Among the things in life I most dislike, filling out profiles is near the top, so please bear with me through this.

About me: I am single. I have never been married or engaged, nor do I have children as of yet. I have a quirky sense of humor. Unfortunately, most people don't get my jokes, and most jokes aren't funny if they need an explanation. I have a tendency to reference obscure movies and books, and to really ‘get it’ you would have to have read the same books or seen the same movies. So a person with similar tastes in these things would be ideal. I have a tendency to be shy and reserved with people I do not know well, traits that are sometimes mistaken for a submissive nature by people in the scene. This is absolutely their mistake. Once I get comfortable in a situation, I can be quite flirty and outgoing.

Don't expect me to give out intimate details about my life and myself immediately. I am still shy and that level of trust takes some time to build up, especially in this medium. Please, do ask questions. Though I may refuse to answer, I will not resent any curiosity. Please accept my refusal to answer a question as the timing not being right for that particular question to be addressed.

I will not be posting a picture for three reasons: 1) I do not have a digital picture of myself to upload, so I cannot send one with an email either. 2) I am shy, and even if I had one, I wouldn't put it in my profile for just anyone to see. 3) I do not want to have appearances be the focus of a new relationship. My picture is not my personality, appearances are fleeting and the quality of my character is much more enduring. Even if I had a picture posted for the world to admire, you could never be absolutely sure it was even me, so I am eliminating the question about pictures at this time.

What am I here for? In the short-term, I am looking for friends of any persuasion. I am also searching for 'Ms Right' for a long term, and hopefully life-long relationship.

In search of friends: I've checked of quite a few things on the 'interests' section. I don't expect anyone to match it completely. I have filled it out in hopes that those 'looking for friends' will find some common interests with me. Potential friends can be submissive, dominant, switches, or vanilla; male, female, or transgendered or of any ethnic background.

About you: Who is ‘Ms Right’? She’s hard for me to describe, because what I am looking for seems to vary for from day to day. Some things do stay constant though. She must be a non-smoker and I prefer a non-drinker too. She must be drug and STD free. And she must be honest. Honesty is not negotiable.

I think I can best describe her personality as the 'alpha female' to my 'alpha male'. She can terrorize the rest of the world, but defers to me in the home. I view submission as a gift, and one to be cherished. Someone that submits to just anyone and/or everyone doesn't treat that gift with the respect I believe it deserves.

I want someone who can and will hold intelligent conversations with me, and who is willing to disagree with me. I will admit I am wrong, if you can show me I am wrong. And I am wrong quite frequently.

Ms. Right will be someone who will be my friend, my lover, my partner, my spouse, and the mother of my children. Someone I can treat as a lady (and knows how to behave like one) in public, yet is shameless and enthusiastic in the bedroom (or the kitchen, or the basement, or the garage, or the living room, or maybe even the backyard...). If she is more successful than I, or more intelligent, or both, I can deal with that.

I am partial to women with long black hair, especially women of oriental descent, but that is more of a 'turn-on' than a requirement. With the right attitude, red-heads and blondes can be equally alluring. I would like a woman with a mind-blowing body and looks (I'm human). However, a mind-blowing personality is much more important to me. I would prefer someone younger than myself, but would not immediately exclude someone just because she was older.

Since I am writing out my ‘Things I Would Like...’ list, I admit that I have the juvenile male fantasy of having multiple lovers/wives. It is just that, a fantasy. I am willing to discuss poly-amorous relationships, but I am somewhat possessive. I don't share well with others, so it would be unfair of me to expect Ms Right to share me with someone else. Oh yes, a gourmet in the kitchen would be outstanding, but there I am just being greedy and looking for the 'total package'.

A note on honesty: If you are married, attached, or separated but not divorced, please be honest about it. Lying about something as integral as that is a very bad way to start any relationship and just sets the whole thing up for failure.

The ‘Scene’/'Lifestyle'. I am a gentle dominant. Inflicting pain is the last thing I want to do. I can inflict pain in the right situation, but I am not sadistic by nature, so I do not take pleasure from it for its own sake. I'd much rather touch and caress than flog and scratch. I have been involved in the local BDSM scene, but it has been a few years since I was really active and my experience since then has been rather limited. Real time experience with BDSM has been somewhat limited as well. I may need some education on the finer points of bondage, or the use of various toys. This may seem like a drawback to some, but I view it as a blessing. I don't have any bad play habits to 'unlearn' along the way and your preferences and tolerances will be thoroughly explored from the beginning, never assumed. Like everyone else, I do have my limits; we can explore the edges of our limits together.

Am I looking for a 24x7 Total Power Exchange? Probably not, but I have also never been involved in one before. I couldn’t, at this point, say 'yes' or 'no' with absolute certainty. It is possible that I do not have a realistic view of how one works. Am I willing to consider it? Yes, with MUCH discussion beforehand.

Do not expect me to make all your decisions for you. I have enough on my plate making all MY decisions. I could micromanage someone, but that's a full time job, and I already have one of those. I prefer something a bit more relaxed and playful. Never-ending lists of 'rules' to memorize and follow means I have to memorize and police them too, and that’s just not fun on a full time basis. I prefer to provide guidelines to create a structure to the relationship, rather than a law book.