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Roles
*Daddy bottom
*Sexually, I love to bottom for women. Love being pegged, for example.
*Im not submissive. There is a difference. See this great post.
*I am a Daddy, in a caregiver kind of way. I love to encourage and nurture.
*I can switch to give a good spanking or choking (entirely optional - up to you)
*I am emotionally monogamous, but will happily help my partner have physical fun with others.

I am flexible in what I need to do with my partner, and can adapt quite well to their needs.

I am NOT a sugar daddy, I am NOT a finsub.

The Basics
I am looking for a long-term relationship with someone who will be my partner first and foremost.

I require emotional openness. I met someone online, someone amazing, tried twice to be with her, but both times, the lack of emotion just about killed me. She was great in so many other ways, but it turns out that I need affection. I know she tried hard the second time. Im grateful. I really tried to cope. But the imbalance was too much for me.

I am interested in anyone under about age 40, and who identifies as female.

Im 49. Built like Santa Claus. I dont drink, smoke, or use drugs. I dont mind light drinking. I dont mind weed. I dont mind smoking, if its done outside.

Also, I can not relocate. Please either be local or able to relocate (if we really click of course). Also, please be in Canada or the US.

Ask me anything.

A Lot More
Im funny, as far as I know. I mean, people laugh at my jokes... I hope.

Im intelligent. Caring. Kinky. Loyal. Trustworthy. Cuddly.

I try to be honest and straightforward. Some call it blunt, though they also say that I am quite diplomatic about it. I find lying difficult (but wont lie and say I never do it). My honesty gets me in trouble, usually because I reveal too much about myself.

I ask a million questions. Most are very nosy and personal. This ends most conversations quickly.

I flirt, but poorly.

I fall hard and fast sometimes.

I mentioned kink. I have a bunch, hope you do too. Feel free to read my ridiculously long list of fetishes and groups. I should note that only a few of my kinks are mandatory. I am very happy to adapt to your tastes.

I am monogamous. You need to be either monogamous or at least emotionally monogamous. Im happy for my partner to have sex with others, its the romance that concerns me.

Im on disability due to depression and schizophrenia, with some anxiety thrown in just for fun.

So I dont work, but I do volunteer work, sitting on government-related committees and boards. I like to joke that for a guy with no career, I have an impressive LinkedIn profile. Well, maybe its not a joke, but it amuses me.

I find the volunteer work very fulfilling, and feel as though Im giving back to society through it.

As meek as I can seem at times, I am quite good at making important decisions, and sticking with them. Yet also willing to change my mind if I realize theres a better option.

Conversely, I am also really good at procrastinating.

A possible paradox.

Oh, and despite my serious illness, I am excellent at appearing normal.

I used to read voraciously. Sadly, between the illness and the meds, I cant quite concentrate when reading for pleasure. When I do read, it tends to be non-fiction, usually in small bites a bit at a time.

I love laughing, so comedies are big with me. Oddly, while I try to be a gentleman, I enjoy raunchy comedies. And though I avoid drugs, stoner comedies are hilarious to me. Basically, I like to escape for a couple hours and not have to tax my poor brain.

Musically, I listen to top 40 drivel. I used to be alternative, but either I changed or it did. My favourite genre though, are mash-ups. Cant get enough of them.

Food... I eat too much of the wrong stuff, and not enough of the good stuff. And I can be a picky eater, though with a very non-gourmet palate.

As sad as it sounds, the internet is essential, though I am able to pull away from it for those special to me. (And I actually avoid using my phone at all costs when Im with them).

I could say cuddling and sex are critical, but Ive been without for so long that apparently, I can live without them. Not happily though.

Bacon is great, but that should go without saying.

In a relationship, I am very likely to stay home with my partner than go to parties or clubs or anything involving lots of people. Long car drives with no real destination, with some music playing, some tea, and some nice conversation with some comfortable silences, with someone wonderful.

I am a very caring, nurturing, loving, and supportive partner.

If youre a size queen, you will be very disappointed. Actually, even if youre not a size queen, you will be disappointed. Just being honest.

You should message me if youre actually still reading this. You survived, so far!
Message me if you dont like small talk about the weather or sports. Message me if you prefer to dive in head first and talk about life, love, and everything else that may have some real meaning.

Message me if you are looking for a serious relationship, rather than hookups or friends with benefits. Even though I dont like casual sex, I love talking about sex, in terms of preferences and experiences, even fantasies.

Dont message me if the following apply
Just to be blunt, if you base all your important life decisions on astrology, tarot cards, psychics, crystals, I know from experience that we will not have a chance at all.

Oh, and please dont message me to offer sympathy or advice about my illnesses. I want your friendship, or more, and not your pity. And I find it annoying when people start recommending various cures. Just... just dont.

Oh yeah, yet another dont - dont message me if youre in a relationship. I dont care if its a bad relationship - leave first, then look around. I dont care if its a poly relationship - Im not poly. And dont pretend to be single and then after hours of talking, admit that youre not.

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tracylacy
 
 Age: 23
  Alaska