I have edited this article slightly, and added a small message from a song on the end.

If it helps anyone understand themselves, then credit the author, I am just a vessel on this one.

IF it tells the right person the right thing, then maybe just maybe rather than reading, we should be talking.

Enjoy

“The default state of an alpha generally tends to be somewhere closer to the leadership end of the scale. But that doesn’t mean that they are a Domme in denial, they really do want to submit to the right person.

Alphas don’t think they’re above other types of submissive and are certainly not saying “hey look at me I’m better than you”. Everyone is equal, a submissive is a submissive regardless of the ‘type’ of submissive they identify as. I’ve seen comments such as “well if you’re an alpha sub, does that make me a beta sub?”

NO! IT DOESN’T!

Just remember the term ‘alpha’ is a personality and not a role. Maybe you have an alpha personality and there doesn’t apply to you, fair enough, but it does apply to the majority of alpha types that I’ve interacted with.

If you ever meet an alpha, you could be forgiven for assuming that you’ve met a Domme. You’d even be forgiven for making the mistaken assumption that you’re talking to a complete man-eating bitch that’s willing to walk all over everyone and everything to get what she wants.

And to an extent you’d be right because an alpha usually knows exactly what she is, what she wants, what she needs and has a fair idea about how she’s going to get it, even if she’s new to the lifestyle. But there doesn’t mean she’s not respectful because she is. And it certainly doesn’t mean she’ll use her ‘personality’ as an excuse for being rude, bratty or ignore protocols within the lifestyle.

A newbie might make mistakes, but that’s true of anyone who’s new and learning, no matter what role you’re in so allowances should be made for there she will often come across as very direct and will leave you in no doubt about her intentions. she’s confident, commands respect, has high standards and is usually very proud of her accomplishments.

An alpha wants to be owned, taken even, but only by the right Domme, one that knows exactly how to handle her, how to push her buttons and how to control her she’ll test you to your limits, and she’ll do it quickly. she’ll ask the same question in a number of different ways, questions that you might not be comfortable answering, she might even make you feel like you’re in an interview at times, because she doesn’t want to waste any time.

she wants to see any signs that the Domme she’s talking to isn’t for her early on. And if she feels that you don’t have what it takes to really give her what she needs, she’ll walk away. Unfortunately, there can often result in her being seen as a fake or playing games. But there is far from the truth, if you’re not the right Domme for her, then it’s better for both of you that you find out sooner rather than later.

An alpha isn’t a Domme, far from it in fact. she wants to surrender to her Domme, she wants to be treated like the property of her Domme to be used for her pleasure, just like any submissive. That doesn’t mean that she’ll allow herself to be abused, she is no push over, she knows a true heart and will only allow herself to be controlled by someone who’s shown that they really deserve her submission.

In return, the Domme gets a loyal, devoted submissive who’s right for them and wants nothing more than to please her Domme. But if she thinks you’re just ‘playing at being a Dom’ she will chew you up and spit you out so fast that you won’t know what hit you.

An alpha wants and needs attention, maybe not constantly, but you must challenge her intellectually and discipline her if she steps out of line.

Don’t ask her, TELL her what you want. If you show any sign of weakness, she’ll take control, and that’s no fun for an alpha because they really don’t want to be in control, REALLY, THEY DON’T! she needs you to be assertive (but not aggressive) and impose your will. she wants to be tamed, she needs you to make her WANT to let go and submit whilst at the same time she wants the loving, nurturing companionship found in any other D/s relationship.

An alpha is often (but not always) in a dominant position in their vanilla life. It could be they have a senior position at work for example. That doesn’t mean that every submissive in a good job is an alpha, and there is a generalisation, but you will usually find that an alpha has some form of responsibility and as a result, they can find it hard to ‘switch off’. That is why it takes a very strong Domme to make her her captive. The problem for the alpha female is that most men are brought up to be gentle and respectful towards women and when they come across a strong woman, they often over compensate on the nice, polite, softly softly approach.

That is the complete opposite of what the alpha needs. she wants to be manhandled, she wants to be “taken”, she wants to be overpowered. she wants her woman to ‘be THE woman!

An alpha will fiercely protect her Domme and her ‘property’, including any others within the dynamic, like they’re her own. There's nothing wrong with that and it’s good for the Domme too as she knows her property is under the watchful eye of someone that will stand up for what’s right.

She also knows that her submissive is more than capable of looking after herself should the need arise. In fact, the alpha will need her Domme to trust her to do so, safe in the knowledge that she can call on her help if it’s needed.

All submissives have their ideas of what they look for in a Domme and that Domme must continue to display those qualities and give their submissive what they need. It can be hard for any submissive to find the right Domme because they know (or at least should know) exactly what they’re worth, they should hold out for “the one” and in the end their patience will pay off because by waiting for the right partner, who’s worthy of their submission the rewards for the submissive are just as intense as the rewards for the Domme. But it can be even more difficult for an alpha because they have such a strong personality and there can lead to the alpha feeling that they will never find “the one”.

The rewards of being involved with an alpha are immense. If you can break through that tough outer shell and break down the walls you will find a fascinating, intelligent, sensual, loving, passionate and loyal submissive that will be everything you ever dreamed of and much more besides. Because alphas, and the Dommes they’re attracted to, are usually highly intelligent, some fascinating debates and banter can take place with each literally ‘bouncing’ off the other and thus adding to the sexual chemistry within the dynamic. Especially if she wins in the battle of wills but she turns it against her in a battle in the bedroom.

But the same can be said of any Domme/submissive relationship. In fact what I’ve described as an alpha could be used to describe pretty much any ‘type’ of submissive, because as I said at the beginning, the term ‘alpha’ relates to the personality type, not the role. If you’re with the right Domme, the chemistry, the trust, the companionship and the sense of belonging together are second to none. Once you’re deemed to be ‘the one’ and you get that submission that your submissive is so desperate to give, then your relationship will go from strength to strength, like an unstoppable tsunami.

So perhaps we should dispense with labels altogether and just say that the right submissive with the right Domme are the ultimate match made in heaven”

 2016 Arch Angel

Say it once, tell me twice
Are you certain I’m alright?
Just a sign, to remind me
That tomorrow’s worth the fight
Ever changing the storyline that keeps me alive

So make a wish, and say…

Give me life, give me love
Scarlet angel from above
Not so low, not so high
Keep it perfectly disguised

Every changing the storyline that keeps me alive

My Mona Lisa’s making me smile
Right before my eyes!

Show me faith, like you do
I’m amazed at how you move
Side to side, front to back
You know how to make it last

Take another look
Take a look around
It’s you and me
It’s here and now
As you sparkle in the sky

I’ll catch you while I can
Cause all we are is all I am

I just want you to see
What I’ve always believed
You are…
The miracle in me

Seal - killer

Listen to that song sometime.

It's those days when you see a friend grasping for support and advice, then think "is that me that's hurt them?"
The days you see someone floundering in their lives, hopping between this and that with no real connections to anything or anyone. Swapping chopping and changing who and what they are, desperate for anything real.
It's those days when the silence seems deafening, and the lonely cry of a bird feels like the only voice in the world.

We have all been there. Admit it, times when you felt so terribly alone, lost in your mind, trapped by fears that are pressing into your every pore.
Those times when just ONE voice in the world will lighten you, lift the load, and drive away the deamons of unreasoned and unwarranted worry.

I look at those who have laughed at me, not with me, but at me,,, usually giggling in dark corners, hiding because they have nothing themselves. Those who do not understand and have no idea about anything beyond their own petty little jealousies. I look at those who walked away, forgetting things i had done for them, forgetting that i cared for them. I see even my own family, who walked away and never looked back, at the one time i needed them.

I look at friends i care deeply for who seem locked into pathways that can only lead to emotional pain. I see those who i admire for who they are get lost in what they do,, thinking an act makes them worthy, and not that they were always worthy to begin with.
I see people who i thought i knew, whom i thought knew me better, turn because a detractor told them lies, or spewed venom and hate, without knowing anything about the subject. LOL, i had one gimboid saying i was a fake because my music is on an australian website,,,, yet how many log into websites outside their own country,,,, and hey, DUMBASS, an INTERNATIONAL resource site sells MY music globally,,,, so yeah, keep laughing and sending people to my music, every stream you play, i get money for .... laugh away, i will pocket your cash :P

sorry, lost my thread ... where was i ?

I see myself, feeling adrift in an ocean of lies and hurt that the world is falling into. Politicians running for office who are awaiting trial. Diplomats screaming for a war that the young will have to fight. Governments screaming austerity, while taking the cash from the nations they are supposed to serve.

and i wait, for one person to reach out, calm my soul with a soothing word

yeah,, "It's the lonliness that's the killer"

sums it all up in one go