I am a single, white, 36 year old male who is seeking...and learning. I am not trying to be evasive about what I want, but I think that if we always say we know exactly what we want from a person, we are not being honest. Most times we walk around without a clue.

I have been involved in the D/s lifestyle for over 5 years now, and every day I find out something new and wonderful. Looking back now, I cannot imagine how I existed without acknowledging these feelings and emotions. It is not something I would want to go back to.

What I do want is to share my time and my experience with someone who understands that it is as important as the submission I help them express. I am strict but not insensitive. I can tease but also provide a great deal of pleasure. I demand the best from a person, but I am also realistic about what that entails. I don't live in a fantasy world, but rather, I try to enjoy D/s as part of the real world.

I am not fixated on D/s, and I do have many interests. I love movies, walks, listening to music, and experiencing new and interesting things. I have an insatiable appetite to know, and I want to be able to stimulate someone intellectually as well as physically.

I am not a player and games are something that are best left for the bedroom. I don't understand why anyone would deliberately hurt someone who is trusting them with something so special. I do promise to treat every person who responds to this ad with respect and dignity.

I know this may not answer all your questions, but I do hope you consider that no one has all the answers right away. I am still learning and growing. If there is something you want to know, just ask.

A submissive who comes to me must be confident in her desires, comfortable with her identity, and eager to learn and explore. She wants a lover and a friend...someone who knows her needs in the bedroom, but who won't expect her to abandon her identity.

I want someone who does take care of themself. Physical beauty is not my first priority, but you must take pride in yourself and always want to be at your best.

I want someone who can be sensual and sexy, but knows the joy of showing her wanton side to me. I want someone who can excite me with just a look, and knows the words that ignite my lust and passion. I am seeking someone who knows what it is to feel the softness of flesh against flesh...but also wants the intensity of teeth, nails, and leather applied to their body. I promise that I will never bring hurt, but rather the most exquisite sensations and an unending amount of passion and desire.

I do not have any preconceptions about what kind of activities or desires you must have. I would rather think that we begin from a position of trust and communication...where we go from there depends on that.

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