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Taking a sabbatical from work for a month or two, hang out & enjoy the SanDiego Spring, maybe jump over to Paris or Bangkok for a week or so.
Had a recent scare in professional life, so pics are not public.
Short, fit/muscular, look 10+yrs younger than am.
This profile is getting seriously fucking lengthy.
Am working to trim down for you ADD types.
If you slog through it, there's a reward at the end!
For context, 2 quotes that resonate strongly for me:
* "Moderation has been called a virtue to limit the ambition of great men, and to console undistinguished people for their want of fortune and their lack of merit." - Benjamin Disraeli
* "Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
ME:
Dominance is not a constructed persona I put on in the bedroom.
It is an integral aspect of who I am.
I'm not in the scene as a Dominant because is the only place I can express being an Alpha; my Dominance and my sexuality are a reflection of my actual life, where I am used to being in charge, where I work to get what I want, when I want it, how I want it.
I'm not that guy who's been reading Shades of Grey and the Gor books, excited to put on a puffy pirate shirt after a shift waiting tables and go to my first play party where women might call me "sir", or chasing every new woman with an ad in 'Classified' offering to give you some bullshit virtual collar in 5minutes. I have been involved with BDSM for almost 20yrs now, and have little tolerance for the trappings and bullshit that distract from what I see as the core.
Yet, while I am hard-wired as Dominant, I don't define myself by that.
BDSM is an aspect of who I am, not the totality. I believe this important to stress, as most people in the scene seem to expect, as well as prefer to be seen as, uni-dimensional shapes... cardboard portrayals of their BDSM inclinations. My life is much fuller and richer than just BDSM.
Yours should be as well. If not, why isn't it?
I dislike most of the online interaction options, and most social media in general. I live in the Meat world, and I succeed and thrive there.
~ **There is no such thing as "online BDSM".**
It's real and you can touch it; else you're just projecting your unmet wants and needs across the internet to a semi-reflective surface.
It's a joke to call "online only" by the term BDSM.
~ I dislike the sum concept of social media, **and particularly despise that this site has devolved into "kinky Facebook".** I have an actual real and busy life, and neither time nor desire for sending /reading assorted bursts of Narcissistic personality disorder monologues from people vividly evidencing Dunning–Kruger effect.
If any of that offends you, hit the "next" button and keep on steppin'.
You won't fancy me much, and the feeling will certainly be mutual.
Okay then! That said, let's move on.
Who am I?
*NON BDSM aspects*
~ [Keirsey = eStP][http://www.personalitypage.com/ESTP.html]
~ I'm an executive in the BioMedical industry w/ a strong income & fascination for finance, investing, making & keeping money.
~ am heavily involved in the microbrew community, and spend a great deal of my social time with those folks
~ As a scientist, I can be highly analytical and frequently dispassionate.
~ I despise inefficiency, in systems, process and people.
~ I'm a military vet, which I see increasingly as having had a real impact on me during a defining period of my life.
~ I am very demanding of myself, and, by extension, of others.
~ I have multiple degrees, and am a voracious reader.
~ I enjoy & collect wine, mainly strong reds and Champagnes.
~ Strongly enjoy foreign cinema, particularly Chan-wook Park & Takashi Miike, and more recently, the new wave movie generation from Mexico.
~ I own homes near the beach in San Diego; have sold my flat in Paris.
~ I'm an ex-competitive powerlifter, and still very into health & fitness.
(I notice, as I edit this, that there are a lot of sentences starting with 'I'. Including, amusingly, that one. Apparently I am as raving an egomaniac as most of the supposed "dominates" on here... Awesome).
*BDSM aspects:*
I've been involved with BDSM & Swing scene for 20+yrs, as a member or leader in established groups such as: AHS (Kansas City), Odyssey (San Jose), Scorpio (Orange County), Janus (San Francisco), ClubX (San Diego), WetSpot (Seattle).
The height of my involvement was a period when I managed & lived on-premise at a private S&M dungeon club in San Francisco, regularly taught "Intro to BDSM" classes, and was on the initial team of DMs for the launch of the Odyssey parties. I also owned and ran [EternityCollars][http://www.eternitycollars.com], which I sold after building & growing it for 4yrs.
Lately, I've backed off the public scene for the most part, and tend more towards doing private or semi-private stuff, house parties and small invite-only groups. I have a lovely and private space to play in... why go anywhere else?
*YOU:*
~ a woman who not only understands but celebrates the concepts of service, caring, devotion, selflessness, surrender.
~ who treats her body with respect, from a fitness & health perspective.
~ who has goals, drive, and works to be better than yesterday.
~ who has their shit together, emotionally, financially, mentally.
~ who is self-actualized as to who they are, as in doesn't think they "really are" something else (a male, a baby, a wolf, a vampire, a shoe). While I have respect for anyone going through such processes of self-creation/realization, I don't wish to be involved in an intimate/romantic relationship with them.
Finally, I expect people coming to me to be sincere and willing to have conversations & interactions as real people <gasp> prior to us dipping into heavy D/s or protocol-bound interfacing.
Not in CA? Not a problem, in fact, maybe even ideal, given my travel schedule and workload. I'll fly you where I am, or come to you.
You bring the desire to serve & please, and we'll make it happen.
*Note to all -*
"Dominant" can be used as an adjective or a noun
"Dominate" is a VERB... a fucking VERB!
A person cannot be a "dominate".
A person can, however, be a "dominant"
(often though, they are not. Another discussion entirely).
For fuck's sake, learn to speak your own language, people!
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