Above all I'm looking for respect. A sub who respects me as a person and as a Dom. This life is how I want to live. I am a Dom, not just an asshole using the title as an excuse to abuse women. I've met and talked to subs who have absolutely no self respect and set no limits. I can't respect a woman like that. She is a toy to be used and abused and thrown away because that is all she sets for herself. The sub that I want to spend my time with is a person who has enough self respect to know when to say the safe word. She is strong when she needs to be and doesn't have to be told what to do when things need to be done.

I also want an intelligent sub. Someone that I can actually talk with and enjoy her company. When you can't have that, its just about sex and D/s and I don't believe that alone can hold up a relationship. She also needs to have a sense of humor and playfulness. I enjoy laughing and want to be with someone that isn't going to bring me down when I'm in a good mood.

I also would like that she have a sense of adventure. I love to travel although I don't have nearly enough time to do so. I enjoy having new experiences, trying new foods, seeing new things and want someone to do all of that with, and who enjoys it as well, when its possible.

As far as play I want someone with at least a moderate threshold to pain. I'm a bit of a sadist and can get a bit rough. I don't want her to have a huge pain tolerance because honestly I want it to hurt as well as feel good. I need to have a woman that can swallow. That seems to be a small thing to some but it the single most erotic thing a woman can do. To take a part of me into herself without the risk of unplanned pregnancy. And there is just something so deliciously slutty about it. I have a huge sex drive and want a woman who matches that. I don't want it to always be about me taking what I want. I want her to enjoy it as well, and enjoy it often.