BDSM seems to me as one of the strongest connections one can establish with any other human being... whether it is an occasional play partner or a Dom I serve, the moment of play is an hiatus in the craziness of daily lives, and allows us to connect with one another... reading each others minds and bodies... and to act and react to one another. I search for this true feeling, not just online play or Doms who believe that when one asks for a pic of them, they want a pic of their cock. :-) I am intelligent, fun, silly, sweet, sometimes overly confident, sometimes terribly insecure, but overall determined to enjoy life, make mistakes I can learn from and grow.I am looking for friends, play partners and eventually a Dom I can serve. I would particularly like to chat with people in the Bay Area, and those familiar with the local scene, with the hopes that if we hit it on in chat/email, we can maybe have coffee one day.I am poly and my husband is vanilla an not interested in the lifestyle.He understands my need and is OK with it. I am searching for additional meaningful connections that will add to my life, while respecting what is already there.