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I am a highly intelligent, educated, successful professional man, ultimately seeking a female-led relationship.? I'm not a masochist, slave material, or into the more extreme physical fetishes.? I am obedient, suggestible, loyal and a warm and caring person.? History shows that I feel freest and happiest when I have surrendered control to, or control has been taken by a strong woman.? I enjoy my life outside of D/s which includes outdoor and activities in nature, cultural events, the visual arts and have several creative outlets.? I don't intend to lose all that: I believe living a full life allows me to bring more to a relationship.

My most memorable submissive experiences have been more mental than physical: times when a woman has peeled away my defenses, has penetrated my psyche and I was emotionally exposed and vulnerable.? This takes trust, of course, but it has happened surprisingly fast with the right woman.? I suppose that I am mostly a mental sub, a 'pleaser'.? That includes sexual pleasure and if my Domme wants to use my body to take her pleasure, so much the better.?? Indeed, the feeling of being taken and used has a powerful effect on me.? Heterosexual and masculine but?with a?feminine side that can be activated.? At 63 years old I am far from a geezer with an alert mind and active body.? I have a good sense of humor when I am comfortable.? I have never been part of the "scene" or submitted publicly. The notion both scares me and excites me.? The fact that little activity takes place in or near home provides an excuse to hold back.? I suppose I need a woman to hold my hand: stepping over that threshold is scary.

I seek a relationship with a dominant woman with intelligence, strength, and integrity; someone with whom mutual trust and respect can develop, and someone who will look after our mutual interests.? A good sense of 'self' is important as I sometimes become domineering with weak women.? She should not be angry or mean but have positive perspective on life, be somewhat nurturing, and be capable of caring, loving feelings. I'm not a pain puppy and want to avoid skin penetration (needles, knives), ingesting body 'refuse', animals, children as well as unsafe or illegal activities.?? I probably don't require much discipline but training in a Domme's standards, styles, and requirements is beneficial.? I try hard to please, but I'm not perfect.?

Ultimately I seek a long-term relationship, I am also happy to explore more temporary situations.? Experience is great but I would be interested in partnering with a woman who is curious and wanted to explore her dominant side: she would need to provide the leadership.? Safe sex and complete discretion are needed.?? I am generally monogamous and believe that monogamy is?beneficial for safety (safe sex) these days if body fluids are exchanged , but I don't expect it until then.?? I will send photos as requested to a private e-mail address but I do not want to post them.? Let me know what you want.?

I enjoy correspondence so please don't hesitate to e-mail me.? I promise honesty and respect.