I f
you have your shit together, know what you want, and want to be part of something
wonderful.... send Me a message
I am NOT an Internet Dom! I do not do the online slave crap...
it does Nothing for
ME. I will not play with you the first time W/we meet I want to see if you are worth MY time I am not here to be what your fantasies tell you a Mistress
should be! I am the Nicest Evil Bitch you will ever meet! I am not here to entertain you! I am not here to serve you! I am not here to get you off! I am not here looking for a soul mate ... I have one I am not your typical Dom! I am a Dom nonetheless!
I am very happily married Matriarch of a wonderful open
poly/pagan family. We like camping, fishing, being outside in general. We love
a good glass of wine, a nice warm fire and a good book. Spirituality is key in
my life. I am a Goddess following, Earth lovin', got to have faith kinda gal.
You will always refer to me as Ma’am. As your immersion progresses, you may
wish to refer to me as Mistress, but I will never require that you do so. In
your daily life, you are to both dress and conduct yourself in a manner you
believe would be pleasing to me. You are to show kindness and consideration to
others routinely. You are never to argue with me, but you are both free and
encouraged to express your thoughts and feelings. It is my role to instruct you
and your role to submit to my instruction. Your behavior is to always conform
to your role.
The Six Basic Skills of True Submission
You are to review these six basic skills closely and strive to put them into
practice as best as you are able. These form the bedrock of your submissive
experience.
1. Honesty:
2. Submissiveness:
3. Intelligence 4. Devotion:
5. Communication
6: Self Respect. Above all else BE REAL! Have a Brain
and know how to use it. This " My dreams are Your dreams Mistress"
crap is for the birds. Even in this lifestyle we are all individuals! I do NOT put up with passive
aggressive whinny bullshit. Save the drama for your momma! Understand, that more than likely you
are not my only pet and more than likely never will be. I will, however treat you like the
prized pet you are. It is my job to help you in any way I can. I will help you
explore your limits. I will help you find your boundaries. I will help you
apply the lifestyle skills you learn to every day life. I want to help you be
the best person you can be in ALL aspects of your world.
1/30/2010 3:48:07 PM
I really need a new fuck toy...
1/22/2010 9:37:42 PM
I put up some new pics.. the short haired ones I just took today.
1/21/2010 4:57:51 PM
This really resonates with Me today
"I Will Never Be The Same"
So you walked with me for a while
Bared your naked soul
And you told me of your plan
How you would never let them know
In the morning of the night
You cried a long lost child
And I tried on I tried to hold you
But you were young
And you were wild
But I, I will never be the same
Oh I, I will never be the same
Caught in your eyes
Lost in your name
I will never be the same
Secrets of your life
I never wanted for myself
But you guarded them like a lie
Placed up on the highest shelf
In the morning of the night
When I woke to find you gone
I knew your distant devil
Must be draggin' you along
But I, I will never be the same
Oh I, I will never be the same
Caught in your eyes
Lost in your name
I will never be the same
And you swore that you were bound for glory
And for wanting you had no shame
But I loved you
And then I lost you
And I will never be the same
But I, I will never be the same
Oh I, I will never be the same
Caught in your eyes
Lost in your name
I will never be the same
1/18/2010 3:32:05 PM
Things one should know about ~Goddess~
I do not get bored
I am HAPPILY married
I am very spiritual
I am very Dominant
I am very real
I am ornery
I am stubborn
I am sadistic
I am sensual
I love new friends
I am a flaming RED HEAD
I am Polyamorous
I am a Domme
I love My ropes
I hand make Floggers
I love My canes
I love to read
I am a blogging fool
I love to camp
I am a poet
I am passion
I am raw
I am intense
I am complicated
I am contrary
I am compassionate
I am the NICEST EVIL BITCH you will EVER meet!
1/15/2010 1:07:50 PM
An exert from Take Me as I am... My new Mantra !
If you want it
Come and get it
If you want it,
come and get it but understand
_ You take me as I am _
I'm slow to trust but I'm quick to love
I push too hard and I give too much
I ain't saying I'm perfect,
but I promise I'm worth it
If you want it
Come and get it
If you want it,
come and get it but understand
_ You take me as I am _
1/15/2010 11:21:17 AM
I really just want to kick fate square in the shin! I had a beautiful
boy that was everything I had ever dreamed of as a submissive/slave. He
showed Me what I wanted and what I could have. He made Me want to be a
better Domme and a better person. Then fate being the fickle bitch that
she is .. yanked it all away....kind of a neener neener neener...Now
back at square one, Still wanting to be a better Domme and person, I go
on. To the submissive man, who gave Me a better sense of My Domme self,
I thank you and say Namaste! My all of your dreams, needs and desires
find you!
~Goddess~
1/13/2010 11:00:56 PM
I wish you enough sun
to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain
to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness
to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain
so that the smallest joys in life
appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain
to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss
to appreciate all you possess.
I wish you enough hellos
to get you through the final goodbye.
I have found a beautiful boy. Now to find a little girl to round out My household. Hubby and I are looking for a little girl, preferable a middle. Some one with some spunk and a bratty streak to keep things interesting. I f you have your shit together and want to be part of something wonderful.... send Me a message
10/16/2009 11:06:28 AM
Let Me make this as clear as possible..... sissy boys need not apply! I like strong masculine men, who are normally in charge of their every day lives. There is no sport or joy in dominating a doormat. A Strong virile man on his knees, giving way to his need of having a strong woman take control is what I seek!
9/30/2009 2:44:00 PM
I was stood up once again by a subbie boy.
I have to say if you do not have the balls or gumption to meet Me don’t waste My time! Anything on these sites starts with a coffee date. My Husband will ALWAYS be with Me on said date. I do not have people I do not know in My home. I meet all potential subs in a public place of My choosing. I want to be able to size you up before I invite you into My home.
Honestly what is so hard about this ? If you can’t do something as simple as keep a date, how am I to believe that you will serve Me well?
As a Domme I find it very disrespectful As a person I find it just plain rude. What has happened to manners and common courtesy?
9/20/2009 11:11:24 AM
My Grand
Mother passed away yesterday. I am not sure how to say goodbye. She is
My Hero, The Greatest Lady I have ever known. She save My life when I
was young, in more ways than one. When I was 15 years old , I hated Me
, I hated the world, and She changed all that for Me. She sat Me down
in front of a mirror every day for a year. She made Me look into that
mirror and tell Myself that I was spacial, made Me tell Myself that I
was one of a kind, made Me tell Myself that was worthy of all of My
dreams. I use to say that I wish I had the strength that She carried in
her little pinky, upon moving out here I realized I had that strength.
I left everything I had ever known to start a new life in the great
state of Washington. The last time I went home to see My Grand Mother
she told Me that she was very proud of Me, and she thought I was the
bravest person she had ever known. I will hold this in My heart for as
long as I live. This Grand Lady is who I look up to. Her Love, Her
strength, Her conviction, Her compassion, Her Stubbornness, Her pride,
Her will to survive against all odds is what I aspire to... I hope I
continue to make Her proud I love you Granny... and I will miss you
greatly.... I am not sure how I will make it knowing that I can't just
call you and hear your voice, hear your words of wisdom, hear your
encouragement, hear your love....
Good journey, I know you are home now.
12/31/2008 1:26:45 PM
Hubby and I are looking for new subbies, boys, girls or both. Just looking for a good fit as friends and maybe more
5/3/2008 9:32:06 PM
Well I am boyless once again... still not sure what happened with the last one....I really liked him..saw the potential for a long beautiful D/s relationship... guess I saw too much in it .....
4/27/2008 11:20:35 AM
Ugggggg! Life is "Funny" sometimes. I have an open marriage. Well We
are trying to have an open marriage anyway. Neither of us is
monogamous…. any way I have spent the last couple of months going
through hell, dealing with issues of jealousy, insecurity, and
intimacy. We have been hammering out what all this means to each of us.
Well
this all came about because I found a boy that I really liked. He fit
Me in every way. He was submissive, passionate, funny, and witty. I
enjoyed Myself so much. I knew it would not last forever, was not
looking for it to do so. I did however think it would last longer than
this. I thought that the boy was worth pushing the issues mentioned
above.
Now the boy is telling Me that all of this is getting to
be “too hard”. He is not getting enough out of O/our relationship….
What the fuck am I suppose to do with that? I mean good god damned!
Give it some time…. We have only been seeing each other for 2 months…I
was out of state for 2 weeks of this. Then the boy got sick.. so that
is another weekend gone. So W/we really have not even had time to
explore anything.
I am just bewildered, hurt, and down right pissed off! It feels that I have been in the bowls of hell for nothing!
Anyway I am really needing some feed back.....
3/1/2008 12:29:56 PM
I will be out of town for a couple of weeks... show Me some love while I am gone!
2/25/2008 12:14:48 PM
It seems I have found the boy of My dreams. W/we are taking the time to see where things go. I am not taking on any new boys at this time. New friends are always welcome. Lady K
1/15/2008 1:27:20 PM
Houseboy duties and requirements:
Cleaning
Cooking
Running errands
Taking care of My needs, what ever that may be.
Must like pain!
Must like chastity and or denial
Must be very submissive
Must be willing to do ANYTHING I say.
Must never whine
Must have your own income
Must have a car & license
Must be available at least 1 day a week
Must be lifestyle oriented
1/7/2008 4:33:25 PM
A link to My amazon wishlist for those who keep asing
I am not here to be what your fantasies tell you a Mistress
should be.
I am not here to serve you
I am not here to be your “get me off girl”
I am not looking for a soul mate … I have one
I am not a bitch… but I can be
I am not your typical FemDom
I am a FemDom, none the less
I will not play with you the first time W/we meet.
I like to see if you are worth My time.
If I can’t just hang with you… I will not play with you.
I do not do the online crap… it does nothing for Me
9/6/2007 10:55:51 AM
What is it with these blank profiles ? If you wish to be in My service or have a need for My services... make sure that your profile has pictures, and info .....
6/20/2007 9:21:47 PM
Fill this out honestly and completely if you wish to be in My service.
Name:
Age:
Weight & Height:
Bust size (girls) / Penis size (boys):
Eye & Hair Color:
Which are you Submissive / Slave:
Location:
Orientation:
Email address:
Marital status:
Able to travel:
Education level:
Employment:
Income level:
Skills/talents:
Able to tribute (gifts / money) Mistress time is precious, if you want My attention you have to be able to tribute Me for it:
Answer the following, should Lady K require you for entertainment.
I am available to serve most often at this time and on these days:
I have a web cam/digital camera:
Are willing to take pics with it to prove you did what I ordered you too:
Length of time available for sessions:
Toys, play clothing and bondage items you own:
Living situation (alone / with others but with own room/no privacy):
I have served before:
In what capacity (be as specific as possible):
Do you have references for:
1) Financial Slavery
2) Online slavery
3) Real life slavery/service
If so, provide them.
What dreams / fantasies do you wish to realize under My ownership of you :
Are you willing to be told how to Dress?: For how long:
What is it you love about Me:
Why should I take you in:
Willingness to obey (be specific):
Do you have any lingerie:
What are your limits (be very specific):
Be Specific
I LOVE to:
I am willing to:
I am unable to (with all apologies but I WAS instructed to be honest...):
If, perhaps, Lady Karma ever thought I should deserve a reward or punishment, my favorite reward is...... and worst punishment:
6/13/2007 1:00:25 PM
Dominant's Creed Author Unknown Above all else a Dom/me
cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift the
submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all. A Dom/me is
demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Them, but
knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift. A Dom/me is in control of Themselves first and foremost, so that They may control others. As a stern and demanding Dom/me, They can cause Their submissive to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character. In
times of trouble, a Dom/me will leave the roles behind, to be a
supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a
loving relationship between two caring individuals. A Dom/me is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. A Dom/me would never ask a submissive to put Them before their career, or family, just to satisfy Their own pleasure. To win a submissive's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Dom/me knows They must first win their trust. A Dom/me will show Their submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. A
Dom/me must always show them that Their guidance and tutoring is
knowledgeable and deserving of their attention, that this is a person
they can learn from, and that they can trust Their direction. A Dom/me is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, They will fight for Their submissive's honor. A Dom/me proves to their submissive that They are someone they can lean on, and depend on. When it comes time to teach Their submissive their lessons of obedience, They are a strong and unyielding professor. A Dom/me will accept no flaw. Nothing less than perfection from Their student. Never
does a Dom/me use discipline without a good reason. When They do punish
Their submissive, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. A Dom/me is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear Their submissive's wants and needs. A
Dom/me is patient; taking time to learn Their submissive's limits, and
knowing that as their trust of Them grows, so will they. A Dom/me
never has to demand ritual behavior from Their submissive. Their
submissive responds to Them out of the want of pleasing Them.
Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of
punishment. A Dom/me understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Them. A
Dom/me is secure enough to laugh at Themselves and the absurdities of
life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. A Dom/me's tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. A Dom/me understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other. And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.
6/13/2007 12:57:45 PM
Submissive Etiquette ( What I demand)
You will always refer to me as Ma’am. As
your immersion progresses, you may wish to refer to me as Mistress, but
I will never require that you do so. In your daily life, you are to
both dress and conduct yourself in a manner you believe would be
pleasing to me. You are to show kindness and consideration to others
routinely. You are never to argue with me, but you are both free and
encouraged to express your thoughts and feelings. It is my role to
instruct you and your role to submit to my instruction. Your behavior
is to always conform to your role.
The Six Basic Skills of True Submission
You
are to review these six basic skills closely and strive to put them
into practice as best as you are able. These form the bedrock of your
submissive experience.
1. Honesty: Without honesty, there can
be no trust. Without trust, true D/s cannot exist. You must pledge
yourself to be purely honest with me in every conceivable way, as I
must pledge the same to you. If you have questions about what I expect
of you, be honest and speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking
questions respectfully, and is much preferable to remaining ignorant.
If you are asked to do something which you somehow are just plain
unable to do, it is vitally important that you tell me, as opposed to
lying to me.
2. Submissiveness: You are here to learn to
submit. You have petitioned me to accept power over you, and I have
accepted. You are to be polite, compliant, and to show me the respect I
have earned. You are to strive daily to make your submission to me
total, complete, and pure.
3. Intelligence: Your petition was
accepted because you are an intelligent woman. I expect your
intelligence to act as the engine that drives your submissive
development.
4. Devotion: You must always exhibit deep
devotion, both to me as your Dominant and to the promises you made in
your contract. You are to be attentive to my every nuance and sensitive
to my mood. If I have to tell you two times that you are to do
something a specific way, it gives me the impression that you are not
thinking, or just don't care. This is not at all pleasing. Put some
thought and creativity into your service. Listen when I tell you my
hopes and dreams, and try to fulfill my desires. Be observant and
respond quickly when I ask you for your thoughts or feelings.
5.
Communication: Dominants are not psychics. While I try my best to be
sensitive to your needs, I cannot read your mind. I would much rather
have you tell me your fantasies so I put that information to use when I
choose, than have to guess. I don't like to play with subs that
constantly say "Whatever pleases you, Ma’am". If you are not enjoying
it, chances are I won't be enjoying it, either. Respond quickly when I
ask you for your thoughts or feelings, and commit yourself to never
keeping anything from me.
6: Self Respect. Value yourself, and
I will value you too. There is no thrill in dominating a doormat, or
someone that thinks so little of themselves they will submit to anyone
at anytime.
5/30/2007 10:00:13 PM
My apologies... I did not know the last entery would be so scrunched up
5/30/2007 9:59:20 PM
10 Qualities That Make A Good Mistress by Lapp Topp
Here are some qualities I think are found in a good Mistress. As always, YMMV.
1.
Control. Above all, a good Mistress is always in control of herself.
She does not rant or rave, and never punishes when angry. On the rare
times that temper overwhelms her, she walks away until she regains
balance. After all, how can a Domme control her sub if she can't
control herself?
2. Creative. A good Dominant puts time, energy
and creativity in her scenes. She is not satisfied playing the same
games over and over, and goes the extra length to come up with new and
different ideas.
3. Human. The best Mistress knows she is human.
She realizes she will make mistakes, and is quick to apologize when she
does. She knows she won't be thought of as any less "Dommly" because of
an apology. On the flip side, she realizes that others will make
mistakes also, and even though she may punish for the mistake, she
accepts an apology graciously and puts the event in the past.
4.
Compassionate. A good Mistress is compassionate. She cares about her
sub(s), friends and family. She takes time to listen and respond to the
needs of others. She isn't selfish and doesn't have the illusion that
the world revolves around her.
5. Technique. A good Domme works
on her play technique. She knows how to use her toys and practices
frequently. She reads the latest books and talks to others in the
scene. An effective Mistress tests her toys on herself before she uses
them on her sub.
6. Consistent. The best FemmeDom is consistent
in her instructions and requests. She doesn't give her sub conflicting
commands. She delivers equal punishment for equal offenses, and equal
rewards when pleased. She is firm in her direction and does not waiver
when faced with a difficult situation.
7. Thorough. An effective
Dominant is thorough. She directs a scene from start to finish to
better allow her sub to achieve headspace. She takes away all
distractions and decisions...telling her sub what position she desires,
what needs she wants fulfilled, and how this is best accomplished.
8.
Respectful. A good Mistress respects herself and others. She strives to
always project herself in the best possible light, and expects the same
from her submissives. She is well-groomed, and takes pride in her
looks. She takes good care of her toys and equipment.
9. Safe. A
Domme worth playing with is safe. She is aware of the damage she can
cause a submissive and does her best to prevent harm. She knows
first-aid and attends classes periodically to keep herself updated.
10.
Communication. A good Domme is an effective communicator. She says what
she means, and means what she says. She is specific and chooses her
words carefully. She doesn't rant, nag or whine because she knows this
shows a lack of control. She states instructions in a clear,
easy-to-understand manner.
8/14/2006 10:44:39 AM
Well it says not to critisize other users, so I won't use names. I just really have to say I HATE FLAKES!!!! It is beyand rude to say you are going to be somewhere, then not show. It is even more rude, not to call or IM or anything, when you don't show. It saddens Me greatly, and shows you have NO respect what so ever......
8/9/2006 11:44:25 AM
This is for all the little subs. I will not come to you and ask if you will be my pet. If you want me as your Mistress, you will come to me. If you truly want me as your Maam, you will come to me on your knees with proper gift in hand. I could be something you think I might need. It could be something you want me to use on you, or it could be something to adorn your Mistress. I do NOT put up with passive aggressive whinny bullshit. Save the drama for your momma! I expect honest open communication. If you like something Tell me if you dont tell me. I will do the same! If there is something you are interested in exploring. We will talk about it and see where to go from there. Understand, that more than likely you are not my only pet and more than likely never will be. I will, however treat you like the prized pet you are. It is my job to help you in any way I can. I will help you explore your limits. I will help you find your boundaries. I will help you apply the lifestyle skills you learn to every day life. I want to help you be the best person you can be in ALL aspects of your world. With all of this said, hopefully there will be fun had by all. I am not looking for a 24/7 sub. I want friends that like to be beat on Tee Hee!
