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Hello - and thank you for the view.
What am I looking for?
I seek an unattached (single, divorced, widowed, i.e. not romantically involved), emotionally intelligent, dynamically diverse, upbeat, optimistic, self-motivated, creative, interesting man who is an effective communicator, has a sense of humor, and a curious nature. Ideally, you live within 4 hours of me, which includes Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, and Vermont.
Who am I?
I am a Manager, a mother of 2 boys, a wife, a student, a mentor, a board member, a PTO Mom. I am an upbeat, light-hearted, curious, optimistic, intelligent, educated, and sometimes downright zany spirit. Day to day I bear a lot of responsibility and juggle more in 2 hours than some do all day long. I love life. I love learning. I love exploring.
Those closest to me at home would describe me as occasionally silly (a natural consequence with having two boys under the age of 7), capable, responsible, strong, rock-solid and steady. Those who know me at work call me responsible, dependable, a leader, self-motivated, self-driven, thorough, precise, someone to talk to, a superb multi-tasker and a technical "whiz".
I bear a quiet intensity. I assess, I think, and I find solutions. I am a glass-half-full kind of person and I enjoy all the greats: company, music, friends, food, and atmosphere. I laugh easily and am capable at laughing at myself.
On the “inside”, I am quiet, a bit reserved, observant, and a people watcher. I love conversation, whether it is heated and opinionated or more calmly theoretical. I like attending social events, but I’m the lady who will remain close to her partner’s side, head up, with a ready, welcoming smile and firm, purposeful handshake. I speak when spoken to and I speak when I have something to contribute or say. Otherwise, I am content to listen, learn, and absorb. I like to look into a person’s eyes. The manner in which a person holds your gaze in return, and the body language they use when they do so, speaks a lot about a person’s nature and character.
In life, I appreciate honest, genuine, people who aren’t afraid to speak their minds or say how they feel, and they do it in a way that is not hurtful or judgmental to others. A person who communicates well in the written and spoken word often is the first to capture my attention. I admire a curious spirit, ready to try new things, willing to think outside the box, able to accept the opinions of others without their own being threatened. I am drawn to strong, stable, secure, emotionally content, positive thinking men.
I think of myself as passionate, but not in the all-consuming, raging fire sort of way. Mine is a deeper, longer-lasting, softer – but no less potent kind of passion. I care very deeply about those people I hold close to heart. I care a lot about living life on this earth in a way that helps preserve it rather than deteriorate it. I care about ethics and solid moral code, trust, being true to spirit and self and others. I care about investing more of my time and energy in fewer people and events and having a deeper impact than spreading my energies to the 4 winds and accomplishing little.
I have been active in my submission for 13 years, but I have known I am submissive since the age of 6. I am more or less innately obedient, I strive to please, and the words “good girl” strike at something deep within. Of course, this aching desire to please is a little more complicated today than it was back then, because I’ve lived life, learned lessons about myself and others, and am more solid in knowing who I am and what I want than I was at the tender age of 7 and 8. Because of the very assertive and dominant mode in which I must operate in day to day life, the submissive within gets pushed down pretty deep and she doesn’t get to see the light of day very often. When opportunities arise and fresh air can blow over her wings, she slowly, but resolutely, takes flight. The speed and height of ascension has much to do with the personality and energy of my Dominant.
There are many talented dominant men in the world, but as most of we submissives know, finding that special One who compliments and augments your own nature can be hard to find. For me, Dominance and submission isn’t just about how well you can swing a flogger or tie someone up. If that were true, I’d have found someone to spank me and send me home by now. But that’s not what I’m looking for.
I seek a special, inspiring, magnetic, and mind-fuzzing chemistry with my Dominant. Of course this kind of energy can take time to develop. I don’t expect it overnight. But I’ll know the possibility exists because he and I will “get” one another pretty quickly. Conversation will come quickly, easily, and be diverse. He’ll have a sense of humor and appreciate my scientific mind. He’ll demonstrate that he enjoys getting to know me as much as I do him. I desire a Dominant who appreciates my quiet strength and intelligence, intensity, and smoldering passion, and who will challenge us to new heights together.
I am not seeking a romantic relationship, I am not seeking to marry or to have more children. I do not need a lover. I am happy in my marriage. I am, however, seeking a long-term relationship that is characterized by steady, routine interaction and intense emotions, as well as loyalty, friendship and growth. My husband knows of my nature and my search and he supports me in it. He identifies as a switch and he has his own partner of 4 years now. We are not unhappy in our marriage. We are simply more non-conventional in our view of exploring outside the marriage. We have honestly come to understand that in this unique need of dominance and submission, we cannot fulfill each other’s needs.
I'm real, I'm honest, and I'm here. If you are interested, I encourage you to reach out and we'll see if there is a fit.
The man I seek has a dominant polarity that is simply a part of who he is. He has simply always borne a confident, solid, assured, effective, resolute manner. People close to him consider him dependable, rock-solid, caring, and much to my chagrin, he’s probably a busy business professional who finds it challenging to find time in his schedule. Yet, the call to this power is as strong for him as it is for me, and perhaps if all aligns well, it will be easy to make the time we need.
I seek a Dominant whose purpose and intent won’t be swayed when the sweet tears of release drip down my cheeks. A man who won’t hesitate to twine his fist in my hair, pull my head back, and deliver a blistering, hot kiss. A man who will learn and respect the present limits of my mind and body, but at each step of growth not be afraid to explore new heights. A Dominant who appreciates that when the mind and emotions are fully engaged and aroused, physical response on all levels becomes pure bliss.
I have a full and happy life, but I am out of balance. I am seeking my Dominant partner who will help restore that balance. He won’t be someone I make an appointment with to “play”. I am interested in developing and sustaining a connection even when we’re not together. He’ll be a friend and confidante, someone who becomes an important and cherished part of my life (as I hope I would be or him). He won’t ever feel like he has to “fit in” with the rest of my life. He’ll be welcomed with openness, not just by me, but by my husband as well (as weird as that sounds, its true – and my husband is a good man many count lucky to have as a friend).
And though I have a very busy and full life, there is plenty of room for that special One.
This was long, but I like anyone who contacts me to have a sense of who I am up front. I think it just makes things easier. Thank you for taking the time to read it.
If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to reach out.
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