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I am forever amazed with the human being. I learn more everyday about the variety of the human spirit. Upon reviewing my learnings, I have come to the revalation that I am so very normal.........and quite close to boring!!.....hahahahahahahaha |
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a man on here has been taking the time to really discuss this lifestyle and teeny bits are getting thru...we are actually exchanging ideas...very refreshing and stimulating...I admit I contacted him cos he is physically a hottie and I think credit should be given where its due...not only does he have sex appeal, but he has the ability to carry on a conversation...there have been several hotties that I have encountered, but they have all their brains in their pants...Id like to see some of these people in the real world...better yet, no I dont...I am going to take a very good look at what I am searching for... |
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Minding my own business, I received email from a man dom from Florida...the second I opened his profile, I felt the electric shivers...he was the physical fantasy man I had been looking for...the emails began and I found the sad truth, spiritually there is something lacking...what a shame..so close,yet so far... |
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The absolute best description of a successful life comes from the journal of a very good friend, StrictlyDom, from Alabama. He writes "Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in side-ways, thoroughly used up and totally worn out screaming, WOW what a ride!!" I am so impressed with those Words of Wisdom, that I am having them embroidered on my thong!! Some of u out there need to try living up to those words!! I know I am. |
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I am not material for this lifestyle. I will be glad to answer any email for those brave enought to write to me, but Im too intelligent to continue my search for a man/partner on here. To date, I have not met one that can actually keep my attention in a debte about this livestyle. One or two are friend material, but most are quite silly in their maleness. I even had a chick write me and tell me I looked like I would make a great Lesbian...LOL...who know, but Id prob insist on being on top!!....*smile |
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I enjoy talking with others on this site...so many ideas, views, wants and demands...I play no games...I am not a sub or a slave and nor do I want to be...I am prob more suited to a Domme, but Im not interested in furthering that either...I think Im just the sweet, white icing between the two halves of the cookie.....LOL |
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The vote is in...I am defin not a Submissive...IM not a Domm...I still appreciate a good discussion with anyone brave enough to email, but I have not found one man here that has made one lick of sense in this lifestyle. I fault no one in their search for happiness and will fight to protect their right to pursue it. I dont have a need to beg for attention or lower myself worth to grovel for some man in return for his attention. Nor do I want to be some man's Bitch who P-whips him so he can feel justified for feeling like the whimp. Again, this is not to insult anyone in their search for contentment. Each to their own. |
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I feel I must make known that I do not think anyone here is wrong in their interests. I support all of us finding companionship in and with others of similiar interests. The cliche is "as long as both are consenting and no one is hurt", but in this case, its "as long as both are consenting"....LOL I came here and posted on my own. I want very much to learn more thru discussions. |
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I continue to get emails offering me their opinions of whether I belong here or not. I read each one and I appreciate the time they took to send them. I know and have always known, I am not a part of this community. To date, no man here has evoked enought interest to even tempt me. I still stand by my interest in strong men, and belief that I can find what I need in the strangest of places. |
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What continues to be amazing are all the theories of what this lifestyle is all about. Most still offer assistance and good wishes towards my research. A few tell me that this is not the site for me (based on what I have written). A couple interest me and I hope I interest him. I have read that this is not the place to find love. This came from a Dom. So, if I understand him, this is not indepth relationships, but roleplaying. In a previous sentence, he said he was not a role player, but quite dedicated to his Dominance. He had total control over his entire life, even finances. Now THAT I could learn alot more about! I think I can find love anywhere world. I am attracted to strong men, so what better place to find strong men? I have never hidden my dislikes or lack of interest in. Im capable of communicating what I want and what I dont like. Sooooo.....on with the journey. |
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Not alot going on...kinda cruising and enjoying each day...no one special in my life and that is good too...eyes are open if something comes along...a prospect or two, but all are wonderful men...some I wonder about...some I laff at...and a few I shake my head at...very very few I avoid and will them out of my memory...I wish they were all close enuff that we could share a drink and some conversation...there are defin some real hunks....LOL....this is such a fantastic age with sooo much available...I love it...the icing would be a goood buddy to enjoy some adventures with...with benefits!!! |
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oh man, I read the most disturbing stuff about being a slave today...it was sooo disturbing, I had to research it further...I took it apart and thought about it; I sent it in full to other Doms for their words of wisdom..I must write down why I even wasted 1 sec of my time on this entry...I have to clarify this to myself and any who might stop by and read my journal...I have to confess that I am rebellious...I am a Searcher of Knowledge and seek to understand human behaviors...I do not want to tell someone that I dont approve of their choices, because I am not that important. I dont pretend to say what is right or wrong in a relationship beween 2 adult concenting peoples. My intent is only to gather info as to why someone would want to agree to something that is so obvioulsy 1 sided. This description of being a Slave was sooo convoluted with self denial, as to no longer be a valuable entity to anyone, especially theirself. What purpose is it to be so selfdegraded that you dont even have one bit of value to yourself? Its one thing to want to give urself to another and I do believe in the beauty of that. However, what are the responsibilities of the receiver of ur selflessness? What has this person done to be worthy of ur submission/service? Is the thrill for u in giving up urself totally to just anyone? Are u so worthless that you see urself serving someone that just takes and gives nothing in return? This is the most common thing I get from speakng to Doms. I dont get what they contribute in return for me submitting me to them. How can they see value in me giving them this wonderful, selfless gift if they dont have to be anything anymore honorable than a slug. So, if I understand, I will have all this wonderfulness flowing over me when I serve some person that does nothing more than take from me? Gee, what a deal. |
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I have been in contact, again, with a friend that is into this lifestyle. He is a Dom and its much easier to talk to him about some of my questions. He actually answers, point blank, the questions I answer. He is not available for me to have an actual relationship with past a friendship, but I trust him to discuss this with...I have had some involvement with Swinging lifestyle and have found it satisfying...I would venture to say th at I have had more luck with that than this...could be my frame of mind at the present...I continue to read what the men in my area are looking for and wonder how many of them actually find what they have listed in here...if nothing more, I do enjoy the discussions and the making of friends.... |
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I feel much better today...several men have contacted me and made me feel better about my search...seems its fine to be looking for what I need in a man...there are so very many different types of relationships...it has been interesting hearing and responding to the emails from those that have contacted me to help....no one has rung my chimes yet....but Im still looking |
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More attempts at conversations and more discouragement...the men seem knowledgable and open when the chat begins...they want to help...I ask questions about what are examples of a submissive woman to them, I get vague answers...time after time I ask for examples and descriptions and nothing tangible comes back. The time between messages gets longer and longer, till they just stop. My take on this is they dont know, are ashamed to say, or find tha fact that I want to know what could be instore for me uncomfortable to them and their control. I must make clear that I am NOT out to prove that this is not good or that the man is a fake. I am totally drawn to strong willed men and I know I want him to take care of me. I fantasize about him and our life together. I have patience. I know I have to wade thru the ones not worthy of what I have to give. This is not meant as a statement of conceit, but if I dont value myself, then how can I expect him to? I feel much sadness that I am not making progress. |
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I am beginning to get discouraged. I am not making any progress. I need to actually talk with someone about this, but I havent been able to find anyone that clicks with me even for that. Something inside of me tells me I can find a man here to suit my needs that would want me in return, but I dont know how to find him. |
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Wow, I just got my first Domm Jerk. In an email back to me he stated he did not appreciate my typos and misspelled words. When I apologized and advised we were not suited, he really got miffed....LOL. Already, I know My Domm would gently and lovenly teach me better communication skills. Then if I continued to make mistakes, he would have to spank me!!..LOL..I do admit I am disappointed that there is such a meanie man out there. |
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Today is my 2nd day and I am already seeing some differences in the Domms that have been contacting me. Some are very gentle and concerned with my needs and desires. They appear to want to teach and assist me in a mutual journey. Others are only concerned with their needs and what I can do for them. Of course, the naughty girl I am, I dismiss the ones that arent concerned with me!! LOL I have also gotten abit braver and have added to my profile. Its alittle more descriptive of what I am looking for and what I am not interested in. We shall see who, if any, are interested in what we can experience together. This is very exciting to me and I am so anxious to fine HIM that will be so very important in my life. |
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First day - Lots of men contacting me and I love the attention. I am aware that I dont know anything about this lifestyle, but I am eager to learn. Many have cautioned me to be careful and be choosy. They warn me of imposters and some that might do me harm. How does one check out someone in this? Many are from long distance and I dont see how that can be fun. I want a man close by. *sigh |
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. By nature I am a strong willed woman. I am intelligent and can size up people fairly well. I love life and I see humor in just about everything. I came here to see if I fit and I dont. I know I dont really understand this lifestyle, and I do support the freedom for all to find their own. The only reason I am here is to continue to chat with the ones brave enought to write. 