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CS is playing hide-n-seek with my profile, for some reason. If you want to contact me, visit me at FetLife-- only interested in conversing with smart, literate, obedient, LOCAL men. By local, I mean, permanently residing within 2 hours of Austin, Texas. If youre married or in a long-term relationship with someone who is unaware of your proclivities and activities, dont bother contacting me.I am a lifestyle Domme. I play for kicks. I am not a pro-Domme (though I know a few and they are lovely people), and I am not a sex worker.
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Don't mind me. I'm just doing my kinky librarian thing-- dishing out info on Austin's kink scene. Can't have boys wandering on their own, getting into mischief. |
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I always giggle when I see a profile with "professional man" listed. But when I think about it, perhaps there are some "amateur" men out there. Is there a credentialing body that oversees who can claim to be a pro? That question is going to keep me up for a while tonight. |
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When I encounter locals boys on Collarspace, I almost, always, invite them to Club Fem Austin functions. Club Fem is an international kink group with a focus on female dominants and submissive males. The Austin group has two "vanilla" socials each month, usually held at a cafe in Austin. There are also monthly play parties-- but one has to attend a social, fill out an application and undergo a brief interview with the Headmistress to be extended a party invitation.
If I approach you here and mention Club Fem, this group is what I'm talking about. That you would assume that Club Fem is some pay porn site or that I am a sex worker or FinDomme suggests to me that you have prejudices that are informed by deeply ingrained racial stereotypes or that you have really poor reading comprehension skills.
I hope to see more boys out at the Club Fem events the group has planned in coming months. It seems like it would be a no-brainer that you would want to go where the Dommes are, rather than spending countless hours bemoaning online about how you haven't found the Domme of your dreams, yet.
If you want more information about Club Fem, send me an email and I'll point you in the direction of more detailed information about the group.
Emme |
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Newspaper editor Arthur Brisbane is credited with saying, "A picture is worth a thousand words." I would say that is often the case. But I recently had to consider what thousand words my profile picture, here on CS, was saying about me. I thought I was playing it safe by just having a head shot, but apparently even that is enough to encourage unwanted comments.
And to be honest, the comments that bothered me the most were the ones that reflected what the viewer wanted to see and project onto me-- things that weren't necessarily true about who I am. I had a slight smile in my pic, so complimenting me on my smile was fine. I didn't get bent out of shape by someone saying I'm beautiful (there's no accounting for taste).
With one person, though, he would go on and on about how he saw such femininity in my picture. I didn't get it-- I mean, sure, it's obvious I'm a female, but where does the femininity come into it? Especially since I don't skew towards the "femmie."
I guess what mostly pissed me off is that the guy wouldn't lay off the feminine beauty crap, even after I explained that that isn't me, at all. I felt his continued behavior along those lines was just fetishizing me and I realized that the authentic person I am does not exist for him-- just his self-fueled fantasies.
If one wants to project their fantasies onto someone, perhaps they should seek the services of a Pro-Domme. Most of us who are lifestyle dominants want to be seen as the real, and fully realized, people we are. We don't want to be kink- or fantasy-dispensing machines; or, if we do want to play that role, we will tell you that is what we want. Without any prompting from you.
I'm going to put my picture up again, because I'm not ashamed of who I am, and I hope it shows that I am a "real" person-- whatever that means. I hope I no longer get comments that try to subvert my identity for one that is more appealing to the gazer.
We shall see. |
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The best conversations I've had on CM/CS have had nothing to do with BDSM. For me, it's not about the play, but the connections I make. I'm not going to be terribly inclined to move on to the play if I don't know much about how my play partner thinks and who he is. So, dearhearts, if I deign you worthy enough to engage in conversation, it may have very little to do with how stunning you look in pink panties or what size sound you want shoved up your urethra. At least until I get to know you a bit better. :-) |
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| Age: 21 |
| Atlanta,
Georgia |
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