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Hetero Female Dominant, 45,  Lincoln, Nebraska
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I have 25 years of experience. Im still learning new things I enjoy on a regular basis. I certainly know the things Im not interested in.

That said, Im pretty intuitive about things. Ive met most of my relationships online, so Ive parsed a lot of textual communication and lack thereof. If you arent a good communicator we probably wont get far.

I love a healthy, agile mind and good intellect. Nothing hotter than the power exchange given through the submission of a strong mind. Most of my main interests start in the brain, versus purely bodily experiences, so if the cerebral nature of your role eludes you, we probably arent the best match. Physical experiences are good as experiences, but Ive not had much success making those the foundation of something with any real longevity.


Please note I am non-monogamous (aka polyamorous). This does not mean I like cuckold dynamics, or only pursue those who do. This means I have many facets and zero expectation that there is One Twue Sub who will meet them all. I am very open about my relations. Its not that I need a bunch of people fawning for my attention, but kinkery is a fairly large part of my online social life and I have varying levels of friendships.

Were I to find a primary real-time relationship that occupied more of my time, I would still be poly, but its not like I am always eyeing the horizon for the next tasty submissive gazelle to replace you. Polyamory just means I have a lot of (kinky) lovin to spread around. It doesnt mean I am afraid of commitment or any such thing, but Id rather not have play partners and just have solid bonds with other people whom I know well and trust. Believe me, finding people I mesh with isnt that easy, so these numbers are small.

Note I am NOT seeking to start more online things. If youre looking for your purely online fix, Im likely not a match.

I have an affinity for alluring, playful, non-bratty sluts. While Im happy within a consensual dynamic to treat you like a bitch, Im not into dress-up feminization.

Lets see if this gets approved? I dont know whats become offensive about my profile...











 Dominant Female



 5' 10"






Actively Seeking:

Male Slave / Sub

Switch Male


 Training you to be completely
obedient to me and only me (Expert)

 Treating you like an object

 Complete control over your orgasms (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse




 Blindfolding you

 Tying you up

 Keeping you locked in tamper evident chastity at all times

 Local BDSM Community

 Rear End Play

 Hair Pulling



 Mental Bondage

 Sensation Play

 Spanking you

 Speech Restrictions

 Dominating you with a strap-on

 Card Games

 Puzzle Games

 True Crime





 Liberal Politics




 Lifestyle BDSM



 Body Worship

 Role Playing

 Theatrical Scenes

 Goddess Worship

 Latter-day Saints



 Foot Worship

 Hard Limits:


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Journal Entries:
1/24/2023 1:26:24 PM

If you are a) looking for online only, b) located outside the US and/or c) married, please look elsewhere. My bingo card squares are full on these things. Also if you're more than 10 years older than I am, we likely will not mesh. There have been exceptions, but these are the current rules.

Thanks a bunch. 

11/27/2022 1:09:09 PM

If you decide to send me something I explicitly state in my profile that I do not like, thinking you are cute or ironic, believe me, you are not. Nobody else will think you are, either. 

Appreciative comments are always nice, even if there is no potential. We should praise people who put in some effort to communicate and engage. If you just say "Hi" in a message, however, I will ignore you. 

7/9/2022 10:09:52 PM

What's with all these guys msging with phone numbers?

Interesting new scam. I won't be calling anyone I have never exchanged a single msg with. Thanks. 

7/3/2022 6:33:52 AM

If you can't be bothered to formulate a message that isn't more than "hi" or a fo.rm letter you've copied to me along with a few hundred other people, I'm not going to bother replying to you.

If you send me your aforementioned letter more than once, I'm going to just block you. It gets old, fast. Life is too short to deal with lazy, pesty people. Thank you. 

5/8/2022 9:16:10 AM

Dear CS 

People already tend not to keep their ages updated even though per your TOU agreement they should. Please don't bump profiles to be reviewed just because one decides to update their age. What would be even better is to be a smart enough site as to roll ages forward as the years pass.

Personally I'm trying to represent my age fairly accurately, and thus face this queue. For others I nearly always take the date you joined and add your stated age to it... More often than not that's probably about right. 

4/26/2022 5:23:15 PM

Please do not message me to say it's too bad your fav kink is something I don't care for and won't I please consider it for you. While I am always finding new things I enjoy, I assure you I don't put everything I'm uncertain about on my hate list just waiting for the one sub to come along and sway me. I'm always growing, but not subjectively pliable. 

Same with monogamy. The most annoying approach is "I really love your profile but it's too bad you're not monogamous" -- Maybe one could ask about how I approach poly, or something, but as with anything in the lifestyle, these statements are a waste of time and if you approach many people this way in your life, you're just gonna get flamed so really, bark up a different tree.

To complete this trifecta, I'm probably not going to be closer, so "if only you were local" -- well bud, you could always decide to be local to me. I am open to the potential for relocation, but no fairy is gonna deliver. Also open to some kind of visits if the vibe is right. 

That concludes today's lesson in CS and lifestyle etiquette. Please tip your waiter before you leave. 

4/11/2022 2:03:33 PM

Fuhhh my head hurts. Just saying. 

Also, if you can't write a sentence without ending it in lol, please leave me be. Can you imagine vocalizing that? Do you talk that way when you use your mouth? Unlikely.

Just your friendly nettiquette messenger. Tip your barista, and get me a double. 

4/3/2022 7:23:27 AM

Just another poet with a scalpel looking to cut. 

10/19/2021 10:45:38 AM

Gosh, the journal is back? Well now. I wonder if punctuation works... 

3/13/2018 4:46:13 PM
I'm tired. I am "doing it wrong" apparently.

3/12/2018 8:59:07 PM
Somebody explain to me the whole "ask me anything" but otherwise generally blank/substance-free profile, thing. I'm sorry, but what makes your "I'm here. I'm super neat. Ask me anything!" intriguing enough to decide to go through the effort to do the work to get to get you to basically (and I mean that literally) introduce yourself to me? I mean, I don't require a dossier of your life, but when there's nothing to go on, why should I potentially waste my time on a basically blind chance that you're a total dud?

2/22/2018 6:08:18 PM
My profile is substantive. When you message me and ask me a question that is answered within the first 5 sentences of my profile, it sends the message that you're lazy. Surely someone has a clue? Also, don't message someone before you've Read Their Profile. You don't have to have it memorized, but come on. I didn't put all that stuff out there for nothing.

2/19/2018 8:12:11 PM
If you can't handle real life discussions and someone who is pretty matter-of-fact, you won't like me. Most of our lives are lived dealing with everyday life things. If you're looking for hot chat alllll the time, well, there are sites for that. I like good flow, where you can move from the ho hum to the yum yum, and around again ;) You gotta be agile, y'see?

2/7/2018 7:09:53 PM
Life happens, but don't make it a missed connection.

2/3/2018 9:17:12 PM
Okay boys (and girls, though usually it's the fellas making these offers...),I'm not looking for pure service. Hey, I'm not looking for pure romance either (har har, Google it, I'm Hilarous... your neighbour's wife has probably gone to a PR party and thinks she's the frisky one on the block!), but I don't need a chauffeur (I like to drive) or a butler. Better to be a servant to my cats than me, really. Helps me a ton 'cause they're a needy bunch of jerks, sometimes. If you can cook, cool. Know how to clean? Great. Functional adult? Awesome! There are many things involved in this kinky paint-by-numbers. It's not all black & white.

1/29/2018 7:10:49 PM
Tacky as fuck to message me on kik without messaging me here, first. Not going to get you a good response, or any response, actually. Nicely done on weeding yourself out! :)

1/28/2018 6:17:12 PM
Dear CollarSpace: Why can't we use HTML tags anymore so that we don't look like idiots who can't format an email or journal entry? It's bad enough we had to to begin with, but now it's not even reading the tags, it's just ignoring them. FFS. Fix your shit.

1/28/2018 7:50:43 AM
I probably won't reply to your message if:
- You say nothing substantive. If I'm inspired by your username I miiiiight reply. Chances are fair, at best.
- You have poor spelling and/or grammar, and it's not that bastard autocorrect's fault. AC gets me regularly, but beyond the first freebie I think it's you, not AC.
- You start with hello and basically just invite me to do the work of getting to know you. Sorry, but what makes you different than anybody else on this virtually packed street of strangers? I don't need a song and dance, but until you're somebody, you're nobody.

I likely WILL reply to your message if:
- You tell me something interesting about you, like in a genuinely engaging way. If you already have an interesting profile this may be unnecessary, but those are pretty rare, all in all. Try it though. Tell me 3 non-kinky things about you.
- You speak like a real person, not a submissive robot. I like being involved with people I enjoy. You don't take one part D and one part s and get happiness. You take two real people.

1/27/2018 11:31:06 PM
The form letters have begun... :snore:

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