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When I was introduced to the lifestyle, I did not know what the true meaning of the Ds lifestyle was. I first thought it was a growing perversion inside of me. However, I have now found that it is a lifestyle in which two people share the power within a special relationship. The submissive trusts the Dom and gives him the power to make certain decisions that are based on the trust of the submissive. This power is not infinite and it is revokable.
I am always growing as a Dominant type. I greatly learn from the submissive mind. The submissive mind teaches us many things about ourselves. I know I have learned humility and more compassion toward submissive people.
I would like to meet a submissive who would like to experience more than the Ds life. If you would like to chat, please send me a message. Thank you.
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99 Owner
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96 Non-monogamist
96 DaddyMommy
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95 Degrader
92 Sadist
80 Exhibitionist
75 Experimentalist
61 Ageplayer
5 Masochist
4 Vanilla
2 Switch
2 Pet
2 Primal (Prey)
0 Slave
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I have an interesting outlook on what I believe what a submissive is and is not. First of all Doms, your submissive is not your Doormat. Remember that your submissive trusts you to protect her or she would not be in service to you. She is not your punching bag nor your whipping post when you are angry. I also believe what happens in a Ds relationship should be rooted in trust and should not be shared with your buddies around the water cooler at work.
Secondly, the submissive is always serving you no matter what role she may take. Therefore you should still want to reward your submissive for their service. Know and learn her wants and needs. Whether you think your submissive is worthy of you fulfilling her needs or not, you need to do it. They will stay in service to you.
Next, DO NOT just beat her for the fun of it. That is not what DD is all about. You are the HOH and should act accordingly. All people in the world need rules and consequences. If your submissive does not have rules and consequences, then she will not know how to serve you or what to expect when she breaks your rules. If she abides by your rules, then give her love and tell her goodf job. If you dont understand, you can google, Positive Verbal Reinforcement Benefits.
And, you should find out what stimulates them sexually and the things that feel good that are non-sexual.
You should also be firm, fair and consistent. A great deal of Submissives definitely long for this. They want rules. Without rules they leave their submissive mind, will get angry and confused. They cannot function under unpredictable conditions.
Love her, respect her, let her know what you say---you mean. Be consistent and fair. Tell her you love her and care for her. Most importantly...Be consistent.
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