why are you writing to me? What of interest do you think we might share? Do you have questions you would like to ask me about the lifestyle? Communicate, folks... communicate!

Finally, the photo is of me; it was taken mid-July 2017.