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And yet....
I should probably put something here. I'm not the best at talking about myself in such a static medium. I mean one either comes off sounding like they are too perfect and would never take 2 seconds to even respond, or one comes off sounding like an unintelligent yookle. Best way to get any sort of reading on a person is back and forth interaction. But I must so here goes.
What I am here for is to find people who want a play/scene bottom with sub like tendencies. Getting flogged, beaten, tied up, poked and prodded, ect. on a regular basis would be ideal. Not looking for sex though,be it vanilla or sex thrown into a scene.
I would like to find someone who understands that I am a human being and not a slave, pet, whatever. I do greatly enjoy power exchange, having it flow into whatever relationship we might have. That however does not mean that, when we're having a lively debate about the merits of old Dr. Who vs. new Dr. Who, you get to win for being Master Sir Domly Mistress whatever.
In real life I have friends I like to hang out with, have fun, party, watch movies with, chill or cause a ruckus.
Love reading, computer games and am now on an anime kick.
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So for the past 2years I'd been taking a break trying to recover myself.
Now am back, with an updated look on life, myself and profile.
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Yay, I have my own beginner play peircing kit. Fun times. I have an idea with feathers for a wing effect. Pics after it's been down.
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This is amazing, getting the chance to explore the experiences that I have been looking for. It is also humbling to have a slave say that they have to look away while I get a beating from their Sir, because it gets so intense. Or when people tell me that we draw the attention of everyone in the room. While I knew that I was a masochist and that sadists appreciate having someone to work on, I didn't realize how much others appreciate it.
Of course I also have to be careful not to fall into sub frenzy or rebound.
A bunch of us girls are planning to check out the Lair. Safety in numbers and all that.
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My life has opened up to all sorts of new possibilities. And I'm gonna enjoy as many of them as I can.
On that note, nothing is better for a body than a thorough beating.
Being a masochist could be addicting. I'm lucky to be too lazy to be addictive.
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So New Years Eve was fantastic. Went to visit a friend and join them at a play party with a group they know.
Very friendly, and full of fun.
Got a taste electric play. It tickled horribly, must pursue.
First time with needle play. Also very interesting. Again something to do more of.
Also got a good beating, let loose alot of pent up emotion, something I haven't been able to do in a while. Even got bruises, which is unusual for me.
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"You're not looking for sex or long term relationships. Living and exploring life includes the possibility of those things. It seems silly to exclude them categorically. That's why no one is messaging you.
I'm not going to spend time with someone who isn't open to relationships or sex...not because I necessarily want those things with you, but because I MAY want them, so my time is better spent with someone who also may want them.
Hope this helps :)"
This makes me laugh. A variation on the you're not a "twoo ____ because you don't play they way I do" I am always amazed that people can't grasp that not everyone lives life the same way they do.
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I find it interesting that when I state clearly that I am not looking for sex in my profile, no one is interested in saying hello.
Are there really that few people that are living and exploring the lifestyle as an exploration of life? Here I thought we were trying to explore ourselves as human beings. To go further into our minds and spirits. I thought others would want to traverse rough territories that other, are too afraid to enter.
Instead it seems they want to live the kink and the fetish. That BDSM is another means to find a high or cheap thrill.
So where and how do I find people to socialize with that are willing to discuss the spiritual and/or emotional experience they have as a top or bottom. People that are willing to engage in scenes, without wanting or expecting sex. A good flogging, or suspending, or whatever and afterward refreshment and intelligent discussion.
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I am coming to understand the difference between a sub and a bottom, and how that relates to me.
I'm sure there are those that think this is a duh issue. But having learned about all this in a very isolated manner, means I didn't get the benefit of having the duh knowledge. The words are thrown around by main stream media and what a teenager can find while the internet was just catching on, without having any point of reference to start from.
At first I thought they were the same. Then just different end of the spectrum. A sub who didn't bottom couldn't handle pain. A bottom who didn't sub, couldn't handle commitment.
yes all very skewed, but that's what you get with no one around to correct, or enlighten, or even different opinions.
So now to take my new understandings and explore what I need an want from them. How do they integrate with me?
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| Age: 33 |
| Alberta,
Canada |
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