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Contrary to what appears to be popular belief there are no rules to the Lifestyle other than those decided upon by two adults though there are safety standards. Your happiness is your own and as long as it does not impede another individuals right to be happy there is nothing wrong with you doing it in my opinion.
So it is that I am writing a profile about Myself. Though how does one accurately describe ones self without bias? I will try to list my qualities as well as my shortcomings. I am taller than the average person at 6'5" which consequently leaves me to be larger than the average person as well being from large German stock I exceed 250lbs and yes a bit "overweight" though not sloppy by any means, I have medium length to long hair depending on the last time it was donated to a cancer patient, I tear my nails, I have tattoos, I will get more tattoos, I like piercings, I am rather mild mannered though very opinionated, I like long hair(so plan on growing it out), I like smart, intelligent conversations, I watch very little live tv mostly dvd sets and movies, I drive a truck, I own several, I like speed, and motorcycles, I play sports but do not watch them, I work in the security industry, and build custom cars, I like to do leather work, I am handy with a rope(wink, wink, lol) I served in the military, I own my own businesses, my own home, I rarely eat bread or sweets, I refuse to eat fast food, I enjoy meat and veggies, I tend to avoid chicken, I love to swim dive and boat, I love animals, I am extremely open minded, I tell good stories, highly educated and have exposed myself to life...........
That being said I believe that our relationship is between you and me and should not be dictated or influenced by outside opinions, I will accept you right where you are and we will develop a basis of communication on honesty openness and eventually trust. I will never ask another to put themselves at risk and will always embrace intense safety standards
If this interests you please drop me a line maybe we can meet for lunch.
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The best journal entries come from real conversations
I dont want to hold you captive I want you to stay the beautiful wild thing that you are and desire to be around Me with every once of your being so that others will wonder how you were captured and try to catch one of there own only to watch it slip away because the beautiful must stay free to serve completely |
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I am not the do all be all end of the line definer of roles here but this is just my take on the situation.
I feel there is a definitive difference between a slave and a sub.
I am constantly amazed at peoples thought processes and protocols "capitalize this" "address me as thus" in slavery yes there is the need for that, but only once you have acquired the slave which is not submissive but merely obedient.
The very beauty of the submissive is that they come to you willingly because they desire to give their lives to enrich that of their master.
Subs remind me of beautiful butterflies that are elusive and delicate to catch it is to kill it but to create an environment where the butterfly can thrive and create beauty in ones life is amazing, thus the same is said for the sub it is for the dom to create environs that are enticing and productive for the sub to want to serve thus elevating them to the status of Master.
All the while others stand in awe saying to themselves "how can I catch one of my own, and be a master too?"
Then they start to chase them these ever elusive subs that constantly slip through their fingers sometimes damaged and broken and when the frustration becomes too much they say... "Capitalize this..." and "Address Me as thus..." "you will only kneel one your elbow when addressing Me!" etc. et al.
Just relax and wear a yellow shirt then the butterflies will come. |
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Just a thought...
See from my point of view, submission comes from the very nature of a person and it is their utmost desire to serve and please their chosen Master thus elevating them to that coveted position.
The being that calls themselves master, is chasing there tail because the very act of Dominance requires submission and if no one is submitting then the dog has no teeth.
They are essentially lying to themselves.
There is no Master without submission, no submission without heart, no heart without passion, no passion without trust, and no trust with out time. |
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I love this post by a couple on this site hell I even live close to the and it is great
We dont'get on Collarme much anymore - it seems like such a waste of time. We tend to hang out on FL most of the time. We find more 'real people' there to interact with. HERE - Most of the people we hear from are from halfway across the US, in another country or sometimes on another continent - WTF? I like having friends from all over - but damn... Some of you want to move in with us?? REALLY?!? LOL Like a commune or what? It's not like we are going to move some stranger in with us out here on the farm! SOme of you folks re fucking NUTZ! Sure, we drag our pets in to live wiht us - but it is somehtign you EARN over time... I just love these messages we get that when you read between the lines they HONESTLY look like - 'In reality I live in my moms basement with my 36 cats, 2 rats and a lizard named 'izzy' and am looking for someplace to go!!!' Seriously, we have met more low lifes, mentally deficient and defective, needy and deceptive people in the lifestyle than in any other social group we have ever belonged to in the last almost 30 years of being together. We have met an awful lot of sharks and predators and even more disturbing is the people who are basically looking for someone to LEECH off of... The submissive and 'slave' types we have run across in the past 6 years illustrate this cat rather plainly - we clal it 'The leech factor'. THIS is the reason we left most f the Online lifetyle sites behind - and settled upon FL. THIS is the reason we don't come to CollarMe much at all anymore - I checked my mail over here this morning and already have 6 NEW messages inside of 30 minutes after logging on after several months... All from people on the East Coast, West Coast or way up North... Online slavery isn't something we partake in - and honestly, we consider it rather laughable and a cowardly way of experiencing 'life'. We prefer to be able to touch you, slap you, hear you, smell you even - if you can't stand in fornt of us - why offer your body and soul to people you have NEVER MET! For all you know I have a serious chain saw fetish - We ARE from TEXAS after all! LOL SO - before you hit the SEND button on a message that will profess your undying devotion and loyalty to people you have never met- at least live in Texas, have a fucking job and a life or perhaps need a chnage in your life... We enjoy helping people find fulfillment in their lives. We prefer to associate with people that actually have something to offer - and posess perhaps an ounce of sanity... Male, female, straight, queer as a 3 dollar bill - it doesn't matter. But at least be near us so we aren't dragging you halfway across the fucking country to find out you are a fucking reject of society... Strong words - but damn.... after 25+ years of being 'ONLINE' this shit is old man... Excuse me while I go oil up my chain saw... :) Mr P _______________________________ |
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It constantly amazes Me as to how a "sub" or "slave" mentality person wants to enter into a D/s relationship with another and then tell them the potential "Dom" or "Owner" what and how to do.
Maybe I dont understand, maybe My education is limited, but I thought the person in the position of leadership made the decisions and that the followers quietly awaited orders and decisions to be passed down to them. The old adage applies "There can be only one Chief, everybody else has to be indians."
This is no different than any other job or social endeavor if you wait and watch and examine the commands controls and decisions that are handed down you can choose to follow them or move on, after all this is not a fuck all set in stone relationship that just happens in three emails and 15 mins of R/T that will endure forever.
It is a start and if "subs" or "slaves" want to know the measure of a "Dom/Master/Owner" then watch to see what Their guidelines protocols and directives are and yes it will come after They have had you demonstrate what your knowledge and experience are.
REMEMBER ALWAYS BE SAFE and after you have developed trust then you can devote yourself fully, but in My humble opinion it is never the place of the Sub to tell the master what to do.
It destroys the entire dynamic of O/our relationship if you do not agree or feel you are in danger then walk away period.
This is the reason for SAFE WORDS AND SIGNALS and those that do not honor or strictly adhere to them are either idiotic and foolish or a predator of the lowest caliber. |
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amazed! My life is about plans goals dreams and desires not just Mine but those around Me.
The responsibility of being a Dom can be overwhelming in the vanilla world. When I see people in need of help and direction I offer it and they refuse when no other option is presented. The offer of stable employment to a person that has none and needs to pay their bills is rejected out of hand just amazes me.
The need to settle into positive relationships is a powerful one. The trust of a friend is difficult to obtain and so worth the wait. It is nice to be able to discuss current issues with them not necessarily for the advice but just so that you can talk your way through it, and friends are so uncommon, it is scary.
A true friend backs you 100% will show up at the oddest hour to bail you out of a sticky situation and will tell you that you are fucking up to your face. I really do miss my true friends. |
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life! what more can I say?
I am saddened and feel the overwhelming need to apologize for the delinquency of My "PEERS".
the apology is extended to all the true subs that are the glue of our community it has come to my attention that we as a group have become inundated with uneducated ignorant and cruel people praying and manipulating the desires of the gentler members of our group that being the subs.
Please understand that a real Master is out there but be careful and cautious in your search because I am seeing more and more entries that state I give up! why is this so hard? etc.
and every time I see it, it is a sub that has put it all out there and then been led down a path of deceit by an individual that is no more a Dom than I am a pussy cat. These fakes are destroying our community 1 good sub at a time and it is time We the Doms stood up and protect Our own. I get hurt then I get angry but the cancerous growth is not just limited to the Doms of our community it is also running wild in the subs of our group in that they think they want one thing and really know nothing of this life at all so just assume a label. you are not a Dom because you say you are, it requires someone to submit to you first and they then elevate you to that status and you are not necessarily a sub because some self appointed "DOM" says you are or because you like a good spanking every now and then....
get out there explore who you are and how you fit in. subs quit telling Doms what to do and how to be doms float around like the beautiful butterfly that you are till you are captured by a true Master that sees the beauty you posses only you can allow yourself to be captured so make sure that you do not allow yourself to be tricked and manipulated by fakes and users.
there is an extreme need for trainers in both the Dom and sub areas after all BDSM is a group activity |
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| Age: 41 |
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