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Not that I have joined CS now so I m starting late -), I was into this for a longtime but past 4 years have helped me to gain more in this lifestyle. I come from the Indian peninsula lifestyle hardly exists here, even if it does, is only behind the closed doors. I have tried to summarize few things which I learnt from the fabulous people I interacted with in past 4 years.
three things you have learned about BDSM these last 4 years
1. BDSM is not universally practiced- I come Asia , which is filled with societal shackles and silly ancestral traditions. I cant tell my friend and family that I am submissive, they dont understand this word and they dont understand beds.
2. Everybody is not genuine here- As I mentioned earlier, I was completely a novice as I come from that background where lifestyle hardly exists. I trusted everyone here and accepted and learnt everything which came my way from people here, got bashed and battered badly because of this.
3. BDSM is a science- It has nothing to do with only sex,lust or physical relations (I used to think like that when I started). Rather, it is all about mental aspect of it, a complete science.Fr instance, if I wish to submit to someone, I have to feel it in mind ,cant just follow what my body says.
-three things you have learned about yourself these last 4 years
1. I am receptive by nature - I was only a foot guy when I started ,lol. I learnt the Im keen to obey and learn as my superior likes. I learnt domestic service, doing tasks, humiliation and many other facets of bids which I thought I was never into.
2. It is not about me - If I am a subslave, BDSM is less about my own choices but more about my dominants whims. I cant go and worship my goddesss feet if she docent like that. my choices will more depend on my owners wishes, if she likes, she will allow it. if she doesnt, I have to live with it. Else, I am not a true sub.
3. Submission is a gift- as a sub, I used to be a footman and was trampled by everyone earlier.Slowly with time, talking to so many wise people on here, I learnt that I should not be this way. I can be a footmat to the one who I submit to, as I learn so much from her, but not for everyone -)
- three things you still yearn to experience and have not yet
1. Practical experience- I seek to do this more in life , experience it more.i have had theoretical knowledge but practical exposure is deeply sought -).
2. Extend my limits- This is is more related to the first point above . I feel due to less practical experience, I dont know my limits yet. example, if id like to be beaten,spanked. I mean I cant spank myself and know that I like itll. I might like it from a superior..-) you know what I mean
3. Learn More- Experienced and novices all people will agree. that learning never stops . there is so much for me to do and experience. I wish to learn more and be a better sub.
I tried to put the things which were at the top of my mind . There are many things Id like to include more into it but I really dont wish to make it long and boring.
I am really sorry if this is too long. Generally people do not like to read profiles do they? -)
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