I have been doing some kind of BDSM for almost 16 years. Only been REALLY serious about it the last 5-6 years. I am a Dom in my own right only submissive to my husband. This profile is for me alone but if I do anything with anyone you need to meet him or at least talk to him. Eventually becoming friends would be ideal but not completely needed. I want a sub that will clean my kitchen while we have interesting discussions. I want a sub that I can crack jokes with, then flog them. I want to watch TV with them while they do my nails. I want friend with perks. I am not into 24/7 I don't have the time not the tolerance for it. But every relationship grows and develops in its own way, so time will tell how things can change. The above has not changed. I do want what I have listed but I have changed. I have found new depths to my sadism. I have found that I love watching a man tremble at the thought of my next strike. I get giddy after administering a beating that was properly taken. I enjoy running my fingernails over brand new welts. I have one bottom that takes this for me but if this interests you we can discuss it. We are poly but I am not looking for a sexual sub at this time. If you just want to get your rocks off look some where else. I get nothing out of making a sub all hot and bothered then sending them on their way... unless it is a relationship. A few messages a relationship does not make. Though if it was a pre discussed scene I can be flexible. But still, to me BDSM is about power exchange, not sex. It can be sexual but that is NOT the end goal of a BDSM relationship. Sorry if you think otherwise but this is how it for me. Always looking for people to be friends with. But I need more than a HI or YUR HAWT as a starter message.
